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Is Worry Getting In the Way of Your Abundance?

A client asked me to create a tap-along video for her to take her from worrying about money to feeling confident that plenty is already on its way.

Watch the video to hear more.

If you’re into Law of Attraction (as my client is), you know that worrying about something can slow down the arrival of what you want. So it takes longer to bring in the money you’re hoping for.

Worse, your worry may actually make that thing you’re worried about happen.

That means worrying about not having enough money may lead to not having enough money.

So by all means stop worrying about it!

But even if you’re not buying this manifesting-what-you-want-or-don’t-want-by-how-you-feel malarkey (as critics might say), there are still a couple of really good reasons to let go of any worrying about finances you’re doing. Especially if you’re a business owner.

First, that worry will pull your focus and energy off of actions that will bring in the cash. That can definitely slow down your income. (A bit of a self-fulfilling prophecy there.)

Second, worrying makes you less…attractive…to potential clients and customers.

Think about it. When you see someone under a cloud of worry, does that inspire confidence in you? Do you want to work with them? Buy from them?

Didn’t think so.

So when you’re worrying, you’re not showing up at your best, and probably costing yourself some money that way.

What’s the answer?

Easy.

Stop worrying about money.

Maybe that doesn’t sound so easy when the bills are piling up. But you can do it with some Tapping.

Here’s a pattern I often use to lower clients’ money worries: start tapping while saying all the things you’re worried about.

Not selling enough programs. Not being able to pay your team. Having to go live under a bridge. That sort of thing.

Then (still tapping) remind yourself of all the times you’ve gotten out of difficult situations. All the times money has shown up when you needed it. How you survived even when it didn’t. (You must have, right? You’re still standing!)

At this point clients often get a feeling that God/Goddess/the Universe/their Higher Selves are looking out for them. Even when money is tight.

Tap on that, too.

Tapping in this pattern gets Worry to loosen up so you can put your focus and energy on things you can do that are muuuuuuch more productive than biting your nails.

If you’d like some help lowering your own worries—whether about money or about something else—so you can grow your business, just email me. We’ll set up a time to talk about what’s going on with you and if tapping can help.

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

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Do You Have an Itty Bitty S—— Committee?

“Ivy” came to me to get rid of her Itty Bitty Shitty Committee.

Her fractional CFO business was doing fine, but knew she could do much more if she didn’t have to spend time dealing with the negative messages in her head whenever she thought about growing it.

Her Itty Bitty Shitty Committee told her she was wasting her time creating a new program—no one would want it. Even though clients had been asking for it.

It tried to convince her she really wasn’t good enough to have a successful business. Even though she already had one.

It scoffed at her goals to work with bigger companies as “totally unrealistic.” Even though her contacts in those companies had invited her to send them proposals.

Her committee was so loud, she found herself spending a lot of time going out in nature, just to get a break.

Sound familiar?

Here’s how we got rid of Ivy’s Itty Bitty Shitty Committee:

Itty Bitty Shitty Committees slow down and stop a lot of women entrepreneurs from things like—

Starting a business.
Offering a new product.
Marketing their business
Asking for more money.

Even really successful women have Itty Bitty Shitty Committees. I know because I’ve worked with many of them—just like Ivy.

Using Tapping, Ivy gave her Committee the pink slip.

When she’d sent those negative voices packing, it was blessedly quiet in her head.

She could finally grow her business the way she wanted, without all the back-talk.

If you have a Committee of your own shouting you down whenever you try to move forward, I have something for you.

I made a tap-along video to help you fire your own Itty Bitty Shitty Committee.

Go to https://UnblockResults.com/qz.Take the quiz to find out where your Committee is causing you the most trouble. Or you can skip the quiz and go straight to the videos.

Tap along with the Mindset Video to see yourself as capable of—and deserving—bigger success. And fire your Itty Bitty Shitty Committee.

Then you won’t have to manage those negative messages from your own Committee.

So go ahead. Give your Itty Bitty Shitty Committee the pink slip!

Until next time…

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

business owners, EFT, Enthusiasm, entrepreneurs, Goals, growth, leadership, mental blocks, Mindset, money, Profitability, self-confidence, self-sabotage, Social Interaction, tapping, visibility

The Secret Ingredient Every Woman Entrepreneur Needs

There’s one thing every woman entrepreneur needs to grow her business and reach her potential.

