If lack of self-confidence is keeping you from going after the life you want, you have to meet Julie. She’s a smart woman with a mission to change the world. When she began working with me, Julie was just starting her business providing Relationship Development Intervention (RDI) to children on the Autism Spectrum and their … Continue reading You Have to Meet Julie!
Over the past year I’ve noticed an interesting cause of procrastination in both my clients and myself. Sometimes we procrastinate because it has become soooo hard to do something to reach a goal that we subconsciously decide it’s not worth trying. And because we feel that it’s too hard to achieve our goal, we find … Continue reading What If Your Life Were Easy?
A sneaky kind of procrastination might be holding you back. This kind of procrastination shows up as a repeating pattern of almost—but not quite—getting what you want. How is this procrastination? Well, if you don’t get what you want, you don’t move forward on your goals. Then you’re stuck, just like with “traditional” procrastination. More … Continue reading A Sneaky Kind of Procrastination
If you don’t really expect much from your New Year’s resolutions—or you’ve given up making them entirely—try this technique. It whittles away at what’s going on below the surface that’s keeping you stuck. There’s a reason your resolutions usually don’t work, and it has nothing to do with how motivated you are to make a … Continue reading A Way to Make Your Resolutions Work
Are you procrastinating, avoiding doing something—even though you know it will bring you closer to creating the life you want—because it drains you? Dave came to me with exactly that problem. Whenever he tried to make cold calls, he would quickly lose his energy, and even his ability to think clearly. It limited his work … Continue reading Are You Avoiding Something Because It’s Too Draining?
Sometimes it seems like the Universe keeps slamming the door in your face. You going along, doing what you think you’re supposed to, then WHAM! Things go wrong. It can be a loss of a job, a financial hit, anything that prevents you from following the path you were on. What does it mean? Turns … Continue reading When the Universe Keeps Slamming the Door in Your Face
Today I want to give you a way to figure out whether your have a common block which can completely derail your progress. I’ll also give you a way to defuse it. Although this block is common, it often manages to go unrecognized in most people since it only shows up when they start to … Continue reading Stop Sabotaging Your Own Success; Change How You Think of Yourself
“Tim” told me about a mistake he made this week. He’d driven out to a suburb for a meeting only to discover after he got there that he had arrived a day early. It seemed he’d not checked his calendar that morning because he was certain he had the right day. He had lost an … Continue reading The Art of Recovering From Mistakes
Last week I described why demanding perfection from yourself can sabotage your work or business. You can waste enormous amounts of time and energy feeling bad that you don’t do your job exactly the way you think you should, or perform better than everybody else, or get more done. You may put off taking action—speaking … Continue reading Don’t Wait Until You’re Perfectly Ready—Leap Before You Look!
Perfectionism is a block many people have that masquerades as a positive attribute. We often think that the drive to be perfect in what we do and who we are pushes us to achieve more in our work. It does, to a certain extent. More often, though, it slows us down or even keeps us … Continue reading A Simple Way to Escape the Perfectionism Trap