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Why Imposter Syndrome Strikes Women More

Imposter Syndrome (that feeling that you’re not as capable as others see you) really seems to hold women back more than men.

Why should that be?

Well, I have some theories.

Watch the video for the full exploration of why women seem to struggle with Imposter Syndrome more than men—
where it comes from and why it’s so persistent.

From my own experience with clients, I’ve seen it come from personal experiences:

  • There was the client whose parents made it clear she was not supposed to outshine her brother.
  • Then there were the clients who created their own businesses after being passed over for promotion in favor of men one too many times.
  • And far too often, there was the implicit message (especially from their mothers) that they should not speak up, be seen, or stand out, that led them to doubt themselves.

There’s also the messages we’ve all gotten from growing up seeing boys and men in leadership roles in schools, sports, TV and movies, companies, government….

Well, you get the idea.

And all of these experiences set us women up to doubt ourselves, hold ourselves back, and step aside to let men do the leading.

That has to stop.

We need women to lead now more than ever.

(Look, I love men and happily work with some wonderful men who are doing important work in their lives and the world. But this message is for women.)

It’s time to step back from the competitive, Us v. Them, Win/Lose approaches that have brought so much suffering and limitation.

And I think women leaders are the answer.

So when you feel like you are called to do something bigger in the world, but you hold yourself back because you feel like you’re not good enough to do that, or someone else would be better, or “they’d find out you were a fraud” if you tried . . .

Don’t listen to that feeling.

It’s just a young part of you that learned that you were supposed to stay small so you’d be safe.

Staying small won’t really keep you safe. (You know that.)

It sure as hell won’t bring about the change that you are called to make in the world.

That only you can make!

And if your Imposter Syndrome is particularly loud and hard to ignore, tap on its messages. They aren’t true, and Tapping can help you realize that.

Because we need you to show up fully in the world, being the you that you are truly meant to be.

Happy Tapping!

-Nancy

business owners, confidence, decision making, EFT, entrepreneurs, Goals, growth, mental blocks, procrastination, self-sabotage, tapping

Shut Up Already, Imposter Syndrome!

Imposter Syndrome is a liar.

It needs to shut up.

Now.

Imposter Syndrome is the experience of feeling like you are not as competent as others see you.

So do you ever feel like you’re an imposter? Like you’re nowhere near as good as people are expecting?

Like you should just give up already and go do something easy so you don’t let anybody down?

I experienced Imposter Syndrome big time when I started at law school. Oh so many years ago.

Looking at the hundreds of students around me, I thought “They deserve to be here. Not me. I got in by mistake. Harvard’s going to figure it out any minute and show me the door.”

(That actually happened to someone once! More about that in my video.)

Turns out that a lot of my fellow law students, particularly the women I talked to, had the same feeling.

Eventually we got over it and decided that maybe we deserved to be there after all.

But sometimes the strategy of waiting until you get enough experience won’t work.

So what do you do when Imposter Syndrome keeps you stuck?

An incredibly accomplished woman came to me for help getting moving on her career. She was a star in her graduate program, where her professors expected her to become an influential muckety-muck in the world of therapy for autistic children.

She was passionate about the work. Excited to get started.

And two years later she was totally stuck because…

Imposter Syndrome.

Watch the video to see how her Imposter Syndrome had limited her and what we did to release it.

If Imposter Syndrome has you questioning whether you’re really good enough to do what you’re capable of—and maybe even called to do—know that you don’t have to give in to it!

Take action.

Even if you stumble along the way.

Even if you just know you’re not as good as they all think.

Even if you’re not perfect. (And who is?!)

What you do is valuable even if you don’t feel good enough, way down deep.

And if you can’t get started, or you drag your feet, because of the lies Imposter Syndrome is whispering in your ear, let’s talk.

The world needs you to step up.

Do what you’re here to do.

Don’t let Imposter Syndrome stop you.

Tell it to shut up already.

Happy Tapping!
—Nancy

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What To Do When Your New Year’s Resolutions Fail

Yep. It’s that time again.

Time to make your New Year’s resolutions. Maybe you plan to . . .

  • Finish that training you bought
  • Create your on-line course
  • Network more
  • Whatever it takes to grow your business to the next level.

You’re going to do it this time Right?!