To really succeed, we need a supportive group of other women business owners.

Why? Well, three reasons:

You’ll fast forward your growth. The women in the group know the things you don’t even know you don’t know, and they share resources and can answer your questions quickly.
Being around other women business owners who are growing expands your thinking. You start to realize you can do a whole lot more.
Finally, it’s lonely being a business owner. Other women business owners will encourage you to keep going when your latest launch falls flat and cheer you on when you have your best month ever.

Turns out my MVP Clubs give exactly that kind of support to each other.

It wasn’t what I had in mind when I created them. The plan was only that an MVP Club would—

Be a place for women to release blocks in the three areas women leaders often hold themselves back subconsciously, and
Help members uncover and release blocks they didn’t know they had by tapping along with others in the group.

That’s what I expected to happen, and it has. Much more than I expected.

But what has also happened—every time I’ve run a group—is that the women become incredibly supportive of each other.

There is amazing power in this. Everyone feels accepted and knows that they’re not the only one struggling with tough issues.

And everyone gets encouragement to do much more than they ever thought they could.

Which leads to big growth.

You can find out more about the MVP Club at
https://unblockresults.com/the-mvp-club/

So if you’re a woman entrepreneur and haven’t joined a group like this yet, please find one that can give you that kind of emotional support, share resources you need, show you what’s possible, and cheer you on as you grow—whether that’s the MVP Club or another group of positive, supportive women leaders.

And if the MVP Club is calling to you, I’m starting a new one.

Just reach out. We’ll set up a time to talk about what’s holding you back and see if the MVP Club is a fit.

Hope I hear from you soon

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

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Not Visible Enough? Blame the Patriarchy!

Old patriarchal rules have been showing up in my MVP clients’ subconscious, mucking up their Visibility.

How? Let me ‘splain.

In the MVP Framework I use, Visibility (the “V” in MVP) is about getting in front of a bigger audience, whether through your writing, videos, in-person speaking, or any way you reach the people you’re here for.

Patriarchal muck limiting our Visibility has seeped deep into the subconscious of many women. Even the most successful ones!

Watch to get details on some of the worst patriarchal rules for visibility and where they can come from.

This old patriarchal slime can show up in a number of ways, perhaps sounding like “No one wants to hear what I have to say.”

If you catch yourself muttering something like that to yourself, you might have internalized this slam to your ego when:

Your raised hand was passed over at school in favor of a boy’s. Over and over again.
Or you were regularly talked over at work.
Or your ideas were ignored until a male colleague put them forward as his own, when suddenly they were accepted by the boss as pure brilliance.
Or maybe, like many of us, your mother gave you the message to not speak up or stand out. She probably did it to keep you safe, but still .…

And even though the crud no longer serves you (if it ever did), there it is in your subconscious, getting triggered whenever you risk being seen in a much bigger way.

Another old bit of patriarchal sludge a lot of women have is “It’s not safe to be seen.”

One client had a nasty example of this.

She’s amazing and has something big to get out in the world, something that’s going to change lives.

But she was dragging her feet getting her program out there.

When we went digging for reasons why, up popped a co-worker from an early job.

This jack@$$ made crude comments about her. Followed her around, leering at her. Acted as if he had a right to treat her any way he wanted.

Ever since then, her subconscious has made her hesitant to stand out. To speak up. To be noticed.

It was afraid she’d attract another jerk.

(Just so you know, this has happened to quite a few of my clients. And friends. And relations. Sigh.)

So in one session we tapped on that experience. Now she’s marketing with enthusiasm, excited about all the attention she’s going to get when she gets her program out in the world.

Does any of this sound like you? Do you find yourself reluctant to get out there and be seen in a bigger way?

Maybe it really IS the patriarchy!

And it’s time to change it.

Hit “Reply.” Let’s set up a time to talk about what’s going on with you and how we might change it.

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

business owners, confidence, EFT, entrepreneurs, Fear of Failure, Goals, mental blocks, mistakes, procrastination, self-confidence, self-sabotage, tapping

Fear of Screwing Up

Is fear of screwing up holding you back?

It was holding my client back in spite of her already being really, really successful.

She’s known around the world in her field and has been featured on international stages.

International!

Yet the fear of making a mistake had her refusing to let her talks be recorded. Keeping her playing smaller than she could.

She was afraid of making a mistake and having it out in the world. Forever.

And she was days away from having her presentation recorded.

She’d committed.

No backing out.

And she was scared of screwing it up.

Watch the video to hear more.

(Spoiler alert: she did great!)

If you have a fear of screwing something up—like posting a video or doing some public speaking (which is America’s biggest phobia, by the way)—you’ve probably heard that the way to get past it is to just do the thing. Whatever it is.

Because then you’ll realize it wasn’t so terrible and you won’t be as afraid the next time.

Good advice.

And if you can just do that, then go for it!

But if you can’t just make yourself do the thing—if you’re toooooo afraid to push through—then use some tapping.

Tapping can make all the difference. (I’ve seen that happen over and over.)

Because when you’ve tapped down your fear of screwing up, you can just get out there and do the thing.

Whatever it is.

Screwing up doesn’t seem like such a big deal after all.

You’ll start thinking “If I make a mistake, so what?!”

“People need me to get out there.”

“Even if I make mistakes along the way.”

So let’s get you out there in a bigger way, helping those you’re here to reach.

Don’t let fear of screwing up get in your way.

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

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Why Imposter Syndrome Strikes Women More

Imposter Syndrome (that feeling that you’re not as capable as others see you) really seems to hold women back more than men.

Why should that be?

Well, I have some theories.

Watch the video for the full exploration of why women seem to struggle with Imposter Syndrome more than men—
where it comes from and why it’s so persistent.

From my own experience with clients, I’ve seen it come from personal experiences:

There was the client whose parents made it clear she was not supposed to outshine her brother.
Then there were the clients who created their own businesses after being passed over for promotion in favor of men one too many times.
And far too often, there was the implicit message (especially from their mothers) that they should not speak up, be seen, or stand out, that led them to doubt themselves.

There’s also the messages we’ve all gotten from growing up seeing boys and men in leadership roles in schools, sports, TV and movies, companies, government….

Well, you get the idea.

And all of these experiences set us women up to doubt ourselves, hold ourselves back, and step aside to let men do the leading.

That has to stop.

We need women to lead now more than ever.

(Look, I love men and happily work with some wonderful men who are doing important work in their lives and the world. But this message is for women.)

It’s time to step back from the competitive, Us v. Them, Win/Lose approaches that have brought so much suffering and limitation.

And I think women leaders are the answer.

So when you feel like you are called to do something bigger in the world, but you hold yourself back because you feel like you’re not good enough to do that, or someone else would be better, or “they’d find out you were a fraud” if you tried . . .

Don’t listen to that feeling.

It’s just a young part of you that learned that you were supposed to stay small so you’d be safe.

Staying small won’t really keep you safe. (You know that.)

It sure as hell won’t bring about the change that you are called to make in the world.

That only you can make!

And if your Imposter Syndrome is particularly loud and hard to ignore, tap on its messages. They aren’t true, and Tapping can help you realize that.

Because we need you to show up fully in the world, being the you that you are truly meant to be.

Happy Tapping!

-Nancy

business owners, Career Stress, confidence, EFT, entrepreneurs, Goals, growth, mental blocks, professional image, self image, self-confidence, self-sabotage, tapping

What I Learned about Imposter Syndrome from Getting Slapped Upside the Head By the Universe

Two weeks ago I talked about Imposter Syndrome.

Last week, the Universe laughed at me.

Watch my video to see what I learned from my own bout of Imposter Syndrome.

It was the beginning of a 24-hour virtual event put on by Harvard Alumni Entrepreneurs.

I figured “I’m an alum of the law school. I started my own business. These are my people!”

Boy, was that not how it felt.

As soon as I walked in the virtual “room” it hit me. These are real entrepreneurs. They are creating new apps. Talking to angel investors. Launching businesses they’ll sell for gazillions.

Not me. I don’t belong.

I’m a fraud.

And they’re going to find me out.

Look down on me.

Laugh at me.

Wow.

So I said my goodbyes and left quickly.

Let me be clear. Everyone I talked to was lovely. This was me. I was the one telling myself I didn’t belong. Telling myself I wasn’t good enough.

It was a total inside job.

Frankly, it was embarrassing.

I’m in the middle of exploring how Imposter Syndrome hits women leaders especially hard and explaining what to do about it.

Just do it anyway, I’d said. Eventually you’ll realize you are good enough, I’d said. And if that’s too hard, then just tap, I’d said.

I had it figured out.

And there I was. Totally caving to my own Imposter Syndrome.

So I took my own medicine. Went back into the event the next night. (I felt much better.)

I posted about my experiences in Facebook and was overwhelmed by the support I got.

Watch the video for the whole embarrassing story.

I learned a lot from this experience that I want to share.

First, it’s normal to feel like a fraud sometimes.

Second, many really successful women feel like an imposter sometimes. Having the feeling doesn’t mean you are not successful or capable of success.

And most importantly: if you feel like an imposter, know that it is not true.

Please don’t give into that feeling.

The world needs you.

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

business owners, EFT, entrepreneurs, Fear of Failure, Goals, keeping energy up, mental blocks, money, procrastination, self-confidence, self-sabotage, stress, tapping

What the News Is Doing To Your Old Money Stories

Have you noticed how all the bad economic news has activated you these days? My clients and I definitely have!

All the big lay-offs, so many small businesses going under, a tidal wave of unemployment—it’s bringing up a lot of fear and feelings of lack. And it’s activating old money stories.

When that happens, our negative feelings start running the show, affecting how we show up, what we do (or don’t do), and basically messing with our finances.

I go into more detail here.

Maybe you have one or more old money stories that is getting triggered now, something like:

I don’t deserve more.
Making money is too hard.
I’m no good with money.
There’s never enough.

If so, you’re probably not enjoying what you’re seeing in your financial picture.

When you’re seeing that kind of hit on your finances, one of the best things to do is to really clear out those limiting stories you have around money so you can get back in charge.

The best way to do that is with EFT—or “Tapping.”

To get some help with that, check out my Money Blocks BlockBuster Group, which is starting up again Friday, May 15, 2020. In each session we have group tapping on common money blocks as well as individual hotseats where we focus on your specific money stories so you can release and replace them.

For more information go to https://unblockresults.com/the-money-blocks-blockbuster-program/

Or just reach out to me at Nancy@UnblockResults.com. We’ll set up a call at no charge to figure out what your money story is and see if the group is right for you.

Don’t wait too long, though. There are only eight places total, and it’s already filling up. We start on Friday, May 15th—just a little over a week away. And I won’t offer another one until the Fall.

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The Science Behind Tapping

Someone recently asked me to talk about the science behind EFT/Tapping. It’s a question that doesn’t come up too often, but—being the research nerd I am—I was happy to explain what the science shows now.

Check out my new video about how Tapping works and the science behind it.

In the video I describe some of the research about Tapping and how it works. I also apply the theories to the work I do to explain how I think it makes the big changes it does for my clients.

Some of the examples I use show the changes to my clients’ blocks to allowing more money in and keeping it around. It is truly amazing for me to see the changes in my clients’ lives and their futures!

When you’re ready to create the financial life you want, email me to set up a call to talk about what’s going on with you and see if the Money Blocks BlockBuster Group is a fit for you.

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When a Reeeaaaaalllly Old Story Is Holding You Back

This one is pretty weird, I have to admit. But it’s come up for me and a number of clients, so I put together this video to tell you a bit about how a strange kind of “inheritance” caused me to procrastinate and what I did about it.

You might have a similar cause of procrastination if:

You’ve taken care of everything you can think of and something is still holding you back,
You feel like there’s an odd energy that gets in the way of your taking action,
There’s a story of someone in your family who was prevented from reaching their big goal or goals.

If any of that sounds like you (or you’re just curious), watch the video to find out more about what this is and how to take care of it.

Don’t let someone else’s story stop you! When you’re ready to stop procrastinating and create the life you are meant to live, email me. We’ll set up a call to talk about what’s going on with you and see if I can help.