Use This to Find Out If the Patriarchy is Preventing Your Profitability

Do you have an old patriarchal rule getting in the way of making, keeping or managing your money?

In the video I identify several, then walk you through a way to test each one to see if it’s in your subconscious:

Women often have an outdated rule or two about money from the Patriarchy rattling around in their subconscious.

Messing with their profitability.

Pretty much any rule that has “a man” or “men” in it probably has its roots in the Patriarchy. A really common one is “I shouldn’t make more than a man.”

You might also find the Patriarchy behind any rule that contains “a woman” or “women.” Like “Women can’t handle money well.”

Then there’s my favorite, “I should be taken care of by a man.” This one has tripped up more independent, confident clients than any of us ever expected.

Now, none of these powerful women consciously agree with any of these sexist, misogynistic statements.

They reject them. Absolutely.

But there they are, hiding out in their subconscious.

Luckily, once we’ve found one we can tap and release it for good.

Ready to discover some Patriarchal Profitability rules in your own subconscious?

Here’s how I do that with my clients.

First, I come up with a list of possible subconscious rules that might be getting in a client’s way.

I have my client repeat each one and rate it on a scale of 0-100 percent for how true or powerful it feels. (0=no power to it at all; 100=it feels totally true, even though you know it’s not.)

The higher the number, the more powerfully it’s holding you back.

There are different ways to get your rating: (i) emotionally—”it feels 82% true”; (ii) physically—like a punch in the gut or heaviness in your body that “feels 75% powerful”; or (iii) if you’re like me, you just have a number pop into your head and accept that as your rating.

Okay, here we go.

Read each statement from this list of a few common patriarchal profitability blocks out loud. (That makes a difference.) Then give it a rating from 0-100 percent for how true or powerful it feels to you.

  • “I shouldn’t make more than a man”
  • “I shouldn’t make more than my father.” [You can substitute “my brother” or another male relative.]
  • “Women can’t make more than men.”
  • “Women shouldn’t make more than men.”
  • “I don’t need to make as much as a man.”
  • “No one will love me if I make too much.”
  • “I should be taken care of by a man.”
  • “Women aren’t good with numbers.”
  • “Women don’t handle money well.”
  • “Women don’t make good decisions.”
  • “I’m not good with money.”
  • “I don’t handle money well.”
  • “I don’t make good decisions.”

Anything that’s got a charge over 10% will slow your Profitability down. And the higher the number, the bigger the effect it will have on you.

So did you have any high earners? Or do you have money issues that don’t seem to match up to what I had you say here?

I’d love to know. Just reply to this email and tell me what came up for you. (I read every email personally.)

One more thing. Just because you have an old rule in your subconscious does not mean you’re stuck with it.

You can get rid of it.

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

My Session with a Master Sales Coach

I have something a little different to share with you this week—an on-air coaching session with my sales mentor, the incredible Nikki Rausch (a/k/a The Sales Maven), that we recorded for her podcast.

I talk a little about my background and how my life experiences and my desire to change people’s lives for the better led me to where I am today: getting rid of people’s subconscious blocks, especially for women and women entrepreneurs.

I also talk about the origin of my MVP (Mindset, Visiblity, and Profitability) solution for getting rid of blocks and the MVP Club I host.

And all of this is part of a great 1:1 sales coaching session.

Please listen-in on our conversation:

(You can also visit the page for my episode of Nikki’s podcast here.)

You’ll hear me talk a bit about the results my clients get, different ways I work, and about the MVP Club itself—small groups of women entrepreneurs and leaders in which we release what holds them back from their bigger vision using Tapping.

Then you’ll get Nikki’s great suggestions for filling small group programs like the MVP Club.

Nikki’s podcasts—and trainings, and books, and workshops, and give-aways—are always full of useful information on ways to sell without ending up feeling covered in slime.

Instead, she teaches how to sell as a service to others, always keeping your relationships with them the priority.

When you talk with her on Zoom, or meet with her in person (I’ve done both), you experience how truly genuine Nikki is. Even when you know that she has her selling hat on, you know that you are important to her, that she cares about you as a person.

And that’s the approach she teaches.

I belong to Nikki’s Sales Maven Society and have been privately coached by her. I highly recommend working with her, or at least signing up for her weekly emails.

Just know, if you do work with Nikki I won’t get anything except the satisfaction of helping you find an amazing resource for learning to sell.

And yes, I’ll be implementing what Nikki recommended when I open my next MVP Club in the fall.

