Do you have an old patriarchal rule getting in the way of making, keeping or managing your money?
In the video I identify several, then walk you through a way to test each one to see if it’s in your subconscious:
Women often have an outdated rule or two about money from the Patriarchy rattling around in their subconscious.
Messing with their profitability.
Pretty much any rule that has “a man” or “men” in it probably has its roots in the Patriarchy. A really common one is “I shouldn’t make more than a man.”
You might also find the Patriarchy behind any rule that contains “a woman” or “women.” Like “Women can’t handle money well.”
Then there’s my favorite, “I should be taken care of by a man.” This one has tripped up more independent, confident clients than any of us ever expected.
Now, none of these powerful women consciously agree with any of these sexist, misogynistic statements.
They reject them. Absolutely.
But there they are, hiding out in their subconscious.
Luckily, once we’ve found one we can tap and release it for good.
Ready to discover some Patriarchal Profitability rules in your own subconscious?
Here’s how I do that with my clients.
First, I come up with a list of possible subconscious rules that might be getting in a client’s way.
I have my client repeat each one and rate it on a scale of 0-100 percent for how true or powerful it feels. (0=no power to it at all; 100=it feels totally true, even though you know it’s not.)
The higher the number, the more powerfully it’s holding you back.
There are different ways to get your rating: (i) emotionally—”it feels 82% true”; (ii) physically—like a punch in the gut or heaviness in your body that “feels 75% powerful”; or (iii) if you’re like me, you just have a number pop into your head and accept that as your rating.
Okay, here we go.
Read each statement from this list of a few common patriarchal profitability blocks out loud. (That makes a difference.) Then give it a rating from 0-100 percent for how true or powerful it feels to you.
- “I shouldn’t make more than a man”
- “I shouldn’t make more than my father.” [You can substitute “my brother” or another male relative.]
- “Women can’t make more than men.”
- “Women shouldn’t make more than men.”
- “I don’t need to make as much as a man.”
- “No one will love me if I make too much.”
- “I should be taken care of by a man.”
- “Women aren’t good with numbers.”
- “Women don’t handle money well.”
- “Women don’t make good decisions.”
- “I’m not good with money.”
- “I don’t handle money well.”
- “I don’t make good decisions.”
Anything that’s got a charge over 10% will slow your Profitability down. And the higher the number, the bigger the effect it will have on you.
So did you have any high earners? Or do you have money issues that don’t seem to match up to what I had you say here?
I’d love to know. Just reply to this email and tell me what came up for you. (I read every email personally.)
One more thing. Just because you have an old rule in your subconscious does not mean you’re stuck with it.
You can get rid of it.