A friend of mine was telling me about how overwhelmed she is by what’s going on in the Ukraine now. She’s got big reasons to be upset—her company has most of its operations based in that country, and she’s working hard to get all of her people to safety.
It got me thinking about what you can do to lower your stress over what is happening there, whether or not you are directly affected by the war that is happening right now.
So I shot this video of two simple steps to take right away.
Turn off the news as much as you can—entirely if you’re really feeling triggered. My friend can’t do that, but if you’re not directly affected, you can.
Donating to a cause like that will have a much more positive impact than just ratcheting up your stress by spending a lot of time reading the news.
Do the Zip Up regularly to shield yourself from all the emotional gunk swirling around. I teach the Zip Up to people who are strongly impacted by others’ energy and encourage them to use it at least daily. However, in times like these I notice a lot more people (including me) are feeling the negative energy around them too. To see how it’s done, watch the video.
Sending you love and light, and prayers for peace to all those affected by this war.
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Do you have an old patriarchal rule getting in the way of making, keeping or managing your money?
In the video I identify several, then walk you through a way to test each one to see if it’s in your subconscious:
Women often have an outdated rule or two about money from the Patriarchy rattling around in their subconscious.
Messing with their profitability.
Pretty much any rule that has “a man” or “men” in it probably has its roots in the Patriarchy. A really common one is “I shouldn’t make more than a man.”
You might also find the Patriarchy behind any rule that contains “a woman” or “women.” Like “Women can’t handle money well.”
Then there’s my favorite, “I should be taken care of by a man.” This one has tripped up more independent, confident clients than any of us ever expected.
Now, none of these powerful women consciously agree with any of these sexist, misogynistic statements.
They reject them. Absolutely.
But there they are, hiding out in their subconscious.
Luckily, once we’ve found one we can tap and release it for good.
Ready to discover some Patriarchal Profitability rules in your own subconscious?
Here’s how I do that with my clients.
First, I come up with a list of possible subconscious rules that might be getting in a client’s way.
I have my client repeat each one and rate it on a scale of 0-100 percent for how true or powerful it feels. (0=no power to it at all; 100=it feels totally true, even though you know it’s not.)
The higher the number, the more powerfully it’s holding you back.
There are different ways to get your rating: (i) emotionally—”it feels 82% true”; (ii) physically—like a punch in the gut or heaviness in your body that “feels 75% powerful”; or (iii) if you’re like me, you just have a number pop into your head and accept that as your rating.
Okay, here we go.
Read each statement from this list of a few common patriarchal profitability blocks out loud. (That makes a difference.) Then give it a rating from 0-100 percent for how true or powerful it feels to you.
“I shouldn’t make more than a man”
“I shouldn’t make more than my father.” [You can substitute “my brother” or another male relative.]
“Women can’t make more than men.”
“Women shouldn’t make more than men.”
“I don’t need to make as much as a man.”
“No one will love me if I make too much.”
“I should be taken care of by a man.”
“Women aren’t good with numbers.”
“Women don’t handle money well.”
“Women don’t make good decisions.”
“I’m not good with money.”
“I don’t handle money well.”
“I don’t make good decisions.”
Anything that’s got a charge over 10% will slow your Profitability down. And the higher the number, the bigger the effect it will have on you.
So did you have any high earners? Or do you have money issues that don’t seem to match up to what I had you say here?
I’d love to know. Just reply to this email and tell me what came up for you. (I read every email personally.)
One more thing. Just because you have an old rule in your subconscious does not mean you’re stuck with it.
It was holding my client back in spite of her already being really, really successful.
She’s known around the world in her field and has been featured on international stages.
Yet the fear of making a mistake had her refusing to let her talks be recorded. Keeping her playing smaller than she could.
She was afraid of making a mistake and having it out in the world. Forever.
And she was days away from having her presentation recorded.
No backing out.
And she was scared of screwing it up.
Watch the video to hear more.
(Spoiler alert: she did great!)
If you have a fear of screwing something up—like posting a video or doing some public speaking (which is America’s biggest phobia, by the way)—you’ve probably heard that the way to get past it is to just do the thing. Whatever it is.
Because then you’ll realize it wasn’t so terrible and you won’t be as afraid the next time.
And if you can just do that, then go for it!
But if you can’t just make yourself do the thing—if you’re toooooo afraid to push through—then use some tapping.
Tapping can make all the difference. (I’ve seen that happen over and over.)
Because when you’ve tapped down your fear of screwing up, you can just get out there and do the thing.
Whatever it is.
Screwing up doesn’t seem like such a big deal after all.
You’ll start thinking “If I make a mistake, so what?!”
“People need me to get out there.”