Happy Tapping!
—Nancy

What’s Holding Women Entrepreneurs Back More Than Men?

In working with the women in my MVP Clubs to release their subconscious blocks, I’ve been uncovering something I never expected to find in 2021.

At least not to the extent I’ve been seeing it.

Watch the video to find out more:

These are really amazing women: speakers, writers, consultants, artists, financial advisors, coaches and more. Women who are solos and women running teams. Women who keep going despite struggling financially at times and women who make multiple six figures consistently.

No matter what they are doing or where they are in their journey, they feel called to do more. Have more. Be more. Have a bigger impact.

And along the way they’ve been slowed down by their number one nemesis.

Themselves.

More specifically, by their subconscious.

And what’s been coming up a lot lately in our sessions has been a thread that I frankly didn’t expect to see.

At least, I didn’t expect to see it in these accomplished, intelligent, highly educated, capable and successful women.

What we’ve been uncovering is a deep strain of patriarchal rules holding them back.

Rules like:

  • “I can’t be more successful than the men in my life.”
  • “Women can’t be leaders.”
  • “I’m supposed to be taken care of by a man.”
  • “I should defer to a man.”
  • “Men make better decisions.”
  • “Men are smarter—or more effective—or better than women.”

And on and on.

Don’t get me wrong! None of these women accept any of these ideas consciously.

Consciously, we all say “F*** the Patriarchy” with conviction. (We actually have fun saying that in the group. Especially with conviction!)

Consciously we can and do reject these patriarchal ideas.

But when we go digging for the reasons someone has been holding herself back from growing her team, or raising her rates, or reaching out to that potential partner, or moving forward with the next project, up come some of these old chestnuts that most of us consciously rejected long ago.

Then we tap to neutralize them so they can’t do any more damage.

If you wonder if you might have some of those patriarchal messages rattling around in your subconscious, ask yourself:

  • What messages did you get growing up about the differences between men and women?
  • Which of those messages did you laugh about when you got older?
  • Or get mad at?
  • Or vehemently dismiss, saying “Not me. NEVER me.”

You’d be surprised at how many of those found your way into your subconscious.

Where they may be holding you back.

Here’s the trick. If they are in your subconscious, you probably still get a bit… irked when you think of them. That’s how you know they’re still there.

Really, if you react with anything other than a light-hearted chuckle, they are probably having some kind of effect on you.

Slowing you down.

Like they’d been slowing down my MVP-ers. At least, before we tapped and released them.

So I’m curious. What was the message about men and women you heard most growing up? Drop me an email to let me know!

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

How Does EFT/Tapping Work?

One of the most common questions I’m asked about EFT/Tapping is “How does it work?”

For the full answer, watch my video.

Here’s my abbreviated answer.

For a long time my answer was two-fold. First, I’d say no one really knows how it works, but I don’t care because I know it does and there’s research that shows it is effective.

Second, there was research that showed acupuncture and acupressure, which use the same points as Tapping, send a message of safety and calm to the amygdala in the brain that interrupts old connections there that trigger emotional responses.

The research has advanced since then. Now it tells us:

• Tapping leads to the downregulation of the amygdala, including a measurable lowering of the stress hormone cortisol. (Kinda the same thing I was saying in the past about that message of safety and calm, but in a more academic tone.)

• The results hold after we stop tapping because of Memory Reconsolidation, a way to permanently change the emotional component of a traumatic memory.

This explains why Tapping is a great way to release Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and phobias, but it still doesn’t exactly explain why MY tapping works.

Watch the video for my best guess on why Tapping works on success blocks like clients’ money ceilings.

When releasing subconscious success blocks, I rarely work directly with specific memories anymore. Many of these blocks come from multiple messages and years of experiences in childhood, many of which were not traumatic.

Plus, I’ve found—and created—faster Tapping techniques to effectively and permanently release success blocks than going through memories, one after the other, to get rid of all their emotional content.

So, while I believe I am using Tapping to send the message of safety and calm to the amygdala (i.e., “downregulating” it), I don’t know that I’m doing “Memory Reconsolidation” to make the changes permanent.

I’m guessing that there is some sort of Memory Reconsolidation for ideas that’s happening in the brain.

So I’m back to saying Tapping works on my clients’ subconscious success blocks. I don’t really know how, but I know that it does.

I’ll have to wait for the research to catch up to me to explain it all with hard science.

Hope that was interesting.

Until next time . . .

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

Why Extra Money Doesn’t Stick Around

Think about the last time you had some extra money. Not just a couple bucks (or pounds or euros)—a significant amount.

What happened?

If you’re like most people, that extra money just . . . went away.

Maybe an unexpected bill came in.

Or you found some great opportunity to spend it on.

Or for some reason the next month—or two, or three—was lean, with less income than usual.

It’s not just you. This happens all the time.

But why?

Watch my video for an in-depth look at why your subconscious may be making the “extra” money just go away:

Well, the short answer is that having that extra money (i) doesn’t match how you see yourself and (ii) conflicts with your internalized, subconscious beliefs around money.

Let’s start with those subconscious beliefs, which I call “success blocks.” Some of the common success blocks you might have are:

  • A subconscious belief that rich people are bad, greedy, or evil. So your subconscious protects you from becoming one of them by getting rid of the money as fast as possible.

  • A feeling that having too much isn’t safe—because you’ll be rejected, or targeted, or it will get taken away. So, again, your subconscious protects you by making sure you don’t keep it.

  • A money ceiling—an amount that fits the lifestyle you grew up with. Even though you’re capable of bringing in more, your subconscious puts the brakes on whenever you start to make that happen.

Those are just a few of the common success blocks around money my clients come to me with. And there’s lots more.

If you’ve been through enough of those experiences where you can’t seem to hold on to extra money or sustain that level of income, you may start to see yourself consciously as unlucky.

Or no good with money.

Or a bad business person.

It’s really none of those things. It’s just that your subconscious needs to be changed.

That’s where Tapping comes in. It’s the only way I’ve found to actually change the subconscious.

First, identify and tap to release your negative success blocks around money.

Then create and internalize a new identity—a new picture of who you are with more money. Tapping can help with that, too.

(Some people will tell you that you should skip straight to changing your internalized identity around money. That can work, but if your subconscious success blocks are too strong your new picture just won’t stick. That’s why I release the old blocks first.)

Then, with the old blocks gone and the new identity internalized, you’ll start to let the money in. And keep it.

Because your subconscious will accept that higher level of income as your “new normal.”

If you’d like some help creating a new normal for your income, just reply to this email. Let’s talk about what’s going on with you and see if Tapping may be the way to let more money in for you.

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

The Non-Negotiable That Totally Upgraded My Business

What are your non-negotiables? Those actions you are committed to, no matter what?

Let me tell you about one of mine that’s made a huge difference—every four weeks I take a week of CEO time.

That means no individual client sessions. No groups. No calls with potential clients.

Instead, I spend time on the big projects I can’t get to in between client calls.

This time has made a huuuuuge difference.

Now I actually get important things done that I used to keep putting off. Things that will lead to significant growth in my business. Systems that will get my time back.

There’s also time to focus on strategy, planning, and vision.

Watch the video to find out more about what a CEO Week can do for you:

When taking a week for CEO time was first suggested to me, it sounded impossible. I had to go out six weeks to be able to block off a week. Even then, I let a few non-CEO things in.

And I was only able to get myself to do it by telling myself it was just a one-time experiment.

It was amazing. I rested. I finished up projects that had been on my To Do list for months. I had creative ideas.

I got excited about my business again.

So I scheduled the next CEO Week. And the next.

Finally, I realized that my CEO Week was important not only for my sanity but also for my business. So I made it a non-negotiable.

Actually, my CEO Week got established much quicker than I thought it would. I just had to make the decision.

Today I want to inspire you to create your own standards. Your own non-negotiables.

This is your business. You are either creating it on purpose or by accident.

You create your business “on purpose” when you have non-negotiables, like setting aside CEO time.

It happens “by accident” when you allow others to carve up your schedule with their own priorities.

CEO Weeks let me create a business and life that leads to more freedom and fulfillment. That supports me so I can show up completely for my clients.

I’d like to help you create that for yourself, too. It will look different from mine, but it will be supportive and right for you.

So . . .

What do you dream of? What are the non-negotiables you want to incorporate into your business in the next 6 months.

  • CEO Week? (Or a CEO day every week?)
  • 4-day workweeks?
  • No more than 3 clients on your schedule per day?
  • Turning off the phone and computer after 5 pm and over weekends?

If you’re not already doing that, what’s getting in the way? Have you tried just making the decision and making it happen?

Tell me the non-negotiables you currently have or dream of having and what’s been getting in the way.

Until next time . . .

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

Should You Pay For a Mentor? (And Who’s Good Anyway?)

The subject of “mentors” for business owners has been coming up a lot lately.

Specifically, should you bother to pay for a coach, teacher, guide, or guru?

Especially when there’s so much free information out there. Can’t you just figure it out on your own?

Well, my own experience has been mixed, but I find myself coming down very strongly on the side of paying for guidance in areas where you need it. You’ll get where you want to go so much quicker.

For more about my journey and the great mentors I’ve found, watch the video:

I spent many years trying to cobble together bits of information I picked up on the internet. It didn’t really get me anywhere.

Maybe because I didn’t have the full map. Or maybe because I didn’t have someone cheering me on so I’d keep moving or pick myself up when I fell.

It was only when I found a program that taught me all the steps I needed to follow—and supported me with coaching and community along the way—that I finally started growing my business.

Since then I’ve found great guides for specific areas of my business. I’ve gotten my money back many times over from what I learned from each of them.

The only area where I simply couldn’t find a guide and had to figure it out on my own was how to get rid of the subconscious blocks to success that kept me and my clients stuck. In fact, I had to do that first before I could take advantage of what my great mentors had for me.

To be clear, I had teachers who showed me how to use different Emotional Freedom Techniques. (In case you’re new here, EFT, or “Tapping,” is the main way I clear my own and my clients’ blocks.)

But I had to figure out my own system using Tapping because no one else was doing it in a way that really worked for me.

The incomparable Rebecca Kane and I worked together, trying different approaches out and sharing techniques we picked up along the way to clear our own blocks to building our businesses. She taught me techniques I’d never heard of and let me try out and refine my strategies on her.

So if you have to figure something out on your own because it’s not already created, partner with someone with mad skills to figure out what works and what doesn’t.

But where you can, do yourself a favor and pay someone to take the short cuts they already know.

Of course, you have to pick the right guides for you. I’ve been very lucky, but I’ve heard horror stories about spending big money on programs that didn’t work out at all.

Before you jump in then, follow someone to get a feel for how they work. Get their freebies, newsletters, podcasts, or low-cost offerings before deciding to work with them. And listen to recommendations from people you respected.

Here are the mentors I’ve worked with for a loooooong time and highly recommend—

  • Fabienne Fredrickson (Boldheart Business Program). You can find out more about the main program I joined to learn all things marketing and mindset at https://attraction.isrefer.com/go/bhbiz/a6181. Boldheart also has a “starter” program for those with a limited budget at: https://attraction.isrefer.com/go/bhblaunch/a6181. (Yes, those are affiliate links. If you visit Boldheart using them and eventually buy, I’ll get something. It won’t pay the rent though. None of the rest of the links here are affiliate links.)
  • Stacey Brown Randall (Referrals Without Asking). Stacey teaches a beautiful approach to getting referrals that doesn’t make me feel like I need a shower when I use it. https://www.staceybrownrandall.com/ will get you some of her freebies. Definitely sign up for her newsletter to get her weekly podcasts. I have her Growth by Referrals program.
  • Kiva Shuler (The Heartful Business). Kiva is spending her energy on her passion these days—getting great training to parenting coaches—but you can see some info about her marketing stuff at https://theheartfulbusiness.com/home.
  • Alina Frank. Alina is an EFT/Tapping trainer extraordinaire. If you want to learn how to Tap, get on Alina’s newsletter at https://www.tapyourpower.net/. It comes out twice a month and tells you where her next trainings will be.
  • Rebecca Kane. Rebecca teaches you how to trust your intuition. She is a psychic-medium who has an interesting way of making the spiritual/woowoo very accessible. And she has the best newsletters! Sign up at: https://www.capacityforgreatness.com/.

Hope that’s helpful.

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

It’s Hard Right Now—I Hope These Make It Easier.

A lot of people are struggling.

If you’re not—if everything is going great for you right now—that’s wonderful!

But life is still hard for many people, so if that’s you, please know that you’re not alone.

It isn’t just what we’re going through with the pandemic. There are a lot of people going through really hard times now for many reasons that the rest of us don’t know about.

And I know that it’s hitting business owners in all kinds of ways, both personally and professionally.

So…

I’ve got three things to tell you about that I hope will help.

Watch the video for all the details:

First of all, here are two free opportunities:

  • Free tickets to a 3-day virtual retreat starting Wednesday, May 12, 2021. If you’ve been thinking about writing (a book, articles, emails, even better social media copy) and want to leverage what you write for more impact and money, you’ll get powerful training at the Writing for Impact retreat.

    I’ll be one of the speakers on Friday, so you can come as my guest. Get your ticket at https://saraconnellcoaching.lpages.co/grant-spring-retreat-opt-in-page/

  • Three free tap-along videos to shift common blocks. You’ll get these when you take my Uncover Your Success Blocks quiz for business owners and find out where your subconscious success blocks fall—in Mindset, Visibility, or Profitability.

    Take the quiz at https://unblockresults.com/qz.

Finally, I’m holding a Quickstart Session day next week on Tuesday, May 18th.

I rarely offer these sessions, but I’ve set aside six 45-minute slots for people who have never worked with me before to come in and tap one-on-one with me.

My specialty is releasing subconscious success blocks that hold entrepreneurs back from what they want for their businesses, like more clients, more visibility, and more money. I’m happy to work on any of those, of course.

But for this day, you don’t have to be an entrepreneur. And you can work on anything you want. (Well except for mental health issues. The Law won’t let me do that.)

I’m offering these QS Sessions at a much reduced price. Usually they’re $347. On the 18th, they’re $97.

If you want one, just reply to this email. I’ll let you know what times are available and send you an invoice.

So the sooner you decide, the more times will be available.

(If you’re a current or former client, maybe someone you know could really use this right now. Please feel free to forward this email to them and tell them why you think working with me could help.)

Please take me up on whichever of these calls to you.

Until next time . . .

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

Do You Have Success Blocks?

I’ve been off the radar for a few weeks finishing something I’m really excited to tell you about—the Uncover Your Success Blocks Quiz!

This easy quiz helps business owners recognize where you have subconscious blocks to success.

Success blocks are those things that I’m always talking about and tapping on with clients to release so they can have the next breakthrough in their businesses.

You’ll find out which of the three areas you have the most subconscious blocks in:

  • Mindset—believing in yourself and knowing you’re capable of doing more.
  • Visibility—reaching a bigger audience. And
  • Profitability—making and keeping more money.

Once you’ve taken the quiz (which should take less than 5 minutes), you get access to three free videos I made to tap along with and start shifting a common block in each area.

Watch the video to find out more about what’s in those free tap-along videos!

I’d love for you to take the quiz and get the Tap-Along videos.

Just go to https://unblockresults.com/qz/ to get started.

After taking the quiz, in addition to getting your raw quiz score you will receive a guide for interpreting your results and a link to 3 videos I recorded to help you understand your success blocks—and what you can do about them—followed by a handful of follow-up emails to encourage you to take action! You’ll also start receiving my weekly-ish email newsletter if you aren’t already (you can unsubscribe at any time, of course).

Subconscious success blocks hold so many business owners back from reaching their potential. It breaks my heart to see them missing out both on the kind of business and life they could have and the impact they could have on others.

Please take the quiz.

See if you have some success blocks holding you back.

If you do, then get started shifting them right away by tapping along with the videos.

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

What Does Success Look Like For You?

How do you define success?

As one of my clients reminded me, it’s important to get clear on what success means to you. Otherwise, you’re going to be chasing somebody else’s dream, not following your own.

Here’s how she turned her back on the conventional view of success, and the two questions that can help you define it for yourself:

So don’t just listen to the next “guru” who says—

You need to make a certain amount each month to be successful.

Or build a following of tens of thousands of people on FB.

Or write a book.

Or launch an online program.

Or anything else.

Get clear on what “success” looks like for you.

What you truly want.

To figure that out, ask yourself two questions:

What do you want your life to look like? Do you want to speak to thousands around the world? Make a ton of money? Work less and spend more time with family? Or something else?

What kind of legacy do you want to leave? Do you want to set your family up financially to follow their dreams? Train a small group in a method you’ve created so it lives on after you’re gone? Or . . .

Clients have come to me to release blocks to knowing what they want. Once a block was gone, they could go after what they wanted. (Their version of success.)

But let’s be clear—Tapping freed them up to know their own heart and mind.

I didn’t tell them what they wanted. Or how to be “successful.”

They decided for themselves.

You get to do that too.

So don’t let anyone else tell you what success is.

Not even me. 😉

I firmly believe that, the more you follow what calls to your own heart, the more of an impact you will have.

Whatever that impact is meant to be.

That’s how you become the leader you’re meant to be.

That’s the leader the world needs now.

And that’s true success.

I’d love to know what success looks like for you. Please shoot me a message or email me at Nancy@UnblockResults.com. Tell me what calls to your heart.

Until next time . . .

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy