It was holding my client back in spite of her already being really, really successful.
She’s known around the world in her field and has been featured on international stages.
Yet the fear of making a mistake had her refusing to let her talks be recorded. Keeping her playing smaller than she could.
She was afraid of making a mistake and having it out in the world. Forever.
And she was days away from having her presentation recorded.
No backing out.
And she was scared of screwing it up.
Watch the video to hear more.
(Spoiler alert: she did great!)
If you have a fear of screwing something up—like posting a video or doing some public speaking (which is America’s biggest phobia, by the way)—you’ve probably heard that the way to get past it is to just do the thing. Whatever it is.
Because then you’ll realize it wasn’t so terrible and you won’t be as afraid the next time.
And if you can just do that, then go for it!
But if you can’t just make yourself do the thing—if you’re toooooo afraid to push through—then use some tapping.
Tapping can make all the difference. (I’ve seen that happen over and over.)
Because when you’ve tapped down your fear of screwing up, you can just get out there and do the thing.
Whatever it is.
Screwing up doesn’t seem like such a big deal after all.
You’ll start thinking “If I make a mistake, so what?!”
“People need me to get out there.”
“Even if I make mistakes along the way.”
So let’s get you out there in a bigger way, helping those you’re here to reach.
Imposter Syndrome (that feeling that you’re not as capable as others see you) really seems to hold women back more than men.
Why should that be?
Well, I have some theories.
Watch the video for the full exploration of why women seem to struggle with Imposter Syndrome more than men— where it comes from and why it’s so persistent.
From my own experience with clients, I’ve seen it come from personal experiences:
There was the client whose parents made it clear she was not supposed to outshine her brother.
Then there were the clients who created their own businesses after being passed over for promotion in favor of men one too many times.
And far too often, there was the implicit message (especially from their mothers) that they should not speak up, be seen, or stand out, that led them to doubt themselves.
There’s also the messages we’ve all gotten from growing up seeing boys and men in leadership roles in schools, sports, TV and movies, companies, government….
Well, you get the idea.
And all of these experiences set us women up to doubt ourselves, hold ourselves back, and step aside to let men do the leading.
That has to stop.
We need women to lead now more than ever.
(Look, I love men and happily work with some wonderful men who are doing important work in their lives and the world. But this message is for women.)
It’s time to step back from the competitive, Us v. Them, Win/Lose approaches that have brought so much suffering and limitation.
And I think women leaders are the answer.
So when you feel like you are called to do something bigger in the world, but you hold yourself back because you feel like you’re not good enough to do that, or someone else would be better, or “they’d find out you were a fraud” if you tried . . .
Don’t listen to that feeling.
It’s just a young part of you that learned that you were supposed to stay small so you’d be safe.
Staying small won’t really keep you safe. (You know that.)
It sure as hell won’t bring about the change that you are called to make in the world.
That only you can make!
And if your Imposter Syndrome is particularly loud and hard to ignore, tap on its messages. They aren’t true, and Tapping can help you realize that.
Because we need you to show up fully in the world, being the you that you are truly meant to be.
Imposter Syndrome is the experience of feeling like you are not as competent as others see you.
So do you ever feel like you’re an imposter? Like you’re nowhere near as good as people are expecting?
Like you should just give up already and go do something easy so you don’t let anybody down?
I experienced Imposter Syndrome big time when I started at law school. Oh so many years ago.
Looking at the hundreds of students around me, I thought “They deserve to be here. Not me. I got in by mistake. Harvard’s going to figure it out any minute and show me the door.”
(That actually happened to someone once! More about that in my video.)
Turns out that a lot of my fellow law students, particularly the women I talked to, had the same feeling.
Eventually we got over it and decided that maybe we deserved to be there after all.
But sometimes the strategy of waiting until you get enough experience won’t work.
So what do you do when Imposter Syndrome keeps you stuck?
An incredibly accomplished woman came to me for help getting moving on her career. She was a star in her graduate program, where her professors expected her to become an influential muckety-muck in the world of therapy for autistic children.
She was passionate about the work. Excited to get started.
And two years later she was totally stuck because…
Watch the video to see how her Imposter Syndrome had limited her and what we did to release it.
If Imposter Syndrome has you questioning whether you’re really good enough to do what you’re capable of—and maybe even called to do—know that you don’t have to give in to it!
Even if you stumble along the way.
Even if you just know you’re not as good as they all think.
Even if you’re not perfect. (And who is?!)
What you do is valuable even if you don’t feel good enough, way down deep.
And if you can’t get started, or you drag your feet, because of the lies Imposter Syndrome is whispering in your ear, let’s talk.
Time to make your New Year’s resolutions. Maybe you plan to . . .
Finish that training you bought
Create your on-line course
Whatever it takes to grow your business to the next level.
You’re going to do it this time Right?!
