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The investment in the MVP Club goes up on January 1, 2022, to $1700, or three payments of $625.
When you invest in the club before the end of the year, you’ll pay the 2021 rate — only $1500 or three easy payments of $550.
You’re welcome to reach out for more info. I’m happy to hop on a call to talk about it, answer any questions you have, and get you enrolled at the lower rate. Please reply to this email and we’ll set up a time to talk before the end of 2021.
Is it time to make this change? Don’t wait! As I said, you won’t receive any more emails about this special offer.
Expense it now and set yourself up for 2022, before it’s too late.
There’s one thing every woman entrepreneur needs to grow her business and reach her potential.
To really succeed, we need a supportive group of other women business owners.
Why? Well, three reasons:
You’ll fast forward your growth. The women in the group know the things you don’t even know you don’t know, and they share resources and can answer your questions quickly.
Being around other women business owners who are growing expands your thinking. You start to realize you can do a whole lot more.
Finally, it’s lonely being a business owner. Other women business owners will encourage you to keep going when your latest launch falls flat and cheer you on when you have your best month ever.
Turns out my MVP Clubs give exactly that kind of support to each other.
It wasn’t what I had in mind when I created them. The plan was only that an MVP Club would—
Be a place for women to release blocks in the three areas women leaders often hold themselves back subconsciously, and
Help members uncover and release blocks they didn’t know they had by tapping along with others in the group.
That’s what I expected to happen, and it has. Much more than I expected.
But what has also happened—every time I’ve run a group—is that the women become incredibly supportive of each other.
There is amazing power in this. Everyone feels accepted and knows that they’re not the only one struggling with tough issues.
And everyone gets encouragement to do much more than they ever thought they could.
So if you’re a woman entrepreneur and haven’t joined a group like this yet, please find one that can give you that kind of emotional support, share resources you need, show you what’s possible, and cheer you on as you grow—whether that’s the MVP Club or another group of positive, supportive women leaders.
And if the MVP Club is calling to you, I’m starting a new one.
Just reach out. We’ll set up a time to talk about what’s holding you back and see if the MVP Club is a fit.
I’ve set aside some times for you in my calendar this week and next to talk about what’s going on with you, answer any questions you have, and—if there’s a fit—get you enrolled. Just hit reply to this email and we can set up a time to talk.
I can’t wait for you to meet the other great women in the MVP Club!
Old patriarchal rules have been showing up in my MVP clients’ subconscious, mucking up their Visibility.
How? Let me ‘splain.
In the MVP Framework I use, Visibility (the “V” in MVP) is about getting in front of a bigger audience, whether through your writing, videos, in-person speaking, or any way you reach the people you’re here for.
Patriarchal muck limiting our Visibility has seeped deep into the subconscious of many women. Even the most successful ones!
Watch to get details on some of the worst patriarchal rules for visibility and where they can come from.
This old patriarchal slime can show up in a number of ways, perhaps sounding like “No one wants to hear what I have to say.”
If you catch yourself muttering something like that to yourself, you might have internalized this slam to your ego when:
Your raised hand was passed over at school in favor of a boy’s. Over and over again.
Or you were regularly talked over at work.
Or your ideas were ignored until a male colleague put them forward as his own, when suddenly they were accepted by the boss as pure brilliance.
Or maybe, like many of us, your mother gave you the message to not speak up or stand out. She probably did it to keep you safe, but still .…
And even though the crud no longer serves you (if it ever did), there it is in your subconscious, getting triggered whenever you risk being seen in a much bigger way.
Another old bit of patriarchal sludge a lot of women have is “It’s not safe to be seen.”
One client had a nasty example of this.
She’s amazing and has something big to get out in the world, something that’s going to change lives.
But she was dragging her feet getting her program out there.
When we went digging for reasons why, up popped a co-worker from an early job.
This jack@$$ made crude comments about her. Followed her around, leering at her. Acted as if he had a right to treat her any way he wanted.
Ever since then, her subconscious has made her hesitant to stand out. To speak up. To be noticed.
It was afraid she’d attract another jerk.
(Just so you know, this has happened to quite a few of my clients. And friends. And relations. Sigh.)
So in one session we tapped on that experience. Now she’s marketing with enthusiasm, excited about all the attention she’s going to get when she gets her program out in the world.
Does any of this sound like you? Do you find yourself reluctant to get out there and be seen in a bigger way?
Maybe it really IS the patriarchy!
And it’s time to change it.
Hit “Reply.” Let’s set up a time to talk about what’s going on with you and how we might change it.
I have something a little different to share with you this week—an on-air coaching session with my sales mentor, the incredible Nikki Rausch (a/k/a The Sales Maven), that we recorded for her podcast.
I talk a little about my background and how my life experiences and my desire to change people’s lives for the better led me to where I am today: getting rid of people’s subconscious blocks, especially for women and women entrepreneurs.
I also talk about the origin of my MVP (Mindset, Visiblity, and Profitability) solution for getting rid of blocks and the MVP Club I host.
And all of this is part of a great 1:1 sales coaching session.
Please listen-in on our conversation:
(You can also visit the page for my episode of Nikki’s podcast here.)
You’ll hear me talk a bit about the results my clients get, different ways I work, and about the MVP Club itself—small groups of women entrepreneurs and leaders in which we release what holds them back from their bigger vision using Tapping.
Then you’ll get Nikki’s great suggestions for filling small group programs like the MVP Club.
Nikki’s podcasts—and trainings, and books, and workshops, and give-aways—are always full of useful information on ways to sell without ending up feeling covered in slime.
Instead, she teaches how to sell as a service to others, always keeping your relationships with them the priority.
When you talk with her on Zoom, or meet with her in person (I’ve done both), you experience how truly genuine Nikki is. Even when you know that she has her selling hat on, you know that you are important to her, that she cares about you as a person.
And that’s the approach she teaches.
I belong to Nikki’s Sales Maven Society and have been privately coached by her. I highly recommend working with her, or at least signing up for her weekly emails.
Just know, if you do work with Nikki I won’t get anything except the satisfaction of helping you find an amazing resource for learning to sell.
And yes, I’ll be implementing what Nikki recommended when I open my next MVP Club in the fall.
In working with the women in my MVP Clubs to release their subconscious blocks, I’ve been uncovering something I never expected to find in 2021.
At least not to the extent I’ve been seeing it.
Watch the video to find out more:
These are really amazing women: speakers, writers, consultants, artists, financial advisors, coaches and more. Women who are solos and women running teams. Women who keep going despite struggling financially at times and women who make multiple six figures consistently.
No matter what they are doing or where they are in their journey, they feel called to do more. Have more. Be more. Have a bigger impact.
And along the way they’ve been slowed down by their number one nemesis.
Themselves.
More specifically, by their subconscious.
And what’s been coming up a lot lately in our sessions has been a thread that I frankly didn’t expect to see.
At least, I didn’t expect to see it in these accomplished, intelligent, highly educated, capable and successful women.
What we’ve been uncovering is a deep strain of patriarchal rules holding them back.
Rules like:
“I can’t be more successful than the men in my life.”
“Women can’t be leaders.”
“I’m supposed to be taken care of by a man.”
“I should defer to a man.”
“Men make better decisions.”
“Men are smarter—or more effective—or better than women.”
And on and on.
Don’t get me wrong! None of these women accept any of these ideas consciously.
Consciously, we all say “F*** the Patriarchy” with conviction. (We actually have fun saying that in the group. Especially with conviction!)
Consciously we can and do reject these patriarchal ideas.
But when we go digging for the reasons someone has been holding herself back from growing her team, or raising her rates, or reaching out to that potential partner, or moving forward with the next project, up come some of these old chestnuts that most of us consciously rejected long ago.
Then we tap to neutralize them so they can’t do any more damage.
If you wonder if you might have some of those patriarchal messages rattling around in your subconscious, ask yourself:
What messages did you get growing up about the differences between men and women?
Which of those messages did you laugh about when you got older?
Or get mad at?
Or vehemently dismiss, saying “Not me. NEVER me.”
You’d be surprised at how many of those found your way into your subconscious.
Where they may be holding you back.
Here’s the trick. If they are in your subconscious, you probably still get a bit… irked when you think of them. That’s how you know they’re still there.
Really, if you react with anything other than a light-hearted chuckle, they are probably having some kind of effect on you.
Slowing you down.
Like they’d been slowing down my MVP-ers. At least, before we tapped and released them.
So I’m curious. What was the message about men and women you heard most growing up? Drop me an email to let me know!
Women leaders have a lot to contend with out there in the world that male leaders don’t—cultural expectations, laws, even violence.
Those external blocks definitely have to be changed!
But what holds most women back more than anything else is their internal blocks.
The subconscious rules and beliefs they’ve internalized that have them stop themselves before they ever come up against any external block.
Have you noticed you stopping yourself?
I definitely know I’ve held myself back at times.
What I’ve found from working with many women business owners is that these internal blocks fall into three categories.
Mindset—how you see yourself subconsciously as a leader. Do you know you deserve to lead a great team and have your voice heard? Or do you find yourself settling for what’s “good enough?”
Visibility—how you show up. Do you let yourself speak and write powerfully and consistently in your networking, on stage, and on camera? Are you letting others see the real you? Or are you hiding by trying to do things the “right” way?
Profitability—this covers all things money. Are you making the kind of money you are capable of and your peers seem to bring in easily? Do you manage it well, or does it seem like you can never get ahead? Do you use your money to grow your impact?
(That’s why I started my MVP Club for women leaders, where we release blocks in those three areas.)
Monday was International Women’s Day.
I did a short video celebrating and talking about how we need more women leaders now, how women hold themselves back in these three areas more than men, and what to do about it.
Watch the video here.
If you have any blocks in any of those three areas, please know this.
You are here for a reason.
You are needed now more than ever.
Because no one can do what you do in the way you do it.
So if you find you are holding yourself back, pleeeeeeease find someone to release those blocks.
You know me. I’m big on using Tapping to get rid of internal blocks, but if Tapping’s not for you please find another modality that works.
You don’t have to be stuck with internal blocks holding you back.
Imposter Syndrome (that feeling that you’re not as capable as others see you) really seems to hold women back more than men.
Why should that be?
Well, I have some theories.
Watch the video for the full exploration of why women seem to struggle with Imposter Syndrome more than men— where it comes from and why it’s so persistent.
From my own experience with clients, I’ve seen it come from personal experiences:
There was the client whose parents made it clear she was not supposed to outshine her brother.
Then there were the clients who created their own businesses after being passed over for promotion in favor of men one too many times.
And far too often, there was the implicit message (especially from their mothers) that they should not speak up, be seen, or stand out, that led them to doubt themselves.
There’s also the messages we’ve all gotten from growing up seeing boys and men in leadership roles in schools, sports, TV and movies, companies, government….
Well, you get the idea.
And all of these experiences set us women up to doubt ourselves, hold ourselves back, and step aside to let men do the leading.
That has to stop.
We need women to lead now more than ever.
(Look, I love men and happily work with some wonderful men who are doing important work in their lives and the world. But this message is for women.)
It’s time to step back from the competitive, Us v. Them, Win/Lose approaches that have brought so much suffering and limitation.
And I think women leaders are the answer.
So when you feel like you are called to do something bigger in the world, but you hold yourself back because you feel like you’re not good enough to do that, or someone else would be better, or “they’d find out you were a fraud” if you tried . . .
Don’t listen to that feeling.
It’s just a young part of you that learned that you were supposed to stay small so you’d be safe.
Staying small won’t really keep you safe. (You know that.)
It sure as hell won’t bring about the change that you are called to make in the world.
That only you can make!
And if your Imposter Syndrome is particularly loud and hard to ignore, tap on its messages. They aren’t true, and Tapping can help you realize that.
Because we need you to show up fully in the world, being the you that you are truly meant to be.
This is the biggest subconscious block that prevents women business owners from stepping fully into the leadership role they are called to fill.
It can underlie many of the problems that you face, like— • The money ceiling that keeps you stuck financially, • The fear that prevents you from speaking up, • The fact that you just never get around to finishing your book, • That something that holds you back so you end up watching ideal clients pass you by to go work with someone who (in your heart of hearts you know) just won’t serve them as well as you would have.
I put this underlying subconscious block under the umbrella term “Mindset.”
To be clear, all of the subconscious blocks I release for clients are mindset problems. But this one is the biggie for women business owners.
And if you’ve got it, you know how it can totally deflate you.
It’s the Who, me? reaction you get when you think about helping more people.
Or standing up and saying what you believe.
Or making a lot more money.
Or bringing about a change you know is so desperately needed in the world.
Doing what you know you could do. In a big way.
Being fully who you are called to be.
You can see the next step. The next breakthrough. The next level on the horizon.
But you stop yourself with— • I don’t know enough yet. • They’ll never listen to me. • Somebody else is so much better. • I’m not good enough. • I don’t deserve it. • Who do I think I am?
So you stay small.
Struggling.
And yet, you have this idea. Call it a vision. A purpose. A calling.
Whatever you call it, it came to you.
Yes, other people do what you do. But no one does it exactly the way you do.
Because no one grew up the way you did. Had the same experiences you did. The same learning you did. The same passions. The same way of looking at the world.
And that is why you are being called to step up. Now.
You are needed.
You need to step up so those people who resonate with you—who need you—can find you. Can get the exact transformation only you can bring them.
In the way only you can.
If you don’t step up—if you let your Mindset blocks get in your way—the World is a lesser place.
Your people continue to suffer. (And the people in their lives won’t get the benefit of that transformation you would have created, either.)
So, yes, the World needs you. It needs the biggest you you can bring.
And if your Mindset issues are getting in the way of that, you owe it to the world to root them out and get rid of them.
Tap with me to do that. Or use another approach.
But do something.
Change your Mindset so you can show up in the biggest way you can.