And you start out strong. But then, in six months—Or six weeks. Or six days. Or six hours!—you find you’ve given up.

(Been there. Done that. Gave up on resolutions completely for awhile.)

But why? Why do we give up when it’s so important to us?

Well, what I’ve seen over and over again is that when your resolution goes against something in your subconscious—even if your subconscious is being irrational, illogical, or just plain stupid—your subconscious always wins.

No amount of willpower can push past your subconscious for long.

It just wears you down until you give up.

Three types of subconscious blocks I’ve seen a lot of are:

  • A belief that you need to do (or avoid) something to stay safe.
  • Others’ limiting expectations of you.
  • Seeing yourself in a limiting way. (Check out the video for examples of what each of these looks like.)

So what do you do if you can’t seem to follow through on your resolution?

Well, the fastest way to change I know of is to uncover your subconscious block and tap to release it.

If you don’t know how to do that (or you don’t have a tapping practitioner to work with), what I’d suggest is to create a daily tapping practice with your resolution. Here’s how:

  • Set aside at least 5 minutes every morning.
  • During that 5 minutes, visualize yourself taking the action you’ve resolved to take AND getting the results you want.
  • (And, most importantly) Tap while you visualize.

Tapping whittles away at the underlying fear, limiting belief, or whatever.

So it gets easier to follow through on your resolution and, eventually, create the “new you.” And new and improved business.

No willpower required.

Happy New Year and Happy Tapping!
—Nancy

business owners, decision making, EFT, entrepreneurs, Goals, growth, leadership, mental blocks, Planning, self image, self-sabotage, tapping

The Biggest Trap Stopping Women Entrepreneurs

This is the biggest subconscious block that prevents women business owners from stepping fully into the leadership role they are called to fill.

It can underlie many of the problems that you face, like—
• The money ceiling that keeps you stuck financially,
• The fear that prevents you from speaking up,
• The fact that you just never get around to finishing your book,
• That something that holds you back so you end up watching ideal clients pass you by to go work with someone who (in your heart of hearts you know) just won’t serve them as well as you would have.

I put this underlying subconscious block under the umbrella term “Mindset.”

To be clear, all of the subconscious blocks I release for clients are mindset problems. But this one is the biggie for women business owners.

And if you’ve got it, you know how it can totally deflate you.

It’s the Who, me? reaction you get when you think about helping more people.

Or standing up and saying what you believe.

Or making a lot more money.

Or bringing about a change you know is so desperately needed in the world.

Doing what you know you could do. In a big way.

Being fully who you are called to be.

You can see the next step. The next breakthrough. The next level on the horizon.

But you stop yourself with—
• I don’t know enough yet.
• They’ll never listen to me.
• Somebody else is so much better.
• I’m not good enough.
• I don’t deserve it.
• Who do I think I am?

So you stay small.

Struggling.

And yet, you have this idea. Call it a vision. A purpose. A calling.

Whatever you call it, it came to you.

Yes, other people do what you do. But no one does it exactly the way you do.

Because no one grew up the way you did. Had the same experiences you did. The same learning you did. The same passions. The same way of looking at the world.

And that is why you are being called to step up. Now.

You are needed.

You need to step up so those people who resonate with you—who need you—can find you. Can get the exact transformation only you can bring them.

In the way only you can.

If you don’t step up—if you let your Mindset blocks get in your way—the World is a lesser place.

Your people continue to suffer. (And the people in their lives won’t get the benefit of that transformation you would have created, either.)

So, yes, the World needs you. It needs the biggest you you can bring.

And if your Mindset issues are getting in the way of that, you owe it to the world to root them out and get rid of them.

Tap with me to do that. Or use another approach.

But do something.

Change your Mindset so you can show up in the biggest way you can.

Because the World needs that.

The World needs YOU.

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

business owners, confidence, decision making, EFT, entrepreneurs, Goals, growth, leadership, money, tapping

If You’ve Been Holding Yourself Back…

Last week I realized something.

In fact, it was a Divine Download. (I didn’t even know I could have one of those!)

Watch the video to hear about how it showed up for me.

Here’s what I journaled:

It’s time for all people with a bigger vision—who want to help others, who want to change the world, or just their corner of the world—to step up.

It’s time for you to have more money. A lot more money. Money to pay for the support and wield the influence you need to do what you are called to do. For all of us.

