What Caused Your Subconscious Success Block?

When you realize that there’s something inside of you holding you and your business back, it can be totally frustrating.

You can also start blaming yourself.

Please don’t!

It’s just a subconscious success block that you internalized without realizing it that’s been getting in your way.

A subconscious success block is a message or rule in your subconscious that is sabotaging your conscious plans for your business.

Everyone has internalized rules and beliefs in their subconscious. Some are actually helpful, like don’t walk alone down dark alleys; some…not so much.

But how do those success blocks get into your subconscious in the first place?

You can usually trace them back to old programming that came from—

  • Explicit messages spoken to or around you,
  • Implicit messages from what you observed,
  • Decisions you made from experiences you had.

I describe several subconscious success blocks and where they came from in the video:

Often they come from messages and observations in childhood.

Sometimes they are internalized warnings from something powerful that happened in adulthood.

Sometimes these messages were internalized from religion, the media, or the community around you.

But no matter where they come from, no amount of willpower, or logic, can fully get beyond these once they’re in your subconscious.

They will at least take energy to push past. Energy you could use for something better.

If you don’t want to be slowed down or stopped by your own subconscious, you need to dig those blocks up and release them.

That’s what I do both with my one-on-one clients and in my MVP Clubs—small groups of women leaders who know they’re meant for more where we identify and tap to release blocks in the areas of Mindset, Visibility, and Profitability.

(By the way, in the video I talk about the next MVP Club. I’m afraid it’s all sold out now. But there’ll be another one—promise. I’ll tell you more in a bit.)

So if you realize that you’re holding your business back, look for the subconscious blocks getting in your way and release them.

To get some help with that, just reach out. We’ll talk about what’s going on with you, what’s getting in your way, and if Tapping is a fit.

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

The Secret Ingredient Every Woman Entrepreneur Needs

There’s one thing every woman entrepreneur needs to grow her business and reach her potential.

To really succeed, we need a supportive group of other women business owners.

Why? Well, three reasons:

  1. You’ll fast forward your growth. The women in the group know the things you don’t even know you don’t know, and they share resources and can answer your questions quickly.
  2. Being around other women business owners who are growing expands your thinking. You start to realize you can do a whole lot more.
  3. Finally, it’s lonely being a business owner. Other women business owners will encourage you to keep going when your latest launch falls flat and cheer you on when you have your best month ever.

Turns out my MVP Clubs give exactly that kind of support to each other.

It wasn’t what I had in mind when I created them. The plan was only that an MVP Club would—

  • Be a place for women to release blocks in the three areas women leaders often hold themselves back subconsciously, and
  • Help members uncover and release blocks they didn’t know they had by tapping along with others in the group.

That’s what I expected to happen, and it has. Much more than I expected.

But what has also happened—every time I’ve run a group—is that the women become incredibly supportive of each other.

There is amazing power in this. Everyone feels accepted and knows that they’re not the only one struggling with tough issues.

And everyone gets encouragement to do much more than they ever thought they could.

Which leads to big growth.

You can find out more about the MVP Club at
https://unblockresults.com/the-mvp-club/

So if you’re a woman entrepreneur and haven’t joined a group like this yet, please find one that can give you that kind of emotional support, share resources you need, show you what’s possible, and cheer you on as you grow—whether that’s the MVP Club or another group of positive, supportive women leaders.

And if the MVP Club is calling to you, I’m starting a new one.

Just reach out. We’ll set up a time to talk about what’s holding you back and see if the MVP Club is a fit.

Hope I hear from you soon

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

Use This to Find Out If the Patriarchy is Preventing Your Profitability

Do you have an old patriarchal rule getting in the way of making, keeping or managing your money?

In the video I identify several, then walk you through a way to test each one to see if it’s in your subconscious:

Women often have an outdated rule or two about money from the Patriarchy rattling around in their subconscious.

Messing with their profitability.

Pretty much any rule that has “a man” or “men” in it probably has its roots in the Patriarchy. A really common one is “I shouldn’t make more than a man.”

You might also find the Patriarchy behind any rule that contains “a woman” or “women.” Like “Women can’t handle money well.”

Then there’s my favorite, “I should be taken care of by a man.” This one has tripped up more independent, confident clients than any of us ever expected.

Now, none of these powerful women consciously agree with any of these sexist, misogynistic statements.

They reject them. Absolutely.

But there they are, hiding out in their subconscious.

Luckily, once we’ve found one we can tap and release it for good.

Ready to discover some Patriarchal Profitability rules in your own subconscious?

Here’s how I do that with my clients.

First, I come up with a list of possible subconscious rules that might be getting in a client’s way.

I have my client repeat each one and rate it on a scale of 0-100 percent for how true or powerful it feels. (0=no power to it at all; 100=it feels totally true, even though you know it’s not.)

