What Does Success Look Like For You?

How do you define success?

As one of my clients reminded me, it’s important to get clear on what success means to you. Otherwise, you’re going to be chasing somebody else’s dream, not following your own.

Here’s how she turned her back on the conventional view of success, and the two questions that can help you define it for yourself:

So don’t just listen to the next “guru” who says—

You need to make a certain amount each month to be successful.

Or build a following of tens of thousands of people on FB.

Or write a book.

Or launch an online program.

Or anything else.

Get clear on what “success” looks like for you.

What you truly want.

To figure that out, ask yourself two questions:

What do you want your life to look like? Do you want to speak to thousands around the world? Make a ton of money? Work less and spend more time with family? Or something else?

What kind of legacy do you want to leave? Do you want to set your family up financially to follow their dreams? Train a small group in a method you’ve created so it lives on after you’re gone? Or . . .

Clients have come to me to release blocks to knowing what they want. Once a block was gone, they could go after what they wanted. (Their version of success.)

But let’s be clear—Tapping freed them up to know their own heart and mind.

I didn’t tell them what they wanted. Or how to be “successful.”

They decided for themselves.

You get to do that too.

So don’t let anyone else tell you what success is.

Not even me. 😉

I firmly believe that, the more you follow what calls to your own heart, the more of an impact you will have.

Whatever that impact is meant to be.

That’s how you become the leader you’re meant to be.

That’s the leader the world needs now.

And that’s true success.

I’d love to know what success looks like for you. Please shoot me a message or email me at Nancy@UnblockResults.com. Tell me what calls to your heart.

Until next time . . .

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

Why Imposter Syndrome Strikes Women More

Imposter Syndrome (that feeling that you’re not as capable as others see you) really seems to hold women back more than men.

Why should that be?

Well, I have some theories.

Watch the video for the full exploration of why women seem to struggle with Imposter Syndrome more than men—
where it comes from and why it’s so persistent.

From my own experience with clients, I’ve seen it come from personal experiences:

  • There was the client whose parents made it clear she was not supposed to outshine her brother.
  • Then there were the clients who created their own businesses after being passed over for promotion in favor of men one too many times.
  • And far too often, there was the implicit message (especially from their mothers) that they should not speak up, be seen, or stand out, that led them to doubt themselves.

There’s also the messages we’ve all gotten from growing up seeing boys and men in leadership roles in schools, sports, TV and movies, companies, government….

Well, you get the idea.

And all of these experiences set us women up to doubt ourselves, hold ourselves back, and step aside to let men do the leading.

That has to stop.

We need women to lead now more than ever.

(Look, I love men and happily work with some wonderful men who are doing important work in their lives and the world. But this message is for women.)

It’s time to step back from the competitive, Us v. Them, Win/Lose approaches that have brought so much suffering and limitation.

And I think women leaders are the answer.

So when you feel like you are called to do something bigger in the world, but you hold yourself back because you feel like you’re not good enough to do that, or someone else would be better, or “they’d find out you were a fraud” if you tried . . .

Don’t listen to that feeling.

It’s just a young part of you that learned that you were supposed to stay small so you’d be safe.

Staying small won’t really keep you safe. (You know that.)

It sure as hell won’t bring about the change that you are called to make in the world.

That only you can make!

And if your Imposter Syndrome is particularly loud and hard to ignore, tap on its messages. They aren’t true, and Tapping can help you realize that.

Because we need you to show up fully in the world, being the you that you are truly meant to be.

Happy Tapping!

-Nancy

What I Learned about Imposter Syndrome from Getting Slapped Upside the Head By the Universe

Two weeks ago I talked about Imposter Syndrome.

Last week, the Universe laughed at me.

Watch my video to see what I learned from my own bout of Imposter Syndrome.

It was the beginning of a 24-hour virtual event put on by Harvard Alumni Entrepreneurs.

I figured “I’m an alum of the law school. I started my own business. These are my people!

Boy, was that not how it felt.

As soon as I walked in the virtual “room” it hit me. These are real entrepreneurs. They are creating new apps. Talking to angel investors. Launching businesses they’ll sell for gazillions.

Not me. I don’t belong.

I’m a fraud.

And they’re going to find me out.

Look down on me.

Laugh at me.

Wow.

So I said my goodbyes and left quickly.

Let me be clear. Everyone I talked to was lovely. This was me. I was the one telling myself I didn’t belong. Telling myself I wasn’t good enough.

It was a total inside job.

Frankly, it was embarrassing.

I’m in the middle of exploring how Imposter Syndrome hits women leaders especially hard and explaining what to do about it.

Just do it anyway, I’d said. Eventually you’ll realize you are good enough, I’d said. And if that’s too hard, then just tap, I’d said.

I had it figured out.

And there I was. Totally caving to my own Imposter Syndrome.

So I took my own medicine. Went back into the event the next night. (I felt much better.)

I posted about my experiences in Facebook and was overwhelmed by the support I got.

Watch the video for the whole embarrassing story.

I learned a lot from this experience that I want to share.

First, it’s normal to feel like a fraud sometimes.

Second, many really successful women feel like an imposter sometimes. Having the feeling doesn’t mean you are not successful or capable of success.

And most importantly: if you feel like an imposter, know that it is not true.

Please don’t give into that feeling.

The world needs you.

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

The Biggest Trap Stopping Women Entrepreneurs

This is the biggest subconscious block that prevents women business owners from stepping fully into the leadership role they are called to fill.

It can underlie many of the problems that you face, like—
• The money ceiling that keeps you stuck financially,
• The fear that prevents you from speaking up,
• The fact that you just never get around to finishing your book,
• That something that holds you back so you end up watching ideal clients pass you by to go work with someone who (in your heart of hearts you know) just won’t serve them as well as you would have.

I put this underlying subconscious block under the umbrella term “Mindset.”

To be clear, all of the subconscious blocks I release for clients are mindset problems. But this one is the biggie for women business owners.

And if you’ve got it, you know how it can totally deflate you.

It’s the Who, me? reaction you get when you think about helping more people.

Or standing up and saying what you believe.

Or making a lot more money.

Or bringing about a change you know is so desperately needed in the world.

Doing what you know you could do. In a big way.

Being fully who you are called to be.

You can see the next step. The next breakthrough. The next level on the horizon.

But you stop yourself with—
• I don’t know enough yet.
• They’ll never listen to me.
• Somebody else is so much better.
• I’m not good enough.
• I don’t deserve it.
Who do I think I am?

So you stay small.

Struggling.

And yet, you have this idea. Call it a vision. A purpose. A calling.

Whatever you call it, it came to you.

Yes, other people do what you do. But no one does it exactly the way you do.

Because no one grew up the way you did. Had the same experiences you did. The same learning you did. The same passions. The same way of looking at the world.

And that is why you are being called to step up. Now.

You are needed.

You need to step up so those people who resonate with you—who need you—can find you. Can get the exact transformation only you can bring them.

In the way only you can.

If you don’t step up—if you let your Mindset blocks get in your way—the World is a lesser place.

Your people continue to suffer. (And the people in their lives won’t get the benefit of that transformation you would have created, either.)

So, yes, the World needs you. It needs the biggest you you can bring.

And if your Mindset issues are getting in the way of that, you owe it to the world to root them out and get rid of them.

Tap with me to do that. Or use another approach.

But do something.

Change your Mindset so you can show up in the biggest way you can.

Because the World needs that.

The World needs YOU.

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

Identifying Your Specific Money Blocks

Check out the third video in my series on How Tapping Can Help With Money Problems. This one shows you how to identify your specific subconscious money blocks—an important step in releasing them!

In this video I explain how I track down and put words to those types of subconscious money blocks, measure how powerful each one is, and decide which to work on with my clients.

Then I give you ways that you can start uncovering your own subconscious money blocks. Happy Hunting!

To see all the videos on this and other Tapping topics check them out on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/nancy.linnerooth . Hey, let’s be friends! And then you can see my Facebook Lives on Tapping . . . live.

You can also let me know what you’d like to hear about. Just leave a comment, DM me on FB, or send me an old-fashioned email with your Tapping questions and I’ll do my best to answer them. 


Where Do Subconscious Money Blocks Come From?

Here’s some of the ways you might have developed a subconscious money block. Some may surprise you!

This is the second video in a series about How Tapping Can Help With Money Problems. There will be at least two more videos in this series. 

To see all the videos on this and other Tapping topics check them out on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/nancy.linnerooth . Hey, let’s be friends! And then you can see my Facebook Lives on Tapping . . . live. 

You can also let me know what you’d like to hear about. Just leave a comment, DM me on FB, or send me an old-fashioned email with your Tapping questions and I’ll do my best to answer them. 

Are You Cursing Yourself?

What you tell yourself has true power. Really. It’s like a magic spell, and not a good one. In this video you’ll hear some of the “spells” I and many other business owners have put on ourselves to prevent us from creating the businesses—and lives—we’re meant to have.

Of course, it’s not just business owners who have these kinds of negative spells running in our minds. As far as I can tell, everyone has at least some. They get called different things like:
• Negative Self-talk
• Limiting Beliefs
• Cognitive Distortions
• Inner Critic
and more.

The thing is, these spells aren’t just harmless words, they actually hold you back from reaching your big goals.

In the video I tell you about one of my personal favorite negative spells (that slows down a lot of business owners) and what I did to change it.

I’ve countered my own spells, and you can, too. Watch to find out how.

Then really listen to what you tell yourself. You might be surprised. And when you’re ready to lift those negative spells you’ve put on yourself so you can create the life you are meant to live, email me. We’ll set up a call to talk about what’s going on with you and see if I can help.

When a Reeeaaaaalllly Old Story Is Holding You Back

This one is pretty weird, I have to admit. But it’s come up for me and a number of clients, so I put together this video to tell you a bit about how a strange kind of “inheritance” caused me to procrastinate and what I did about it.

You might have a similar cause of procrastination if:

  • You’ve taken care of everything you can think of and something is still holding you back,
  • You feel like there’s an odd energy that gets in the way of your taking action,
  • There’s a story of someone in your family who was prevented from reaching their big goal or goals.

If any of that sounds like you (or you’re just curious), watch the video to find out more about what this is and how to take care of it.

Don’t let someone else’s story stop you! When you’re ready to stop procrastinating and create the life you are meant to live, email me. We’ll set up a call to talk about what’s going on with you and see if I can help.

Is Being Gifted Holding You Back?

In the last few months I’ve stumbled across the most counterintuitive cause of procrastination you can imagine. More than half my clients have this problem. It slows them down. It gets in the way of accomplishing their goals. And it has led them to think they’re stupid. Or lazy. Or both.

The cause? Growing up gifted.

Now I truly believe everyone on the planet has gifts to share with the world. I’m not talking about that here. I’m using “gifted” in the technical sense of being really bright or having a high IQ.

You would think that someone who is gifted in that way has it easy. They get a high-paying job that funds a lavish lifestyle without even trying. They just create a brilliant business that changes the world. They easily turn their dreams into reality.

You would be wrong. Those who study the gifted have found that an extremely common outcome for gifted children is that they become underachievers as adults.

If you’re curious about why that would happen watch the video to find out one reason, and what I’ve been doing with my clients to change that outcome.

And please, please, watch the video if:
• You were formally identified as gifted as a child.
• Someone like a teacher mentioned how smart you were in a subject (which may well mean you were gifted even if you weren’t great in other subjects).
• You have a parent or sibling who was very smart (which means you very likely were too, even if something else prevented you from being identified as gifted yourself).
• You have a child you know or suspect is really bright (yep, another indication that you are probably gifted, too).

The video also recommends two resources you can check out that can help you make sense of what you went through and what you can do to achieve more in your life: sengifted.org (Supporting Emotional Needs of the Gifted—SENG) and nwgca.org (the Northwest Gifted Child Association).

The experiences of growing up gifted often lead to conscious or subconscious beliefs that cause someone to procrastinate as an adult. And no one has to keep those beliefs. They can be changed. Watch the video to find out more.

When you’re ready to stop procrastinating and create the life you are meant to live, email me. We’ll set up a call to talk about what’s going on with you and see if I can help.

What If Your Life Were Easy?

Over the past year I’ve noticed an interesting cause of procrastination in both my clients and myself.

Sometimes we procrastinate because it has become soooo hard to do something to reach a goal that we subconsciously decide it’s not worth trying.

And because we feel that it’s too hard to achieve our goal, we find ourselves putting off actions that could achieve that goal. Then we wonder why we’re procrastinating.

I’ve discovered a way to help both my clients and myself make things easier so we can reverse our procrastination. It’s a little woowoo, but it works!

Watch the video to find out the simple trick we’ve been using to make our goals—and even our lives—easier.

If you’re ready to stop struggling so hard to create the life you are meant to live, email me. We’ll set up a call to talk about what’s going on with you and see if I can help.