What’s Holding Women Entrepreneurs Back More Than Men?

In working with the women in my MVP Clubs to release their subconscious blocks, I’ve been uncovering something I never expected to find in 2021.

At least not to the extent I’ve been seeing it.

Watch the video to find out more:

These are really amazing women: speakers, writers, consultants, artists, financial advisors, coaches and more. Women who are solos and women running teams. Women who keep going despite struggling financially at times and women who make multiple six figures consistently.

No matter what they are doing or where they are in their journey, they feel called to do more. Have more. Be more. Have a bigger impact.

And along the way they’ve been slowed down by their number one nemesis.

Themselves.

More specifically, by their subconscious.

And what’s been coming up a lot lately in our sessions has been a thread that I frankly didn’t expect to see.

At least, I didn’t expect to see it in these accomplished, intelligent, highly educated, capable and successful women.

What we’ve been uncovering is a deep strain of patriarchal rules holding them back.

Rules like:

  • “I can’t be more successful than the men in my life.”
  • “Women can’t be leaders.”
  • “I’m supposed to be taken care of by a man.”
  • “I should defer to a man.”
  • “Men make better decisions.”
  • “Men are smarter—or more effective—or better than women.”

And on and on.

Don’t get me wrong! None of these women accept any of these ideas consciously.

Consciously, we all say “F*** the Patriarchy” with conviction. (We actually have fun saying that in the group. Especially with conviction!)

Consciously we can and do reject these patriarchal ideas.

But when we go digging for the reasons someone has been holding herself back from growing her team, or raising her rates, or reaching out to that potential partner, or moving forward with the next project, up come some of these old chestnuts that most of us consciously rejected long ago.

Then we tap to neutralize them so they can’t do any more damage.

If you wonder if you might have some of those patriarchal messages rattling around in your subconscious, ask yourself:

  • What messages did you get growing up about the differences between men and women?
  • Which of those messages did you laugh about when you got older?
  • Or get mad at?
  • Or vehemently dismiss, saying “Not me. NEVER me.”

You’d be surprised at how many of those found your way into your subconscious.

Where they may be holding you back.

Here’s the trick. If they are in your subconscious, you probably still get a bit… irked when you think of them. That’s how you know they’re still there.

Really, if you react with anything other than a light-hearted chuckle, they are probably having some kind of effect on you.

Slowing you down.

Like they’d been slowing down my MVP-ers. At least, before we tapped and released them.

So I’m curious. What was the message about men and women you heard most growing up? Drop me an email to let me know!

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

Did 2020 Wake You Up?

A lot of people woke up to some significant realizations about themselves and their lives during the pandemic.

Now that the world is starting to open back up, we’re in danger of going back to sleep. Going back to the way our lives used to be.

I don’t want that for you.

Watch my video to find out how to “stay awake” and create the life you want.

We had some significant time for reflection over the past 15 months or so.

Time to think about:

  • How do I really want to live?
  • What am I really called to do with my life?
  • Why am I staying small—not doing what I know I’m here to do in a much bigger way?

If nothing else, the pandemic reminded us all that life can be short.

So . . .

If you’re not doing what you’re meant to do—why not?

If you are, but you’re limiting your reach, why?

I can answer those last two questions.

If you’re not doing what you’re meant to do, there’s probably some old messages planted in your subconscious that get triggered when you think about making a big change.

Those messages can sound like—

  • “Who am I to think I can do that?”
  • I can’t make a living at that” or
  • “I don’t deserve it”

If you are doing what you’re called to do, but not having the impact you know you’re capable of, your blocks might sound like—

  • “It’s not safe to be really successful.”
  • “I’m not allowed to make more money.”
  • “That life’s for other people, not for me.”

I have released all those blocks (and a lot more) with Tapping.

Then I’ve watched those clients go out and grow their businesses, make more money, and create a much bigger impact doing what they’re meant to do.

So, did this last 15 months really wake you up to something you’re meant to do, or meant to do in a bigger way?

Don’t go back to sleep!

Start taking action.

If you find you are holding yourself back, reach out.

Some targeted Tapping can release whatever subconscious success blocks are holding you back.

Then you don’t have to fight yourself by trying to get more motivated, or using sheer willpower to make the change you want.

Instead, you can use all that energy to figure out a plan to get you where you’re meant to go, then take the steps to get there.

Please, do what you’re here to do. If you need help, I’m here.

Until next time . . .

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

Nancy Linnerooth, EFT/Tapping Expert

http://UnblockResults.com

Why Extra Money Doesn’t Stick Around

Think about the last time you had some extra money. Not just a couple bucks (or pounds or euros)—a significant amount.

What happened?

If you’re like most people, that extra money just . . . went away.

Maybe an unexpected bill came in.

Or you found some great opportunity to spend it on.

Or for some reason the next month—or two, or three—was lean, with less income than usual.

It’s not just you. This happens all the time.

But why?

Watch my video for an in-depth look at why your subconscious may be making the “extra” money just go away:

Well, the short answer is that having that extra money (i) doesn’t match how you see yourself and (ii) conflicts with your internalized, subconscious beliefs around money.

Let’s start with those subconscious beliefs, which I call “success blocks.” Some of the common success blocks you might have are:

  • A subconscious belief that rich people are bad, greedy, or evil. So your subconscious protects you from becoming one of them by getting rid of the money as fast as possible.

  • A feeling that having too much isn’t safe—because you’ll be rejected, or targeted, or it will get taken away. So, again, your subconscious protects you by making sure you don’t keep it.

  • A money ceiling—an amount that fits the lifestyle you grew up with. Even though you’re capable of bringing in more, your subconscious puts the brakes on whenever you start to make that happen.

Those are just a few of the common success blocks around money my clients come to me with. And there’s lots more.

If you’ve been through enough of those experiences where you can’t seem to hold on to extra money or sustain that level of income, you may start to see yourself consciously as unlucky.

Or no good with money.

Or a bad business person.

It’s really none of those things. It’s just that your subconscious needs to be changed.

That’s where Tapping comes in. It’s the only way I’ve found to actually change the subconscious.

First, identify and tap to release your negative success blocks around money.

Then create and internalize a new identity—a new picture of who you are with more money. Tapping can help with that, too.

(Some people will tell you that you should skip straight to changing your internalized identity around money. That can work, but if your subconscious success blocks are too strong your new picture just won’t stick. That’s why I release the old blocks first.)

Then, with the old blocks gone and the new identity internalized, you’ll start to let the money in. And keep it.

Because your subconscious will accept that higher level of income as your “new normal.”

If you’d like some help creating a new normal for your income, just reply to this email. Let’s talk about what’s going on with you and see if Tapping may be the way to let more money in for you.

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

If Coaching Didn’t Work For You In The Past…

I love working with business owners, releasing their subconscious gunk so they can have their next breakthrough in their business.

It took me a while to figure out what I wanted to do, though.

Then it took me a bit longer to figure out how to do it.

Watch the video for the whole story.

Over the course of my journey, I figured out how to help clients for whom regular coaching just wasn’t enough.

With plain-vanilla coaching, those people would still procrastinate.

Or self-sabotage.

Or take action with the wrong energy.

And that would lead to poor results, no matter how motivated they were.

(Can you relate? I know I’ve been there.)

But when we used Tapping to figure out what was getting between them and their dreams and release it, they finally started getting the results they wanted.

So cool.

I wanted to share my story in this video so you could see that, even if coaching hasn’t worked for you in the past, it doesn’t mean that you’re stuck.

Stuck repeating the same old patterns.

Over and over.

Nope.

A bit of Tapping may be all you need.

It’s all my clients needed.

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

Nancy Linnerooth, EFT/Tapping Expert
https://UnblockResults.com

Fear of Screwing Up

Is fear of screwing up holding you back?

It was holding my client back in spite of her already being really, really successful.

She’s known around the world in her field and has been featured on international stages.

International!

Yet the fear of making a mistake had her refusing to let her talks be recorded. Keeping her playing smaller than she could.

She was afraid of making a mistake and having it out in the world. Forever.

And she was days away from having her presentation recorded.

She’d committed.

No backing out.

And she was scared of screwing it up.

Watch the video to hear more.

(Spoiler alert: she did great!)

If you have a fear of screwing something up—like posting a video or doing some public speaking (which is America’s biggest phobia, by the way)—you’ve probably heard that the way to get past it is to just do the thing. Whatever it is.

Because then you’ll realize it wasn’t so terrible and you won’t be as afraid the next time.

Good advice.

And if you can just do that, then go for it!

But if you can’t just make yourself do the thing—if you’re toooooo afraid to push through—then use some tapping.

Tapping can make all the difference. (I’ve seen that happen over and over.)

Because when you’ve tapped down your fear of screwing up, you can just get out there and do the thing.

Whatever it is.

Screwing up doesn’t seem like such a big deal after all.

You’ll start thinking “If I make a mistake, so what?!

People need me to get out there.

Even if I make mistakes along the way.

So let’s get you out there in a bigger way, helping those you’re here to reach.

Don’t let fear of screwing up get in your way.

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

Why Imposter Syndrome Strikes Women More

Imposter Syndrome (that feeling that you’re not as capable as others see you) really seems to hold women back more than men.

Why should that be?

Well, I have some theories.

