Guilt Doesn’t Work

One way to recognize that you have a block is to notice when you do the same thing that gets you in trouble over and over again. Such a repeating pattern can take many forms. One person starts off projects with great enthusiasm, then loses momentum and ends up turning in work that is less … Continue reading Guilt Doesn’t Work

3 Steps to Take When You’re Overwhelmed

Two weeks ago a client came to me with an all-too-familiar problem: she was completely overwhelmed with all she had to do and couldn’t find a way to change what was going on. “Maria” and her partner were building a startup and were giving it their all. They worked from early in the morning until … Continue reading 3 Steps to Take When You’re Overwhelmed

Are You Being Blocked By The Wrong Goal?

Last week I wrote about using visualization to start doing something you’ve been putting off. You can also use visualization to uncover some hidden blocks. Here’s how. Go somewhere you won’t be distracted. Bring a notebook and pen because you will want to take notes. Get comfortable and close your eyes. Now imagine that you … Continue reading Are You Being Blocked By The Wrong Goal?

3 ways to recover from stress in the middle of an interview

In my last post I wrote about steps you can take before an interview to get yourself calm and focused going into an interview. But what do you do if something happens after the interview has started that throws you for a loop? I’ll give you a few suggestions here. 1. Can’t remember the answer? … Continue reading 3 ways to recover from stress in the middle of an interview

5 tips to set yourself up for a successful interview

Interviews can be stressful for people under the best of circumstances. But with fewer jobs out there, the perception that no one is hiring, and the very real possibility of going months before getting even one interview, many interviewees are putting added stress on themselves. Ironically this added stress is likely to undercut their performance … Continue reading 5 tips to set yourself up for a successful interview

What To Do If You Keep Thinking About Haiti

The devastation in Haiti from this week's earthquake is all over the news. Clients, colleagues, family and friends are all talking about the suffering there, wanting to understand and find ways to help. This is normal and can bring out the best in people. But what do you do if you seem to be obsessed … Continue reading What To Do If You Keep Thinking About Haiti

Luck and the Stressed Out Person

I recently read a 2003 article on a study of lucky v. unlucky people. http://www.telegraph.co.uk/technology/3304496/Be-lucky---its-an-easy-skill-to-learn.html Among the conclusions the researcher reached were a few that stuck out for me: (i) both lucky and unlucky people create their own "luck," good or bad; (ii) lucky people notice more, and so discover more good things to take … Continue reading Luck and the Stressed Out Person

Getting Rid of Unreasonable Fears Fast

A client of mine was thrown for a loop this week when he had back-to-back calls from a friend and a relative. Both callers expressed doubts about his plan to take his business in a new direction. The extreme stress he felt from those calls almost derailed his plan completely. My client had determined that … Continue reading Getting Rid of Unreasonable Fears Fast