The higher the number, the more powerfully it’s holding you back.

There are different ways to get your rating: (i) emotionally—”it feels 82% true”; (ii) physically—like a punch in the gut or heaviness in your body that “feels 75% powerful”; or (iii) if you’re like me, you just have a number pop into your head and accept that as your rating.

Okay, here we go.

Read each statement from this list of a few common patriarchal profitability blocks out loud. (That makes a difference.) Then give it a rating from 0-100 percent for how true or powerful it feels to you.

  • “I shouldn’t make more than a man”
  • “I shouldn’t make more than my father.” [You can substitute “my brother” or another male relative.]
  • “Women can’t make more than men.”
  • “Women shouldn’t make more than men.”
  • “I don’t need to make as much as a man.”
  • “No one will love me if I make too much.”
  • “I should be taken care of by a man.”
  • “Women aren’t good with numbers.”
  • “Women don’t handle money well.”
  • “Women don’t make good decisions.”
  • “I’m not good with money.”
  • “I don’t handle money well.”
  • “I don’t make good decisions.”

Anything that’s got a charge over 10% will slow your Profitability down. And the higher the number, the bigger the effect it will have on you.

So did you have any high earners? Or do you have money issues that don’t seem to match up to what I had you say here?

I’d love to know. Just reply to this email and tell me what came up for you. (I read every email personally.)

One more thing. Just because you have an old rule in your subconscious does not mean you’re stuck with it.

You can get rid of it.

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

My Session with a Master Sales Coach

I have something a little different to share with you this week—an on-air coaching session with my sales mentor, the incredible Nikki Rausch (a/k/a The Sales Maven), that we recorded for her podcast.

I talk a little about my background and how my life experiences and my desire to change people’s lives for the better led me to where I am today: getting rid of people’s subconscious blocks, especially for women and women entrepreneurs.

I also talk about the origin of my MVP (Mindset, Visiblity, and Profitability) solution for getting rid of blocks and the MVP Club I host.

And all of this is part of a great 1:1 sales coaching session.

Please listen-in on our conversation:

(You can also visit the page for my episode of Nikki’s podcast here.)

You’ll hear me talk a bit about the results my clients get, different ways I work, and about the MVP Club itself—small groups of women entrepreneurs and leaders in which we release what holds them back from their bigger vision using Tapping.

Then you’ll get Nikki’s great suggestions for filling small group programs like the MVP Club.

Nikki’s podcasts—and trainings, and books, and workshops, and give-aways—are always full of useful information on ways to sell without ending up feeling covered in slime.

Instead, she teaches how to sell as a service to others, always keeping your relationships with them the priority.

When you talk with her on Zoom, or meet with her in person (I’ve done both), you experience how truly genuine Nikki is. Even when you know that she has her selling hat on, you know that you are important to her, that she cares about you as a person.

And that’s the approach she teaches.

I belong to Nikki’s Sales Maven Society and have been privately coached by her. I highly recommend working with her, or at least signing up for her weekly emails.

Just know, if you do work with Nikki I won’t get anything except the satisfaction of helping you find an amazing resource for learning to sell.

And yes, I’ll be implementing what Nikki recommended when I open my next MVP Club in the fall.

Happy Tapping!
—Nancy

How Does EFT/Tapping Work?

One of the most common questions I’m asked about EFT/Tapping is “How does it work?”

For the full answer, watch my video.

Here’s my abbreviated answer.

For a long time my answer was two-fold. First, I’d say no one really knows how it works, but I don’t care because I know it does and there’s research that shows it is effective.

Second, there was research that showed acupuncture and acupressure, which use the same points as Tapping, send a message of safety and calm to the amygdala in the brain that interrupts old connections there that trigger emotional responses.

The research has advanced since then. Now it tells us:

• Tapping leads to the downregulation of the amygdala, including a measurable lowering of the stress hormone cortisol. (Kinda the same thing I was saying in the past about that message of safety and calm, but in a more academic tone.)

• The results hold after we stop tapping because of Memory Reconsolidation, a way to permanently change the emotional component of a traumatic memory.

This explains why Tapping is a great way to release Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and phobias, but it still doesn’t exactly explain why MY tapping works.

Watch the video for my best guess on why Tapping works on success blocks like clients’ money ceilings.

When releasing subconscious success blocks, I rarely work directly with specific memories anymore. Many of these blocks come from multiple messages and years of experiences in childhood, many of which were not traumatic.

Plus, I’ve found—and created—faster Tapping techniques to effectively and permanently release success blocks than going through memories, one after the other, to get rid of all their emotional content.

So, while I believe I am using Tapping to send the message of safety and calm to the amygdala (i.e., “downregulating” it), I don’t know that I’m doing “Memory Reconsolidation” to make the changes permanent.

