When the amazing Molly McGrath—podcast host of Hire & Empower and owner of Hiring & Empowering Solutions, a law firm management consultancy—invited me to her podcast to talk about how Tapping can help lawyers and those who work with them, I jumped on the opportunity.
Listen to the podcast—
—or watch and tap along with the interview:
You can also tune in to Molly’s “Hire & Empower” podcast here.
Here are some of the highlights of what Molly and I talked about.
Many people have subconscious blocks preventing them from asking for more money and getting more clients. Tapping can release those and other blocks you uncover.
Anything happening in your business or personal life can affect your company.
It only takes a few minutes to Tap to lower your stress and think better.
People feel like they can’t hire until they make more money, but hiring earlier actually opens up opportunities as well as the capacity to bring in more business and make more money.
People tend to internalize how hard they have to work, especially by feeling like they have to stay late and be more stressed.
You also get to hear a bit about my nine years as an attorney. Back in the Dark Ages. Bonus!
Molly and I did two types of Tapping for stress, which lawyers and those who work in law firms often need. Desperately.
Tap along with us. Aspirin Tapping for stress (a very simple approach) starts at 18:10. Stream-of-Consciousness style Tapping for stress (a more in-depth style) starts at 26:42 on the podcast.
Have you ever wondered what an actual Tapping session with me looks like?
Watch the video to see me do some Tapping with someone who has never worked with me before.
Jill was on a money roller coaster. Her business coaching women leaders to step into their full potential was doing well, but she knew it could do better. She just had to get off the roller coaster and change the repeating pattern of having good money months followed by some slim months.
Jill had never worked with me before. She was gracious—and brave!—in agreeing to record a session so you could see what a first session with me might look like.
Together we uncovered a subconscious block that had been fueling the roller coaster she was on. Using Tapping in several different ways, we brought down her block of “I’m not good enough to be rich” from feeling 100% powerful down to 43% powerful.
I’ve recorded several short sessions like this one with women entrepreneurs in different fields and on different issues to share with you over the next weeks. In them (which you can view here), you’ll get to see me work with people new to Tapping and with people who are old pros at it. You’ll also see some of the different ways I approach and release subconscious success blocks.
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A client asked me to create a tap-along video for her to take her from worrying about money to feeling confident that plenty is already on its way.
Watch the video to hear more.
If you’re into Law of Attraction (as my client is), you know that worrying about something can slow down the arrival of what you want. So it takes longer to bring in the money you’re hoping for.
Worse, your worry may actually make that thing you’re worried about happen.
That means worrying about not having enough money may lead to not having enough money.
So by all means stop worrying about it!
But even if you’re not buying this manifesting-what-you-want-or-don’t-want-by-how-you-feel malarkey (as critics might say), there are still a couple of really good reasons to let go of any worrying about finances you’re doing. Especially if you’re a business owner.
First, that worry will pull your focus and energy off of actions that will bring in the cash. That can definitely slow down your income. (A bit of a self-fulfilling prophecy there.)
Second, worrying makes you less…attractive…to potential clients and customers.
Think about it. When you see someone under a cloud of worry, does that inspire confidence in you? Do you want to work with them? Buy from them?
Didn’t think so.
So when you’re worrying, you’re not showing up at your best, and probably costing yourself some money that way.
What’s the answer?
Stop worrying about money.
Maybe that doesn’t sound so easy when the bills are piling up. But you can do it with some Tapping.
Here’s a pattern I often use to lower clients’ money worries: start tapping while saying all the things you’re worried about.
Not selling enough programs. Not being able to pay your team. Having to go live under a bridge. That sort of thing.
Then (still tapping) remind yourself of all the times you’ve gotten out of difficult situations. All the times money has shown up when you needed it. How you survived even when it didn’t. (You must have, right? You’re still standing!)
At this point clients often get a feeling that God/Goddess/the Universe/their Higher Selves are looking out for them. Even when money is tight.
Tap on that, too.
Tapping in this pattern gets Worry to loosen up so you can put your focus and energy on things you can do that are muuuuuuch more productive than biting your nails.
If you’d like some help lowering your own worries—whether about money or about something else—so you can grow your business, just email me. We’ll set up a time to talk about what’s going on with you and if tapping can help.
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When you realize that there’s something inside of you holding you and your business back, it can be totally frustrating.
You can also start blaming yourself.
It’s just a subconscious success block that you internalized without realizing it that’s been getting in your way.
A subconscious successblock is a message or rule in your subconscious that is sabotaging your conscious plans for your business.
Everyone has internalized rules and beliefs in their subconscious. Some are actually helpful, like don’t walk alone down dark alleys; some…not so much.
But how do those success blocks get into your subconscious in the first place?
You can usually trace them back to old programming that came from—
Explicit messages spoken to or around you,
Implicit messages from what you observed,
Decisions you made from experiences you had.
I describe several subconscious success blocks and where they came from in the video:
Often they come from messages and observations in childhood.
Sometimes they are internalized warnings from something powerful that happened in adulthood.
Sometimes these messages were internalized from religion, the media, or the community around you.
But no matter where they come from, no amount of willpower, or logic, can fully get beyond these once they’re in your subconscious.
They will at least take energy to push past. Energy you could use for something better.
If you don’t want to be slowed down or stopped by your own subconscious, you need to dig those blocks up and release them.
That’s what I do both with my one-on-one clients and in my MVP Clubs—small groups of women leaders who know they’re meant for more where we identify and tap to release blocks in the areas of Mindset, Visibility, and Profitability.
(By the way, in the video I talk about the next MVP Club. I’m afraid it’s all sold out now. But there’ll be another one—promise. I’ll tell you more in a bit.)
So if you realize that you’re holding your business back, look for the subconscious blocks getting in your way and release them.
To get some help with that, just reach out. We’ll talk about what’s going on with you, what’s getting in your way, and if Tapping is a fit.
So if you’re a woman entrepreneur and haven’t joined a group like this yet, please find one that can give you that kind of emotional support, share resources you need, show you what’s possible, and cheer you on as you grow—whether that’s the MVP Club or another group of positive, supportive women leaders.
And if the MVP Club is calling to you, I’m starting a new one.
Just reach out. We’ll set up a time to talk about what’s holding you back and see if the MVP Club is a fit.
Do you have an old patriarchal rule getting in the way of making, keeping or managing your money?
In the video I identify several, then walk you through a way to test each one to see if it’s in your subconscious:
Women often have an outdated rule or two about money from the Patriarchy rattling around in their subconscious.
Messing with their profitability.
Pretty much any rule that has “a man” or “men” in it probably has its roots in the Patriarchy. A really common one is “I shouldn’t make more than a man.”
You might also find the Patriarchy behind any rule that contains “a woman” or “women.” Like “Women can’t handle money well.”
Then there’s my favorite, “I should be taken care of by a man.” This one has tripped up more independent, confident clients than any of us ever expected.
Now, none of these powerful women consciously agree with any of these sexist, misogynistic statements.
They reject them. Absolutely.
But there they are, hiding out in their subconscious.
Luckily, once we’ve found one we can tap and release it for good.
Ready to discover some Patriarchal Profitability rules in your own subconscious?
Here’s how I do that with my clients.
First, I come up with a list of possible subconscious rules that might be getting in a client’s way.
I have my client repeat each one and rate it on a scale of 0-100 percent for how true or powerful it feels. (0=no power to it at all; 100=it feels totally true, even though you know it’s not.)
The higher the number, the more powerfully it’s holding you back.
There are different ways to get your rating: (i) emotionally—”it feels 82% true”; (ii) physically—like a punch in the gut or heaviness in your body that “feels 75% powerful”; or (iii) if you’re like me, you just have a number pop into your head and accept that as your rating.
Okay, here we go.
Read each statement from this list of a few common patriarchal profitability blocks out loud. (That makes a difference.) Then give it a rating from 0-100 percent for how true or powerful it feels to you.
“I shouldn’t make more than a man”
“I shouldn’t make more than my father.” [You can substitute “my brother” or another male relative.]
“Women can’t make more than men.”
“Women shouldn’t make more than men.”
“I don’t need to make as much as a man.”
“No one will love me if I make too much.”
“I should be taken care of by a man.”
“Women aren’t good with numbers.”
“Women don’t handle money well.”
“Women don’t make good decisions.”
“I’m not good with money.”
“I don’t handle money well.”
“I don’t make good decisions.”
Anything that’s got a charge over 10% will slow your Profitability down. And the higher the number, the bigger the effect it will have on you.
So did you have any high earners? Or do you have money issues that don’t seem to match up to what I had you say here?
I’d love to know. Just reply to this email and tell me what came up for you. (I read every email personally.)
One more thing. Just because you have an old rule in your subconscious does not mean you’re stuck with it.
I have something a little different to share with you this week—an on-air coaching session with my sales mentor, the incredible Nikki Rausch (a/k/a The Sales Maven), that we recorded for her podcast.
I talk a little about my background and how my life experiences and my desire to change people’s lives for the better led me to where I am today: getting rid of people’s subconscious blocks, especially for women and women entrepreneurs.
I also talk about the origin of my MVP (Mindset, Visiblity, and Profitability) solution for getting rid of blocks and the MVP Club I host.
And all of this is part of a great 1:1 sales coaching session.
Please listen-in on our conversation:
(You can also visit the page for my episode of Nikki’s podcast here.)
You’ll hear me talk a bit about the results my clients get, different ways I work, and about the MVP Club itself—small groups of women entrepreneurs and leaders in which we release what holds them back from their bigger vision using Tapping.
Then you’ll get Nikki’s great suggestions for filling small group programs like the MVP Club.
Nikki’s podcasts—and trainings, and books, and workshops, and give-aways—are always full of useful information on ways to sell without ending up feeling covered in slime.
Instead, she teaches how to sell as a service to others, always keeping your relationships with them the priority.
When you talk with her on Zoom, or meet with her in person (I’ve done both), you experience how truly genuine Nikki is. Even when you know that she has her selling hat on, you know that you are important to her, that she cares about you as a person.
And that’s the approach she teaches.
I belong to Nikki’s Sales Maven Society and have been privately coached by her. I highly recommend working with her, or at least signing up for her weekly emails.
Just know, if you do work with Nikki I won’t get anything except the satisfaction of helping you find an amazing resource for learning to sell.
And yes, I’ll be implementing what Nikki recommended when I open my next MVP Club in the fall.
One of the most common questions I’m asked about EFT/Tapping is “How does it work?”
For the full answer, watch my video.
Here’s my abbreviated answer.
For a long time my answer was two-fold. First, I’d say no one really knows how it works, but I don’t care because I know it does andthere’s research that shows it is effective.
Second, there was research that showed acupuncture and acupressure, which use the same points as Tapping, send a message of safety and calm to the amygdala in the brain that interrupts old connections there that trigger emotional responses.
The research has advanced since then. Now it tells us:
• Tapping leads to the downregulation of the amygdala, including a measurable lowering of the stress hormone cortisol. (Kinda the same thing I was saying in the past about that message of safety and calm, but in a more academic tone.)
• The results hold after we stop tapping because of Memory Reconsolidation, a way to permanently change the emotional component of a traumatic memory.
This explains why Tapping is a great way to release Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and phobias, but it still doesn’t exactly explain why MY tapping works.
Watch the video for my best guess on why Tapping works on success blocks like clients’ money ceilings.
When releasing subconscious success blocks, I rarely work directly with specific memories anymore. Many of these blocks come from multiple messages and years of experiences in childhood, many of which were not traumatic.
Plus, I’ve found—and created—faster Tapping techniques to effectively and permanently release success blocks than going through memories, one after the other, to get rid of all their emotional content.
So, while I believe I am using Tapping to send the message of safety and calm to the amygdala (i.e., “downregulating” it), I don’t know that I’m doing “Memory Reconsolidation” to make the changes permanent.
I’m guessing that there is some sort of Memory Reconsolidation for ideas that’s happening in the brain.
So I’m back to saying Tapping works on my clients’ subconscious success blocks. I don’t really know how, but I know that it does.
I’ll have to wait for the research to catch up to me to explain it all with hard science.