And you start out strong. But then, in six months—Or six weeks. Or six days. Or six hours!—you find you’ve given up.
(Been there. Done that. Gave up on resolutions completely for awhile.)
But why? Why do we give up when it’s so important to us?
Well, what I’ve seen over and over again is that when your resolution goes against something in your subconscious—even if your subconscious is being irrational, illogical, or just plain stupid—your subconscious always wins.
No amount of willpower can push past your subconscious for long.
It just wears you down until you give up.
Three types of subconscious blocks I’ve seen a lot of are:
A belief that you need to do (or avoid) something to stay safe.
Others’ limiting expectations of you.
Seeing yourself in a limiting way. (Check out the video for examples of what each of these looks like.)
So what do you do if you can’t seem to follow through on your resolution?
Well, the fastest way to change I know of is to uncover your subconscious block and tap to release it.
If you don’t know how to do that (or you don’t have a tapping practitioner to work with), what I’d suggest is to create a daily tapping practice with your resolution. Here’s how:
Set aside at least 5 minutes every morning.
During that 5 minutes, visualize yourself taking the action you’ve resolved to take AND getting the results you want.
(And, most importantly) Tap while you visualize.
Tapping whittles away at the underlying fear, limiting belief, or whatever.
So it gets easier to follow through on your resolution and, eventually, create the “new you.” And new and improved business.
This is the biggest subconscious block that prevents women business owners from stepping fully into the leadership role they are called to fill.
It can underlie many of the problems that you face, like— • The money ceiling that keeps you stuck financially, • The fear that prevents you from speaking up, • The fact that you just never get around to finishing your book, • That something that holds you back so you end up watching ideal clients pass you by to go work with someone who (in your heart of hearts you know) just won’t serve them as well as you would have.
I put this underlying subconscious block under the umbrella term “Mindset.”
To be clear, all of the subconscious blocks I release for clients are mindset problems. But this one is the biggie for women business owners.
And if you’ve got it, you know how it can totally deflate you.
It’s the Who, me? reaction you get when you think about helping more people.
Or standing up and saying what you believe.
Or making a lot more money.
Or bringing about a change you know is so desperately needed in the world.
Doing what you know you could do. In a big way.
Being fully who you are called to be.
You can see the next step. The next breakthrough. The next level on the horizon.
But you stop yourself with— • I don’t know enough yet. • They’ll never listen to me. • Somebody else is so much better. • I’m not good enough. • I don’t deserve it. • Who do I think I am?
So you stay small.
And yet, you have this idea. Call it a vision. A purpose. A calling.
Whatever you call it, it came to you.
Yes, other people do what you do. But no one does it exactly the way you do.
Because no one grew up the way you did. Had the same experiences you did. The same learning you did. The same passions. The same way of looking at the world.
And that is why you are being called to step up. Now.
You are needed.
You need to step up so those people who resonate with you—who need you—can find you. Can get the exact transformation only you can bring them.
In the way only you can.
If you don’t step up—if you let your Mindset blocks get in your way—the World is a lesser place.
Your people continue to suffer. (And the people in their lives won’t get the benefit of that transformation you would have created, either.)
So, yes, the World needs you. It needs the biggest you you can bring.
And if your Mindset issues are getting in the way of that, you owe it to the world to root them out and get rid of them.
Tap with me to do that. Or use another approach.
But do something.
Change your Mindset so you can show up in the biggest way you can.
I’ve been hearing from a lot of people lately that they are waiting.
Waiting until the US election is over . . . Until the new government is installed . . . Until a vaccine comes through.
Waiting until 2021 because you’ve written off 2020!
Waiting for something outside of yourself to change before you move forward with what you want in your life.
Oh, I totally get it—lately there have been times I’ve just wanted to hunker down with some ice cream and wait until this all blows over.
It sounds logical and rational to wait until things settle down.
But what I know from all the work I’ve done with my clients is that this kind of “waiting until” reasoning is false.
It’s really just your rational brain trying to make sense of why you aren’t going after what you want.
And there are a lot of possible reasons out there to blame for why you aren’t taking action. Especially now.
The truth is, though, that it isn’t rational to wait to start living your life until things get back to normal. Why? Well . . . • Will things ever really get back to the way they were? No one knows for sure, but a lot of folks are starting to speculate they won’t. • Of course there will be changes when we have an effective vaccine. And the economy improves. But no one knows how long it will take for those changes to happen. What does it benefit you to put everything on hold until then? • And what will truly be different in your day-to-day life the day—or week, or month, or year—after the election is decided?
So why are you really waiting?
I’ve heard things like this from long before 2020. • “I’m going to wait until I have more money.” • “I’m going to wait until the kids are grown up.” • “I’m going to wait until I’ve gotten certified.” Or “learned more.” Or “gotten more experience.”
There’s always something you can “wait until.”