“Even if I make mistakes along the way.”
So let’s get you out there in a bigger way, helping those you’re here to reach.
Imposter Syndrome is the experience of feeling like you are not as competent as others see you.
So do you ever feel like you’re an imposter? Like you’re nowhere near as good as people are expecting?
Like you should just give up already and go do something easy so you don’t let anybody down?
I experienced Imposter Syndrome big time when I started at law school. Oh so many years ago.
Looking at the hundreds of students around me, I thought “They deserve to be here. Not me. I got in by mistake. Harvard’s going to figure it out any minute and show me the door.”
(That actually happened to someone once! More about that in my video.)
Turns out that a lot of my fellow law students, particularly the women I talked to, had the same feeling.
Eventually we got over it and decided that maybe we deserved to be there after all.
But sometimes the strategy of waiting until you get enough experience won’t work.
So what do you do when Imposter Syndrome keeps you stuck?
An incredibly accomplished woman came to me for help getting moving on her career. She was a star in her graduate program, where her professors expected her to become an influential muckety-muck in the world of therapy for autistic children.
She was passionate about the work. Excited to get started.
And two years later she was totally stuck because…
Watch the video to see how her Imposter Syndrome had limited her and what we did to release it.
If Imposter Syndrome has you questioning whether you’re really good enough to do what you’re capable of—and maybe even called to do—know that you don’t have to give in to it!
Even if you stumble along the way.
Even if you just know you’re not as good as they all think.
Even if you’re not perfect. (And who is?!)
What you do is valuable even if you don’t feel good enough, way down deep.
And if you can’t get started, or you drag your feet, because of the lies Imposter Syndrome is whispering in your ear, let’s talk.
Time to make your New Year’s resolutions. Maybe you plan to . . .
Finish that training you bought
Create your on-line course
Whatever it takes to grow your business to the next level.
You’re going to do it this time Right?!
And you start out strong. But then, in six months—Or six weeks. Or six days. Or six hours!—you find you’ve given up.
(Been there. Done that. Gave up on resolutions completely for awhile.)
But why? Why do we give up when it’s so important to us?
Well, what I’ve seen over and over again is that when your resolution goes against something in your subconscious—even if your subconscious is being irrational, illogical, or just plain stupid—your subconscious always wins.
No amount of willpower can push past your subconscious for long.
It just wears you down until you give up.
Three types of subconscious blocks I’ve seen a lot of are:
A belief that you need to do (or avoid) something to stay safe.
Others’ limiting expectations of you.
Seeing yourself in a limiting way. (Check out the video for examples of what each of these looks like.)
So what do you do if you can’t seem to follow through on your resolution?
Well, the fastest way to change I know of is to uncover your subconscious block and tap to release it.
If you don’t know how to do that (or you don’t have a tapping practitioner to work with), what I’d suggest is to create a daily tapping practice with your resolution. Here’s how:
Set aside at least 5 minutes every morning.
During that 5 minutes, visualize yourself taking the action you’ve resolved to take AND getting the results you want.
(And, most importantly) Tap while you visualize.
Tapping whittles away at the underlying fear, limiting belief, or whatever.
So it gets easier to follow through on your resolution and, eventually, create the “new you.” And new and improved business.
I know how frustrating it is to be able to see in your mind the life you want to live, but hold yourself back when it comes time to create it.
Over and over again, you start something—a plan, a project, a program—but then you lose momentum. What started out as a total commitment on your part turns into a might-have-been, just gathering dust on the shelf.
It is crazy-making!
And it doesn’t have to be this way.
You can follow through on your goals, creating—and living—the life you want. You just need to get rid of the subconscious blocks that have been getting in your way.
That’s exactly what I do with my clients. With Tapping we uncover and release the blocks that have been stopping them.
Then it’s easy for them to finish what they start. To reach that goal that’s been just out of reach for so long.
Next Monday (July 13th) in my virtual workshop for the Sage Sisters I’ll go into the details of how I do that. The workshop, “Using EFT/Tapping to Relieve Stress and Create the Life You Want,” runs from 7:30 to 9:30 pm Eastern Time / 4:30 to 6:30 pm Pacific Time.
At the workshop, you will—
Learn a simple technique to use anytime to lower your stress,
Get started uncovering the blocks that are keeping you from reaching your goals, and
Discover how to use Tapping to release those blocks, once and for all.
If you’ve been curious about what it’s like to tap with me but weren’t ready to go “all in,” this is for you. It’s only $2 and two hours of your time—an easy way to dip your toe in the water!
And if the price is too high for you during these times, I have free tickets to the workshop to give away to the first five people to reach out. So email me at Nancy[at]UnblockResults.com right away and I’ll tell you how to get them.