It’s time for you to trust yourself. To know you are right. To know that you are here to make a big difference.

It’s time for you to stop playing small. To let yourself be seen.

To step up and lead.

No more “Who, me? I’m not that important.”

YES. YOU. ARE!

The world needs you, now more than ever.

The world needs the biggest you that you can be.

It’s not just about taking care of yourself and your family (although that is important).

It’s about being fully you. Bringing all the power you have to your purpose so you can have the biggest impact.

To counteract what’s wrong in the world now.

The time for playing small is over.

You are called to something too important to let your old way of thinking and being hold you back.

It’s time to leave that behind.

To step up.

To lead.

For that you need money. You need support. You need visibility.

You need to believe in yourself.

So do what it takes to release what’s holding you back.

The world can’t wait anymore.

We need you NOW.

So that’s what I journaled last week. (Well, I cleaned it up a bit. But not much.)

I wanted you to see it.

Because you and your purpose are too important to play small.

The world needs the leader you can be.

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

business owners, confidence, decision making, EFT, entrepreneurs, Goals, growth, mental blocks, self-sabotage, stress, tapping

Should You Wait?!

I’ve been hearing from a lot of people lately that they are waiting.

Are you?

Waiting until the US election is over . . . Until the new government is installed . . . Until a vaccine comes through.

Waiting until 2021 because you’ve written off 2020!

Waiting for something outside of yourself to change before you move forward with what you want in your life.

Oh, I totally get it—lately there have been times I’ve just wanted to hunker down with some ice cream and wait until this all blows over.

It sounds logical and rational to wait until things settle down.

But what I know from all the work I’ve done with my clients is that this kind of “waiting until” reasoning is false.

It’s really just your rational brain trying to make sense of why you aren’t going after what you want.

And there are a lot of possible reasons out there to blame for why you aren’t taking action. Especially now.

The truth is, though, that it isn’t rational to wait to start living your life until things get back to normal. Why? Well . . .
• Will things ever really get back to the way they were? No one knows for sure, but a lot of folks are starting to speculate they won’t.
• Of course there will be changes when we have an effective vaccine. And the economy improves. But no one knows how long it will take for those changes to happen. What does it benefit you to put everything on hold until then?
• And what will truly be different in your day-to-day life the day—or week, or month, or year—after the election is decided?

So why are you really waiting?

I’ve heard things like this from long before 2020.
• “I’m going to wait until I have more money.”
• “I’m going to wait until the kids are grown up.”
• “I’m going to wait until I’ve gotten certified.” Or “learned more.” Or “gotten more experience.”

There’s always something you can “wait until.”

But that’s not going to get you what you want.

If you want a big change in your life or business, the best time to go after that change is RIGHT NOW.

To do that, you need to make a change inside of you. Because what’s really holding you back is not happening on the outside.

It’s on the inside.

Change what’s going on inside of you so you can step up no matter what is happening out there.

Then you can change what’s going on in your life and maybe in other people’s lives. For the better.

So if you’ve been telling yourself you should wait, don’t listen.

Really.

Because this is your life.

Don’t wait to start living it.

business owners, decision making, EFT, entrepreneurs, Goals, growth, mental blocks, money, self-sabotage, tapping

If You Keep Saying “I Can’t Afford It”, This Is For You

I have some tough love for you today.

First, you should know that my Money Blocks Solution starts this Friday, October 9th.

Which means tomorrow (Tuesday the 6th) is the very last day to reach out to me and set up a call to see if there’s a fit between what you’re struggling with and my group.

That’s so we’re both ready to dive deep on Friday and start releasing what’s holding you back from making—and keeping—more money.

So I want to talk about what I know is one of the big reasons you might be thinking it’s not the right time for you to join.

Money.

I get it. It can feel like you shouldn’t pay money for something right now when money is the problem.

But hang on. How long have you been struggling with money?

If this is a pattern in your life, what’s going to change that pattern?

How are you going to have more money to invest in yourself the next time I offer the Money Blocks Solution?

By now, you probably sense that your money issues start inside of you. That there’s something keeping you from doing (or not doing) the things that will make you more money. Or keep your money around longer.

I call those internal, subconscious obstacles to improving your financial situation “money blocks.”

If you don’t get rid of them, they’re just going to keep running the show.

Keep you stuck.

Right where you are.

And if nothing changes, how will you have more money to invest in the group—or anything else you truly want—in 2021?

Or ‘22? Or ‘23? Or . . .

Plus, the longer you drag your feet on changing what’s getting in your way, the less money you will make over the course of your life.

Think about it.

If I could wave a magic wand and get rid of your money blocks today, you would start seeing more money come in. NOW.

And that would start adding up—and compounding—right away.

So the longer you wait to get rid of your money blocks, the less money you will have in your life. By a lot.

The less money . . .
• To take care of your family
• To take care of yourself
• To grow your business
• To live the way you want to
• And to do what you are here to do!

The longer you drag your feet to release your money blocks, the less money you will have in your life for all of these important things.

So if you are saying “Oh, but I don’t have the money to work with you now, Nancy,” well, then, when are you going to have it?!

Okay, no, Tapping is not a magic wand. I can’t get rid of all your blocks today. But it does get rid of money blocks.

And it works much faster than anything else I’ve ever seen.

In fact, some people working with me start noticing improvements in their actions and their money within the first week!

So I really want you to get this. If you have a money block preventing you from getting and keeping more money, waiting until you have more money to get rid of that block just won’t work.

That’s backwards!

Instead, I want to stand up for you today, especially if you can’t stand up for yourself right now.

Please. Know this:
• It’s time
• You are worth it.

Reach out to me. Email me at Nancy@UnblockResults.com.

You can get rid of your money blocks.

Let’s do this.

Now.

business owners, decision making, EFT, Enthusiasm, entrepreneurs, growth, mental blocks, money, Planning, stress, tapping

It’s Time

Are you struggling to make the kind of money that would let you breathe easier?

That other people seem able to earn?

That you know you’re capable of making?

If so, then it’s time.

It’s time to let more money into your life.

It’s time to make the changes you need to so you can start living the way you’ve been feeling is out of reach.

It’s time to change your mind.

What am I talking about? Well, you know those money problems you have? They start out as money blocks in your subconscious.

And, because they’re in your subconscious, you usually only see the results in the real world, with no idea why you keep struggling, year after year. (Boy, do I know how crazy-making that can be!)

Luckily, your subconscious can be changed.

I know this because I’ve been getting rid of clients’ subconscious blocks to having more money for years. Literally.

It is amazing what they start seeing financially as soon as their blocks start to melt!

Right now I have two ways for you to get started making the same kind of change.

First, join my Money Blocks Solution. It’s a small, select group of people who are ready to change their old patterns and start having more money in their life. Together we go deep into the specific causes of each of their blocks, then release them. Here are more details: https://unblockresults.com/money-blocks-solution/

To see if the group is right for you, just reach out. DM me or email me at Nancy@UnblockResults.com. We’ll set up your free Money Blocks Assessment to identify your subconscious blocks to having more money in your life and see if there is a fit with the group.

And if you contact me before Friday, October 2nd—tomorrow—you get my early bird bonus as soon as you sign up for the group.

The bonus is my online program Release Your Money Blocks, filled with videos you tap along with on your own schedule to release common money blocks, raise your money ceiling, and even make the Law of Attraction start working for you.

I very rarely make Release Your Money Blocks available to anyone outside my private coaching clients, but when I do I sell it for $297. You can get it for free as a reward for taking action now.

Don’t wait though. To be eligible for that early bird special you have to reach out to me for your assessment by tomorrow (Friday).

Now I know this might not be the right time for you to join my group. And I don’t want you to wait to start changing your mind to let more money into your life.

So here’s the second way you can get started changing your subconscious . . .

You can get my Release Your Money Blocks between now and the end of the day on Friday, October 9th, for only $99. Yep, that’s way more than half off the usual price. Here you go: https://unblockresults.com/product/release-your-money-blocks/

Because it’s time.

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It Can Be Easy To Make More Money. Seriously.

I know, I know. With a heading like that I probably sound like a used car salesman. But hear me out.

There’s a way you’re making it hard for yourself to make more money.

And you can change that. Here’s how I know . . .

Let me tell you about Jenny.

When Jenny came to me, she was worn out.

Her business wasn’t making enough money.

She knew she could be making more. She knew she should be making more. She even knew what she had to do to make more money.

But she wasn’t doing it.

What was up with that?!

In the past, Jenny had tried everything she could to grow her business.
• She’d followed numerous marketing experts.
• She joined as many networking groups as possible.
• She pushed herself to have a presence in every social media outlet she could.

She drove herself to do more. And more. And more.

It wasn’t enough. She just wasn’t making the money. And she didn’t know what else to do.

Jenny was exhausted and empty.

She had even found herself slowing down recently, not doing the things she knew would work.

It was baffling. She truly wanted to make more money. Why wasn’t she just doing the “sure things” to make more?

We started working together and quickly uncovered a subconscious block Jenny had to making more money. The block sounded something like:
• “Making money is too hard.
• It’s painful.
• I have to give it everything I’ve got to make money.
• So If I make more money, I’ll get sick
• If I make too much money, it will kill me!”

This block had been running in her subconscious for a long time, so of course she hadn’t been letting herself make money easily.

It had to be hard.

In fact, as far as her subconscious was concerned, it wasn’t safe to make any more money at all.

So we tapped and released that subconscious block. As we released it, it got easier and easier for Jenny to figure out what would actually make more money in her business.

She started just doing what would work and stopped doing all the other things.

And Jenny made more money. Easily.

The end . . .

Okay, I have a confession. There is no “Jenny.”

At least no single Jenny.

This is actually my story. And it’s the story of sooo many of the clients who work with me.

Believing that it’s too hard to make money is a really common block.

But it’s a block you don’t have to keep around!

Seriously.

If there’s even a tiny part of you that’s curious if this might be true for you, it’s worth a conversation.

Email me at Nancy@UnblockResults.com.

We’ll set up a call to talk about what’s going on with you and see if there’s a fit with what we do in my Money Blocks Solution: https://unblockresults.com/money-blocks-solution/.

We’re starting on October 9th.

I have a spot for you.

business owners, decision making, EFT, entrepreneurs, growth, mental blocks, money, self-sabotage, tapping

What You Really Believe About Money Can Hurt You

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but if you struggle with money, you probably have a money block.

A money block is a belief or rule in your subconscious that prevents you from making—and keeping—the money you know you’re capable of.

(WOW do I know how frustrating that is!)

But a money block is subconscious, so how do you figure out what’s going on?

I just did a video about this. Have a look:

There’s an easy way to uncover one or more of your own money blocks. Just notice what you believe down deep about money.

  • Not what you tell yourself to get psyched up to make that new offer.
  • Not what you daydream about, thinking what your life and business could be like if only.
  • Not what you know should happen if you raise your rates. Or follow a budget. Or release that new product. Or . . .

I’m talking about what comes up automatically, when you’re not thinking the way you’re “supposed to.”

Do you find yourself echoing negative money messages from childhood, like:

  • We can’t afford it
  • Money doesn’t grow on trees
  • Money is tight now
  • We may not have much, but at least we have each other?

Those kinds of messages can be internalized as a bedrock belief that there’s never enough.

A belief like that will have you going through life unconsciously making decisions and taking actions (or not taking them) that create a life where there’s never quite enough.

Do you catch yourself thinking things like:

  • Making money is hard
  • No one will pay me that much
  • I’m just not good with money
  • I don’t deserve it
  • I’m not good enough

Those kinds of thoughts reflect an internal block that will—at the very least—slow you down when you try to raise your rates. Or close a sale. Or offer a new product. Or do anything that could bring you more money.

No matter what you tell yourself consciously.

Here’s one more place to look. When you think about people who have a lot of money, do you think:

  • They’re not so special.
  • I’m better than they are!
  • Rich people are greedy. Or shallow. Or mean. Or . . . ?

Thoughts like that reflect a deep-seated (but still subconscious) belief that having money would make you a bad person.

If some part of you believes that, why would you ever let yourself have a lot of money?!

So listen to your automatic thoughts. They will point to your subconscious money blocks—not just what they are but where they came from.

Once you recognize what your blocks are and where they come from you can use Tapping to get rid of them.

If you just realized you have some money blocks you could use some help releasing, I can help.

In my Money Blocks Solution, we get rid of a lot of those money blocks so you can let in more money.

We’re starting in early October, though, so don’t wait. Email me at Nancy@UnblockResults.com. We’ll talk about what’s going on and whether the Money Blocks Solution is a fit.

I would love to have you join us.

Happy Tapping!