Not knowing what you want is the most effective form of procrastination there is. It stops you before you even get started. It can be baffling, too. Everyone else seems to know what they want. What their goals are. What direction they want to take in life. And you just can’t decide what you want … Continue reading But I Don’t Know What I Want
A sneaky kind of procrastination might be holding you back. This kind of procrastination shows up as a repeating pattern of almost—but not quite—getting what you want. How is this procrastination? Well, if you don’t get what you want, you don’t move forward on your goals. Then you’re stuck, just like with “traditional” procrastination. More … Continue reading A Sneaky Kind of Procrastination
If you don’t really expect much from your New Year’s resolutions—or you’ve given up making them entirely—try this technique. It whittles away at what’s going on below the surface that’s keeping you stuck. There’s a reason your resolutions usually don’t work, and it has nothing to do with how motivated you are to make a … Continue reading A Way to Make Your Resolutions Work
Are you procrastinating on creating the life you want because your job is just too good to leave? Do you say things like: “I’m counting the days until retirement” “I’m bored, but I’ll never find another job that pays as well” or “I can’t do what I want. I have a family to feed.” If … Continue reading When Your Golden Handcuffs Are Holding You Back
As kids we’re all taught to get our work done first before . . . • playing with friends • watching TV • having dessert • really, doing anything fun. It’s called delayed gratification, and it’s not only a sign of maturity, it’s a skill that’s essential to accomplishing most anything that is important in … Continue reading Stop Procrastinating. Go Out and Play!
Are you procrastinating, avoiding doing something—even though you know it will bring you closer to creating the life you want—because it drains you? Dave came to me with exactly that problem. Whenever he tried to make cold calls, he would quickly lose his energy, and even his ability to think clearly. It limited his work … Continue reading Are You Avoiding Something Because It’s Too Draining?
We usually think that test anxiety only affects kids. And of course it can be devastating for them. But sometimes that test anxiety can get in the way of an adult trying to follow their dream. When it does, it can look a lot like procrastination—avoiding signing up for the test; rescheduling it over and … Continue reading When You Just Can’t Bring Yourself to Take That Test
Most of us reach for the same tool to get ourselves to stop procrastinating. We think that the way to get moving is to yell at ourselves. Call ourselves “lazy,” “stupid,” or other names when we don’t get enough done. Call up our inner Drill Sergeant in an effort to force ourselves to get moving. … Continue reading Dismiss Your Drill Sergeant!
Sometimes it feels like the universe is conspiring with you to keep you from your big goal. That’s what it’s like when part of you is afraid of what will happen if you reach your goal. A client called me about this recently. Watch the video to find out what we did to fix the … Continue reading Is the Universe Conspiring to Help You Procrastinate?
Two women were struggling in different ways to get past their blocks to doing what they wanted. Their difficulties were insurmountable—to them. When I looked at their situations, however, their problems seemed self-imposed, and quite easy to change. Even without tapping. "Angie" has a job she hates. She has been working toward getting certified so … Continue reading Cutting The Gordian Knot of Your Toughest Problem