I’m guessing that there is some sort of Memory Reconsolidation for ideas that’s happening in the brain.

So I’m back to saying Tapping works on my clients’ subconscious success blocks. I don’t really know how, but I know that it does.

I’ll have to wait for the research to catch up to me to explain it all with hard science.

Hope that was interesting.

Until next time . . .

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

Why Extra Money Doesn’t Stick Around

Think about the last time you had some extra money. Not just a couple bucks (or pounds or euros)—a significant amount.

What happened?

If you’re like most people, that extra money just . . . went away.

Maybe an unexpected bill came in.

Or you found some great opportunity to spend it on.

Or for some reason the next month—or two, or three—was lean, with less income than usual.

It’s not just you. This happens all the time.

But why?

Watch my video for an in-depth look at why your subconscious may be making the “extra” money just go away:

Well, the short answer is that having that extra money (i) doesn’t match how you see yourself and (ii) conflicts with your internalized, subconscious beliefs around money.

Let’s start with those subconscious beliefs, which I call “success blocks.” Some of the common success blocks you might have are:

  • A subconscious belief that rich people are bad, greedy, or evil. So your subconscious protects you from becoming one of them by getting rid of the money as fast as possible.

  • A feeling that having too much isn’t safe—because you’ll be rejected, or targeted, or it will get taken away. So, again, your subconscious protects you by making sure you don’t keep it.

  • A money ceiling—an amount that fits the lifestyle you grew up with. Even though you’re capable of bringing in more, your subconscious puts the brakes on whenever you start to make that happen.

Those are just a few of the common success blocks around money my clients come to me with. And there’s lots more.

If you’ve been through enough of those experiences where you can’t seem to hold on to extra money or sustain that level of income, you may start to see yourself consciously as unlucky.

Or no good with money.

Or a bad business person.

It’s really none of those things. It’s just that your subconscious needs to be changed.

That’s where Tapping comes in. It’s the only way I’ve found to actually change the subconscious.

First, identify and tap to release your negative success blocks around money.

Then create and internalize a new identity—a new picture of who you are with more money. Tapping can help with that, too.

(Some people will tell you that you should skip straight to changing your internalized identity around money. That can work, but if your subconscious success blocks are too strong your new picture just won’t stick. That’s why I release the old blocks first.)

Then, with the old blocks gone and the new identity internalized, you’ll start to let the money in. And keep it.

Because your subconscious will accept that higher level of income as your “new normal.”

If you’d like some help creating a new normal for your income, just reply to this email. Let’s talk about what’s going on with you and see if Tapping may be the way to let more money in for you.

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

It’s Hard Right Now—I Hope These Make It Easier.

A lot of people are struggling.

If you’re not—if everything is going great for you right now—that’s wonderful!

But life is still hard for many people, so if that’s you, please know that you’re not alone.

It isn’t just what we’re going through with the pandemic. There are a lot of people going through really hard times now for many reasons that the rest of us don’t know about.

And I know that it’s hitting business owners in all kinds of ways, both personally and professionally.

So…

I’ve got three things to tell you about that I hope will help.

Watch the video for all the details:

First of all, here are two free opportunities:

  • Free tickets to a 3-day virtual retreat starting Wednesday, May 12, 2021. If you’ve been thinking about writing (a book, articles, emails, even better social media copy) and want to leverage what you write for more impact and money, you’ll get powerful training at the Writing for Impact retreat.

    I’ll be one of the speakers on Friday, so you can come as my guest. Get your ticket at https://saraconnellcoaching.lpages.co/grant-spring-retreat-opt-in-page/

  • Three free tap-along videos to shift common blocks. You’ll get these when you take my Uncover Your Success Blocks quiz for business owners and find out where your subconscious success blocks fall—in Mindset, Visibility, or Profitability.

    Take the quiz at https://unblockresults.com/qz.

Finally, I’m holding a Quickstart Session day next week on Tuesday, May 18th.

I rarely offer these sessions, but I’ve set aside six 45-minute slots for people who have never worked with me before to come in and tap one-on-one with me.

My specialty is releasing subconscious success blocks that hold entrepreneurs back from what they want for their businesses, like more clients, more visibility, and more money. I’m happy to work on any of those, of course.

But for this day, you don’t have to be an entrepreneur. And you can work on anything you want. (Well except for mental health issues. The Law won’t let me do that.)

I’m offering these QS Sessions at a much reduced price. Usually they’re $347. On the 18th, they’re $97.

If you want one, just reply to this email. I’ll let you know what times are available and send you an invoice.

So the sooner you decide, the more times will be available.

(If you’re a current or former client, maybe someone you know could really use this right now. Please feel free to forward this email to them and tell them why you think working with me could help.)

Please take me up on whichever of these calls to you.

Until next time . . .