But that’s not going to get you what you want.
If you want a big change in your life or business, the best time to go after that change is RIGHT NOW.
To do that, you need to make a change inside of you. Because what’s really holding you back is not happening on the outside.
It’s on the inside.
Change what’s going on inside of you so you can step up no matter what is happening out there.
Then you can change what’s going on in your life and maybe in other people’s lives. For the better.
So if you’ve been telling yourself you should wait, don’t listen.
Which means tomorrow (Tuesday the 6th) is the very last day to reach out to me and set up a call to see if there’s a fit between what you’re struggling with and my group.
That’s so we’re both ready to dive deep on Friday and start releasing what’s holding you back from making—and keeping—more money.
So I want to talk about what I know is one of the big reasons you might be thinking it’s not the right time for you to join.
I get it. It can feel like you shouldn’t pay money for something right now when money is the problem.
But hang on. How long have you been struggling with money?
If this is a pattern in your life, what’s going to change that pattern?
How are you going to have more money to invest in yourself the next time I offer the Money Blocks Solution?
By now, you probably sense that your money issues start inside of you. That there’s something keeping you from doing (or not doing) the things that will make you more money. Or keep your money around longer.
I call those internal, subconscious obstacles to improving your financial situation “money blocks.”
If you don’t get rid of them, they’re just going to keep running the show.
Keep you stuck.
Right where you are.
And if nothing changes, how will you have more money to invest in the group—or anything else you truly want—in 2021?
Or ‘22? Or ‘23? Or . . .
Plus, the longer you drag your feet on changing what’s getting in your way, the less money you will make over the course of your life.
Think about it.
If I could wave a magic wand and get rid of your money blocks today, you would start seeing more money come in. NOW.
And that would start adding up—and compounding—right away.
So the longer you wait to get rid of your money blocks, the less money you will have in your life. By a lot.
The less money . . . • To take care of your family • To take care of yourself • To grow your business • To live the way you want to • And to do what you are here to do!
The longer you drag your feet to release your money blocks, the less money you will have in your life for all of these important things.
So if you are saying “Oh, but I don’t have the money to work with you now, Nancy,” well, then, when are you going to have it?!
Okay, no, Tapping is not a magic wand. I can’t get rid of all your blocks today. But it does get rid of money blocks.
And it works much faster than anything else I’ve ever seen.
In fact, some people working with me start noticing improvements in their actions and their money within the first week!
So I really want you to get this. If you have a money block preventing you from getting and keeping more money, waiting until you have more money to get rid of that block just won’t work.
Instead, I want to stand up for you today, especially if you can’t stand up for yourself right now.
Please. Know this: • It’s time • You are worth it.
Are you stuck? Plateau-ed out? Can’t make more money no matter what you try?
Man, do I know how frustrating that can be!
Fortunately, there is an answer.
In my Money Blocks Solution, we use Tapping to rewrite your subconscious financial programming, getting rid of your money blocks so you can start earning—and keeping—the kind of money you know you are capable of.
It creates truly amazing results.
Don’t take my word for it, though. Listen to someone who has gone through it.
Before doing the Money Blocks Solution, Ciara was doing work she didn’t like and actively avoiding accepting money for it!
After joining the group, she stepped up and started creating the business she’d been hoping for.
Within a week of her first session Ciara was able to network and send out proposals.
And after finishing the Money Blocks Solution, she went from avoiding promoting herself and resisting getting paid for her services to making $5000 in her business the very next month!
Now, in spite of all the uncertainty COVID has brought, Ciara has bounced back and is not only ready to move forward with some passion projects, she’s also willing to get paid for them—something she knows she wouldn’t have been able to do before we worked together.
If you’ve been holding yourself back, limiting the kind of money coming in, you owe it to yourself to at least have a conversation about what’s really going on.
So reach out.
We’ll set up yourfree Money Blocks Assessment Call to identify your subconscious blocks to earning and keeping more money and to see if the group is right for you.
Now I know what can happen. You think “That’s a good idea,” and you put it on your To Do list to think about later.
But life happens, other stuff comes up, and before you know it you’ve missed the deadline.
I don’t want that to happen to you. So I’m giving you a reason to reach out NOW.
If you reach out to me by this Friday, October 2nd, to schedule a Money Blocks Assessment Call, and sign up for the Money Blocks Solution (which starts on October 9th), you get my early bird bonus.
What’s the early bird bonus? So glad you asked!
It’s my online program you tap along with to release common money blocks, raise your money ceiling, and even make the Law of Attraction start working for you.
This is already getting long, so I won’t say much more here. I promise to tell you more about the online program in my next post, though—including a way to get it even if now is not the right time to join the group.
In the meantime, reach out. Set up your Money Blocks Assessment call so you don’t miss your chance for that early bird bonus.
I’m looking forward to finding out what’s going on with you and the money you should be making!