Watch the video for the full exploration of why women seem to struggle with Imposter Syndrome more than men—
where it comes from and why it’s so persistent.

From my own experience with clients, I’ve seen it come from personal experiences:

  • There was the client whose parents made it clear she was not supposed to outshine her brother.
  • Then there were the clients who created their own businesses after being passed over for promotion in favor of men one too many times.
  • And far too often, there was the implicit message (especially from their mothers) that they should not speak up, be seen, or stand out, that led them to doubt themselves.

There’s also the messages we’ve all gotten from growing up seeing boys and men in leadership roles in schools, sports, TV and movies, companies, government….

Well, you get the idea.

And all of these experiences set us women up to doubt ourselves, hold ourselves back, and step aside to let men do the leading.

That has to stop.

We need women to lead now more than ever.

(Look, I love men and happily work with some wonderful men who are doing important work in their lives and the world. But this message is for women.)

It’s time to step back from the competitive, Us v. Them, Win/Lose approaches that have brought so much suffering and limitation.

And I think women leaders are the answer.

So when you feel like you are called to do something bigger in the world, but you hold yourself back because you feel like you’re not good enough to do that, or someone else would be better, or “they’d find out you were a fraud” if you tried . . .

Don’t listen to that feeling.

It’s just a young part of you that learned that you were supposed to stay small so you’d be safe.

Staying small won’t really keep you safe. (You know that.)

It sure as hell won’t bring about the change that you are called to make in the world.

That only you can make!

And if your Imposter Syndrome is particularly loud and hard to ignore, tap on its messages. They aren’t true, and Tapping can help you realize that.

Because we need you to show up fully in the world, being the you that you are truly meant to be.

Happy Tapping!

-Nancy

What I Learned about Imposter Syndrome from Getting Slapped Upside the Head By the Universe

Two weeks ago I talked about Imposter Syndrome.

Last week, the Universe laughed at me.

Watch my video to see what I learned from my own bout of Imposter Syndrome.

It was the beginning of a 24-hour virtual event put on by Harvard Alumni Entrepreneurs.

I figured “I’m an alum of the law school. I started my own business. These are my people!

Boy, was that not how it felt.

As soon as I walked in the virtual “room” it hit me. These are real entrepreneurs. They are creating new apps. Talking to angel investors. Launching businesses they’ll sell for gazillions.

Not me. I don’t belong.

I’m a fraud.

And they’re going to find me out.

Look down on me.

Laugh at me.

Wow.

So I said my goodbyes and left quickly.

Let me be clear. Everyone I talked to was lovely. This was me. I was the one telling myself I didn’t belong. Telling myself I wasn’t good enough.

It was a total inside job.

Frankly, it was embarrassing.

I’m in the middle of exploring how Imposter Syndrome hits women leaders especially hard and explaining what to do about it.

Just do it anyway, I’d said. Eventually you’ll realize you are good enough, I’d said. And if that’s too hard, then just tap, I’d said.

I had it figured out.

And there I was. Totally caving to my own Imposter Syndrome.

So I took my own medicine. Went back into the event the next night. (I felt much better.)

I posted about my experiences in Facebook and was overwhelmed by the support I got.

Watch the video for the whole embarrassing story.

I learned a lot from this experience that I want to share.

First, it’s normal to feel like a fraud sometimes.

Second, many really successful women feel like an imposter sometimes. Having the feeling doesn’t mean you are not successful or capable of success.

And most importantly: if you feel like an imposter, know that it is not true.

Please don’t give into that feeling.

The world needs you.

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

Shut Up Already, Imposter Syndrome!

Imposter Syndrome is a liar.

It needs to shut up.

Now.

Imposter Syndrome is the experience of feeling like you are not as competent as others see you.

So do you ever feel like you’re an imposter? Like you’re nowhere near as good as people are expecting?

Like you should just give up already and go do something easy so you don’t let anybody down?

I experienced Imposter Syndrome big time when I started at law school. Oh so many years ago.

Looking at the hundreds of students around me, I thought “They deserve to be here. Not me. I got in by mistake. Harvard’s going to figure it out any minute and show me the door.”

(That actually happened to someone once! More about that in my video.)

Turns out that a lot of my fellow law students, particularly the women I talked to, had the same feeling.

Eventually we got over it and decided that maybe we deserved to be there after all.

But sometimes the strategy of waiting until you get enough experience won’t work.

So what do you do when Imposter Syndrome keeps you stuck?

An incredibly accomplished woman came to me for help getting moving on her career. She was a star in her graduate program, where her professors expected her to become an influential muckety-muck in the world of therapy for autistic children.

She was passionate about the work. Excited to get started.

And two years later she was totally stuck because…

Imposter Syndrome.

Watch the video to see how her Imposter Syndrome had limited her and what we did to release it.

If Imposter Syndrome has you questioning whether you’re really good enough to do what you’re capable of—and maybe even called to do—know that you don’t have to give in to it!

Take action.

Even if you stumble along the way.

Even if you just know you’re not as good as they all think.

Even if you’re not perfect. (And who is?!)

What you do is valuable even if you don’t feel good enough, way down deep.

And if you can’t get started, or you drag your feet, because of the lies Imposter Syndrome is whispering in your ear, let’s talk.

The world needs you to step up.

Do what you’re here to do.

Don’t let Imposter Syndrome stop you.

Tell it to shut up already.

Happy Tapping!
—Nancy

What To Do When Your New Year’s Resolutions Fail

Yep. It’s that time again.

Time to make your New Year’s resolutions. Maybe you plan to . . .

  • Finish that training you bought
  • Create your on-line course
  • Network more
  • Whatever it takes to grow your business to the next level.

You’re going to do it this time Right?!

And you start out strong. But then, in six months—Or six weeks. Or six days. Or six hours!—you find you’ve given up.

(Been there. Done that. Gave up on resolutions completely for awhile.)

But why? Why do we give up when it’s so important to us?

Well, what I’ve seen over and over again is that when your resolution goes against something in your subconscious—even if your subconscious is being irrational, illogical, or just plain stupid—your subconscious always wins.

No amount of willpower can push past your subconscious for long.

It just wears you down until you give up.

Three types of subconscious blocks I’ve seen a lot of are:

  • A belief that you need to do (or avoid) something to stay safe.
  • Others’ limiting expectations of you.
  • Seeing yourself in a limiting way. (Check out the video for examples of what each of these looks like.)

So what do you do if you can’t seem to follow through on your resolution?

Well, the fastest way to change I know of is to uncover your subconscious block and tap to release it.

If you don’t know how to do that (or you don’t have a tapping practitioner to work with), what I’d suggest is to create a daily tapping practice with your resolution. Here’s how:

  • Set aside at least 5 minutes every morning.
  • During that 5 minutes, visualize yourself taking the action you’ve resolved to take AND getting the results you want.
  • (And, most importantly) Tap while you visualize.

Tapping whittles away at the underlying fear, limiting belief, or whatever.

So it gets easier to follow through on your resolution and, eventually, create the “new you.” And new and improved business.

No willpower required.

Happy New Year and Happy Tapping!
—Nancy

The Biggest Trap Stopping Women Entrepreneurs

This is the biggest subconscious block that prevents women business owners from stepping fully into the leadership role they are called to fill.

It can underlie many of the problems that you face, like—
• The money ceiling that keeps you stuck financially,
• The fear that prevents you from speaking up,
• The fact that you just never get around to finishing your book,
• That something that holds you back so you end up watching ideal clients pass you by to go work with someone who (in your heart of hearts you know) just won’t serve them as well as you would have.

I put this underlying subconscious block under the umbrella term “Mindset.”

To be clear, all of the subconscious blocks I release for clients are mindset problems. But this one is the biggie for women business owners.

And if you’ve got it, you know how it can totally deflate you.

It’s the Who, me? reaction you get when you think about helping more people.

Or standing up and saying what you believe.

Or making a lot more money.

Or bringing about a change you know is so desperately needed in the world.

Doing what you know you could do. In a big way.

Being fully who you are called to be.

You can see the next step. The next breakthrough. The next level on the horizon.

But you stop yourself with—
• I don’t know enough yet.
• They’ll never listen to me.
• Somebody else is so much better.
• I’m not good enough.
• I don’t deserve it.
Who do I think I am?

So you stay small.

Struggling.

And yet, you have this idea. Call it a vision. A purpose. A calling.

Whatever you call it, it came to you.

Yes, other people do what you do. But no one does it exactly the way you do.

Because no one grew up the way you did. Had the same experiences you did. The same learning you did. The same passions. The same way of looking at the world.

And that is why you are being called to step up. Now.

You are needed.

You need to step up so those people who resonate with you—who need you—can find you. Can get the exact transformation only you can bring them.

In the way only you can.

If you don’t step up—if you let your Mindset blocks get in your way—the World is a lesser place.

Your people continue to suffer. (And the people in their lives won’t get the benefit of that transformation you would have created, either.)

So, yes, the World needs you. It needs the biggest you you can bring.

And if your Mindset issues are getting in the way of that, you owe it to the world to root them out and get rid of them.

Tap with me to do that. Or use another approach.

But do something.

Change your Mindset so you can show up in the biggest way you can.

Because the World needs that.

The World needs YOU.

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy