A friend of mine was telling me about how overwhelmed she is by what’s going on in the Ukraine now. She’s got big reasons to be upset—her company has most of its operations based in that country, and she’s working hard to get all of her people to safety.
It got me thinking about what you can do to lower your stress over what is happening there, whether or not you are directly affected by the war that is happening right now.
So I shot this video of two simple steps to take right away.
Turn off the news as much as you can—entirely if you’re really feeling triggered. My friend can’t do that, but if you’re not directly affected, you can.
Donating to a cause like that will have a much more positive impact than just ratcheting up your stress by spending a lot of time reading the news.
Do the Zip Up regularly to shield yourself from all the emotional gunk swirling around. I teach the Zip Up to people who are strongly impacted by others’ energy and encourage them to use it at least daily. However, in times like these I notice a lot more people (including me) are feeling the negative energy around them too. To see how it’s done, watch the video.
Sending you love and light, and prayers for peace to all those affected by this war.
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Gatherings with family and friends to plan and attend.
Oh, and you have a business to keep running, too? Good luck with that!
Actually, it doesn’t have to be so stressful.
No, I’m not talking about chucking it all and flying to the Bahamas. (Although that does sound intriguing.)
This is about lowering your stress levels so you can enjoy what’s happening around you.
And when your stress comes down, you start to think clearer. Make better decisions for you and your business.
Like, maybe you don’t have to make Aunt Edna’s brussels sprouts this year.
Or you don’t have to get involved with the usual family drama. After all, you could use that time and energy to make a big year-end offer.
How, you say?
Just tap along with my video.
The women leaders in my MVP Clubs asked for it. They know they do so much better in their businesses when they bring down the stress in their personal lives. Then they can focus on what really matters.
I wanted to share it with you, too.
Tap along with it as often as you need to. So you can have an easier, more relaxed December.
Someone asked me what’s the best advice I can give to a business owner.
It didn’t take me long to answer. It’s the advice I wish someone had given me so I wouldn’t have spent years wondering why I wasn’t making any headway with my business.
Here it is: Fix your subconscious before you try to do anything else.
Here’s why you want to change your subconscious first.
I’ve seen it over and over again—someone shells out a huge amount of money for a program that promises to teach them how to grow their business.
Then, a few weeks—or even days—in, they realize they’re stuck.
There’s nothing wrong with the program. It’s just that they’re not following through on it.
Not taking a specific action the program calls for,
Or “pulling their punch” by doing what they’re supposed to, but doing it poorly,
Or procrastinating in general, doing everything but the program they paid so much for.
They’re perfectly capable of following through on the program. They’re just not doing it. Or doing it slooooooowly.
Something in their subconscious got triggered.
So they’re out all that time and money with little to show for it.
But when they get rid of what is in the way first, they follow through on what will get them the business they want. Easily.
(Even entrepreneurs who seem to have it all together struggle with this. I know because I’ve worked with some. They come in doing well, but knowing they could do better. Once we start releasing subconscious blocks they start hitting their bigger goals.)
If any of this sounds like you, I want you to know it doesn’t mean you’re a bad business owner.
It doesn’t mean you’re broken.
It doesn’t mean the Universe is trying to give you a message that you’re not meant for that kind of success.
It just means you have something in your subconscious that has been getting triggered when you go after your goals. And you can change that.
Please find a way to clear out your subconscious.
Whether with me or with someone else.
Whether through Tapping or another modality.
Change your subconscious.
Do it before you spend a lot of time and money on something you can’t bring yourself to follow through on.
The world needs you to step up in a bigger way but…
You can’t do that when your subconscious is holding you back.
(By the way, in the video I talk about the next MVP Club for women leaders who know they’re meant for more. I’m afraid it’s all sold out now. But there’ll be another one—promise. I’ll tell you more in a bit.)
When you realize that there’s something inside of you holding you and your business back, it can be totally frustrating.
You can also start blaming yourself.
It’s just a subconscious success block that you internalized without realizing it that’s been getting in your way.
A subconscious successblock is a message or rule in your subconscious that is sabotaging your conscious plans for your business.
Everyone has internalized rules and beliefs in their subconscious. Some are actually helpful, like don’t walk alone down dark alleys; some…not so much.
But how do those success blocks get into your subconscious in the first place?
You can usually trace them back to old programming that came from—
Explicit messages spoken to or around you,
Implicit messages from what you observed,
Decisions you made from experiences you had.
I describe several subconscious success blocks and where they came from in the video:
Often they come from messages and observations in childhood.
Sometimes they are internalized warnings from something powerful that happened in adulthood.
Sometimes these messages were internalized from religion, the media, or the community around you.
But no matter where they come from, no amount of willpower, or logic, can fully get beyond these once they’re in your subconscious.
They will at least take energy to push past. Energy you could use for something better.
If you don’t want to be slowed down or stopped by your own subconscious, you need to dig those blocks up and release them.
That’s what I do both with my one-on-one clients and in my MVP Clubs—small groups of women leaders who know they’re meant for more where we identify and tap to release blocks in the areas of Mindset, Visibility, and Profitability.
(By the way, in the video I talk about the next MVP Club. I’m afraid it’s all sold out now. But there’ll be another one—promise. I’ll tell you more in a bit.)
So if you realize that you’re holding your business back, look for the subconscious blocks getting in your way and release them.
To get some help with that, just reach out. We’ll talk about what’s going on with you, what’s getting in your way, and if Tapping is a fit.
So if you’re a woman entrepreneur and haven’t joined a group like this yet, please find one that can give you that kind of emotional support, share resources you need, show you what’s possible, and cheer you on as you grow—whether that’s the MVP Club or another group of positive, supportive women leaders.
And if the MVP Club is calling to you, I’m starting a new one.
Just reach out. We’ll set up a time to talk about what’s holding you back and see if the MVP Club is a fit.
I’ve set aside some times for you in my calendar this week and next to talk about what’s going on with you, answer any questions you have, and—if there’s a fit—get you enrolled. Just hit reply to this email and we can set up a time to talk.
I can’t wait for you to meet the other great women in the MVP Club!
Do you have an old patriarchal rule getting in the way of making, keeping or managing your money?
In the video I identify several, then walk you through a way to test each one to see if it’s in your subconscious:
Women often have an outdated rule or two about money from the Patriarchy rattling around in their subconscious.
Messing with their profitability.
Pretty much any rule that has “a man” or “men” in it probably has its roots in the Patriarchy. A really common one is “I shouldn’t make more than a man.”
You might also find the Patriarchy behind any rule that contains “a woman” or “women.” Like “Women can’t handle money well.”
Then there’s my favorite, “I should be taken care of by a man.” This one has tripped up more independent, confident clients than any of us ever expected.
Now, none of these powerful women consciously agree with any of these sexist, misogynistic statements.
They reject them. Absolutely.
But there they are, hiding out in their subconscious.
Luckily, once we’ve found one we can tap and release it for good.
Ready to discover some Patriarchal Profitability rules in your own subconscious?
Here’s how I do that with my clients.
First, I come up with a list of possible subconscious rules that might be getting in a client’s way.
I have my client repeat each one and rate it on a scale of 0-100 percent for how true or powerful it feels. (0=no power to it at all; 100=it feels totally true, even though you know it’s not.)
The higher the number, the more powerfully it’s holding you back.
There are different ways to get your rating: (i) emotionally—”it feels 82% true”; (ii) physically—like a punch in the gut or heaviness in your body that “feels 75% powerful”; or (iii) if you’re like me, you just have a number pop into your head and accept that as your rating.
Okay, here we go.
Read each statement from this list of a few common patriarchal profitability blocks out loud. (That makes a difference.) Then give it a rating from 0-100 percent for how true or powerful it feels to you.
“I shouldn’t make more than a man”
“I shouldn’t make more than my father.” [You can substitute “my brother” or another male relative.]
“Women can’t make more than men.”
“Women shouldn’t make more than men.”
“I don’t need to make as much as a man.”
“No one will love me if I make too much.”
“I should be taken care of by a man.”
“Women aren’t good with numbers.”
“Women don’t handle money well.”
“Women don’t make good decisions.”
“I’m not good with money.”
“I don’t handle money well.”
“I don’t make good decisions.”
Anything that’s got a charge over 10% will slow your Profitability down. And the higher the number, the bigger the effect it will have on you.
So did you have any high earners? Or do you have money issues that don’t seem to match up to what I had you say here?
I’d love to know. Just reply to this email and tell me what came up for you. (I read every email personally.)
One more thing. Just because you have an old rule in your subconscious does not mean you’re stuck with it.
Old patriarchal rules have been showing up in my MVP clients’ subconscious, mucking up their Visibility.
How? Let me ‘splain.
In the MVP Framework I use, Visibility (the “V” in MVP) is about getting in front of a bigger audience, whether through your writing, videos, in-person speaking, or any way you reach the people you’re here for.
Patriarchal muck limiting our Visibility has seeped deep into the subconscious of many women. Even the most successful ones!
Watch to get details on some of the worst patriarchal rules for visibility and where they can come from.
This old patriarchal slime can show up in a number of ways, perhaps sounding like “No one wants to hear what I have to say.”
If you catch yourself muttering something like that to yourself, you might have internalized this slam to your ego when:
Your raised hand was passed over at school in favor of a boy’s. Over and over again.
Or you were regularly talked over at work.
Or your ideas were ignored until a male colleague put them forward as his own, when suddenly they were accepted by the boss as pure brilliance.
Or maybe, like many of us, your mother gave you the message to not speak up or stand out. She probably did it to keep you safe, but still .…
And even though the crud no longer serves you (if it ever did), there it is in your subconscious, getting triggered whenever you risk being seen in a much bigger way.
Another old bit of patriarchal sludge a lot of women have is “It’s not safe to be seen.”
One client had a nasty example of this.
She’s amazing and has something big to get out in the world, something that’s going to change lives.
But she was dragging her feet getting her program out there.
When we went digging for reasons why, up popped a co-worker from an early job.
This jack@$$ made crude comments about her. Followed her around, leering at her. Acted as if he had a right to treat her any way he wanted.
Ever since then, her subconscious has made her hesitant to stand out. To speak up. To be noticed.
It was afraid she’d attract another jerk.
(Just so you know, this has happened to quite a few of my clients. And friends. And relations. Sigh.)
So in one session we tapped on that experience. Now she’s marketing with enthusiasm, excited about all the attention she’s going to get when she gets her program out in the world.
Does any of this sound like you? Do you find yourself reluctant to get out there and be seen in a bigger way?
Maybe it really IS the patriarchy!
And it’s time to change it.
Hit “Reply.” Let’s set up a time to talk about what’s going on with you and how we might change it.