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

The Three Internal Blocks Most Women Face

Women leaders have a lot to contend with out there in the world that male leaders don’t—cultural expectations, laws, even violence.

Those external blocks definitely have to be changed!

But what holds most women back more than anything else is their internal blocks.

The subconscious rules and beliefs they’ve internalized that have them stop themselves before they ever come up against any external block.

Have you noticed you stopping yourself?

I definitely know I’ve held myself back at times.

What I’ve found from working with many women business owners is that these internal blocks fall into three categories.

  • Mindset—how you see yourself subconsciously as a leader. Do you know you deserve to lead a great team and have your voice heard? Or do you find yourself settling for what’s “good enough?”
  • Visibility—how you show up. Do you let yourself speak and write powerfully and consistently in your networking, on stage, and on camera? Are you letting others see the real you? Or are you hiding by trying to do things the “right” way?
  • Profitability—this covers all things money. Are you making the kind of money you are capable of and your peers seem to bring in easily? Do you manage it well, or does it seem like you can never get ahead? Do you use your money to grow your impact?

(That’s why I started my MVP Club for women leaders, where we release blocks in those three areas.)

Monday was International Women’s Day.

I did a short video celebrating and talking about how we need more women leaders now, how women hold themselves back in these three areas more than men, and what to do about it.

Watch the video here.

If you have any blocks in any of those three areas, please know this.

You are here for a reason.

You are needed now more than ever.

Because no one can do what you do in the way you do it.

So if you find you are holding yourself back, pleeeeeeease find someone to release those blocks.

You know me. I’m big on using Tapping to get rid of internal blocks, but if Tapping’s not for you please find another modality that works.

You don’t have to be stuck with internal blocks holding you back.

Be the leader that the World needs you to be now.

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

What Does Success Look Like For You?

How do you define success?

As one of my clients reminded me, it’s important to get clear on what success means to you. Otherwise, you’re going to be chasing somebody else’s dream, not following your own.

Here’s how she turned her back on the conventional view of success, and the two questions that can help you define it for yourself:

So don’t just listen to the next “guru” who says—

You need to make a certain amount each month to be successful.

Or build a following of tens of thousands of people on FB.

Or write a book.

Or launch an online program.

Or anything else.

Get clear on what “success” looks like for you.

What you truly want.

To figure that out, ask yourself two questions:

What do you want your life to look like? Do you want to speak to thousands around the world? Make a ton of money? Work less and spend more time with family? Or something else?

What kind of legacy do you want to leave? Do you want to set your family up financially to follow their dreams? Train a small group in a method you’ve created so it lives on after you’re gone? Or . . .

Clients have come to me to release blocks to knowing what they want. Once a block was gone, they could go after what they wanted. (Their version of success.)

But let’s be clear—Tapping freed them up to know their own heart and mind.

I didn’t tell them what they wanted. Or how to be “successful.”

They decided for themselves.

You get to do that too.

So don’t let anyone else tell you what success is.

Not even me. 😉

I firmly believe that, the more you follow what calls to your own heart, the more of an impact you will have.

Whatever that impact is meant to be.

That’s how you become the leader you’re meant to be.

That’s the leader the world needs now.

And that’s true success.

I’d love to know what success looks like for you. Please shoot me a message or email me at Nancy@UnblockResults.com. Tell me what calls to your heart.

Until next time . . .

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

If You’ve Been Holding Yourself Back…

Last week I realized something.

In fact, it was a Divine Download. (I didn’t even know I could have one of those!)

Watch the video to hear about how it showed up for me.

Here’s what I journaled:

It’s time for all people with a bigger vision—who want to help others, who want to change the world, or just their corner of the world—to step up.

It’s time for you to have more money. A lot more money. Money to pay for the support and wield the influence you need to do what you are called to do. For all of us.

It’s time for you to trust yourself. To know you are right. To know that you are here to make a big difference.

It’s time for you to stop playing small. To let yourself be seen.

To step up and lead.

No more “Who, me? I’m not that important.”

YES. YOU. ARE!

The world needs you, now more than ever.

The world needs the biggest you that you can be.

It’s not just about taking care of yourself and your family (although that is important).

It’s about being fully you. Bringing all the power you have to your purpose so you can have the biggest impact.

To counteract what’s wrong in the world now.

The time for playing small is over.

You are called to something too important to let your old way of thinking and being hold you back.

It’s time to leave that behind.

To step up.

To lead.

For that you need money. You need support. You need visibility.

You need to believe in yourself.

So do what it takes to release what’s holding you back.

The world can’t wait anymore.

We need you NOW.

So that’s what I journaled last week. (Well, I cleaned it up a bit. But not much.)

I wanted you to see it.

Because you and your purpose are too important to play small.

The world needs the leader you can be.

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy