I”m dropping in to make sure you’ve heard about the Mindset Makeovers I’m doing next week.
Six Degrees Society is hosting a virtual event with me for women business owners next Wednesday, September 21st, at 6 pm East Coast Time. There will be good networking, and I’ll be speaking a bit about EFT/Tapping.
I’ll also tap with as many volunteers as I can on subconscious blocks slowing down their business growth. I never know what will come up in these Mindset Makeovers, so it’s a bit of a tightrope walk for me. (Fun!)
More importantly, people who have done these with me before have gotten big changes in twenty minutes or less. It’s always fascinating to see what happens.
The event is free to Six Degrees Society members, but as a first-time attendee you can also get a free ticket. Just click here, add the event to a “shopping cart”, then use the code “NANCY-LINNEROOTH” (oh look, that’s my name!).
Micha Goebig had already founded a very successful translation business. In spite of that success, she knew she was holding herself back in her second business. gobigcoaching.com
Having worked together several years earlier, we were able to identify and bring down Micha’s subconscious belief that, if she were as successful with the newer business as with her first one, she would be overwhelmed.
Watch as Nancy releases Micha’s subconscious block with EFT/Tapping.
That block went from feeling 85% powerful to less than 15% powerful in just twenty minutes. Not a bad bit of work.
A few interesting points about this session:
A different limiting belief underlying that fear of overwhelm was a “rule” she internalized at school that she wasn’t supposed to excel in two areas—she had to choose one.
Although she is obviously more than fluent in English now, it’s not Micha’s first language. So you’ll notice a difference in how powerful one subconscious block was in English versus when Micha said it in German.
A second block we identified but did not tap on also came down somewhat. That often happens with related subconscious blocks.
Go ahead and tap along with Micha in the video. That can actually start releasing blocks in your own subconscious, even if you don’t have the same ones we work on.
Ready to release what’s holding you back? Just reach out. We’ll set up a time to talk about what’s going on with you and see if Tapping is a fit.
A client asked me to create a tap-along video for her to take her from worrying about money to feeling confident that plenty is already on its way.
Watch the video to hear more.
If you’re into Law of Attraction (as my client is), you know that worrying about something can slow down the arrival of what you want. So it takes longer to bring in the money you’re hoping for.
Worse, your worry may actually make that thing you’re worried about happen.
That means worrying about not having enough money may lead to not having enough money.
So by all means stop worrying about it!
But even if you’re not buying this manifesting-what-you-want-or-don’t-want-by-how-you-feel malarkey (as critics might say), there are still a couple of really good reasons to let go of any worrying about finances you’re doing. Especially if you’re a business owner.
First, that worry will pull your focus and energy off of actions that will bring in the cash. That can definitely slow down your income. (A bit of a self-fulfilling prophecy there.)
Second, worrying makes you less…attractive…to potential clients and customers.
Think about it. When you see someone under a cloud of worry, does that inspire confidence in you? Do you want to work with them? Buy from them?
Didn’t think so.
So when you’re worrying, you’re not showing up at your best, and probably costing yourself some money that way.
What’s the answer?
Easy.
Stop worrying about money.
Maybe that doesn’t sound so easy when the bills are piling up. But you can do it with some Tapping.
Here’s a pattern I often use to lower clients’ money worries: start tapping while saying all the things you’re worried about.
Not selling enough programs. Not being able to pay your team. Having to go live under a bridge. That sort of thing.
Then (still tapping) remind yourself of all the times you’ve gotten out of difficult situations. All the times money has shown up when you needed it. How you survived even when it didn’t. (You must have, right? You’re still standing!)
At this point clients often get a feeling that God/Goddess/the Universe/their Higher Selves are looking out for them. Even when money is tight.
Tap on that, too.
Tapping in this pattern gets Worry to loosen up so you can put your focus and energy on things you can do that are muuuuuuch more productive than biting your nails.
If you’d like some help lowering your own worries—whether about money or about something else—so you can grow your business, just email me. We’ll set up a time to talk about what’s going on with you and if tapping can help.
“Ivy” came to me to get rid of her Itty Bitty Shitty Committee.
Her fractional CFO business was doing fine, but knew she could do much more if she didn’t have to spend time dealing with the negative messages in her head whenever she thought about growing it.
Her Itty Bitty Shitty Committee told her she was wasting her time creating a new program—no one would want it. Even though clients had been asking for it.
It tried to convince her she really wasn’t good enough to have a successful business. Even though she already had one.
It scoffed at her goals to work with bigger companies as “totally unrealistic.” Even though her contacts in those companies had invited her to send them proposals.
Her committee was so loud, she found herself spending a lot of time going out in nature, just to get a break.
Sound familiar?
Here’s how we got rid of Ivy’s Itty Bitty Shitty Committee:
Itty Bitty Shitty Committees slow down and stop a lot of women entrepreneurs from things like—
Starting a business.
Offering a new product.
Marketing their business
Asking for more money.
Even really successful women have Itty Bitty Shitty Committees. I know because I’ve worked with many of them—just like Ivy.
Using Tapping, Ivy gave her Committee the pink slip.
When she’d sent those negative voices packing, it was blessedly quiet in her head.
She could finally grow her business the way she wanted, without all the back-talk.
If you have a Committee of your own shouting you down whenever you try to move forward, I have something for you.
I made a tap-along video to help you fire your own Itty Bitty Shitty Committee.
Go to https://UnblockResults.com/qz.Take the quiz to find out where your Committee is causing you the most trouble. Or you can skip the quiz and go straight to the videos.
Tap along with the Mindset Video to see yourself as capable of—and deserving—bigger success. And fire your Itty Bitty Shitty Committee.
Then you won’t have to manage those negative messages from your own Committee.
So go ahead. Give your Itty Bitty Shitty Committee the pink slip!
Old patriarchal rules have been showing up in my MVP clients’ subconscious, mucking up their Visibility.
How? Let me ‘splain.
In the MVP Framework I use, Visibility (the “V” in MVP) is about getting in front of a bigger audience, whether through your writing, videos, in-person speaking, or any way you reach the people you’re here for.
Patriarchal muck limiting our Visibility has seeped deep into the subconscious of many women. Even the most successful ones!
Watch to get details on some of the worst patriarchal rules for visibility and where they can come from.
This old patriarchal slime can show up in a number of ways, perhaps sounding like “No one wants to hear what I have to say.”
If you catch yourself muttering something like that to yourself, you might have internalized this slam to your ego when:
Your raised hand was passed over at school in favor of a boy’s. Over and over again.
Or you were regularly talked over at work.
Or your ideas were ignored until a male colleague put them forward as his own, when suddenly they were accepted by the boss as pure brilliance.
Or maybe, like many of us, your mother gave you the message to not speak up or stand out. She probably did it to keep you safe, but still .…
And even though the crud no longer serves you (if it ever did), there it is in your subconscious, getting triggered whenever you risk being seen in a much bigger way.
Another old bit of patriarchal sludge a lot of women have is “It’s not safe to be seen.”
One client had a nasty example of this.
She’s amazing and has something big to get out in the world, something that’s going to change lives.
But she was dragging her feet getting her program out there.
When we went digging for reasons why, up popped a co-worker from an early job.
This jack@$$ made crude comments about her. Followed her around, leering at her. Acted as if he had a right to treat her any way he wanted.
Ever since then, her subconscious has made her hesitant to stand out. To speak up. To be noticed.
It was afraid she’d attract another jerk.
(Just so you know, this has happened to quite a few of my clients. And friends. And relations. Sigh.)
So in one session we tapped on that experience. Now she’s marketing with enthusiasm, excited about all the attention she’s going to get when she gets her program out in the world.
Does any of this sound like you? Do you find yourself reluctant to get out there and be seen in a bigger way?
Maybe it really IS the patriarchy!
And it’s time to change it.
Hit “Reply.” Let’s set up a time to talk about what’s going on with you and how we might change it.
In working with the women in my MVP Clubs to release their subconscious blocks, I’ve been uncovering something I never expected to find in 2021.
At least not to the extent I’ve been seeing it.
Watch the video to find out more:
These are really amazing women: speakers, writers, consultants, artists, financial advisors, coaches and more. Women who are solos and women running teams. Women who keep going despite struggling financially at times and women who make multiple six figures consistently.
No matter what they are doing or where they are in their journey, they feel called to do more. Have more. Be more. Have a bigger impact.
And along the way they’ve been slowed down by their number one nemesis.
Themselves.
More specifically, by their subconscious.
And what’s been coming up a lot lately in our sessions has been a thread that I frankly didn’t expect to see.
At least, I didn’t expect to see it in these accomplished, intelligent, highly educated, capable and successful women.
What we’ve been uncovering is a deep strain of patriarchal rules holding them back.
Rules like:
“I can’t be more successful than the men in my life.”
“Women can’t be leaders.”
“I’m supposed to be taken care of by a man.”
“I should defer to a man.”
“Men make better decisions.”
“Men are smarter—or more effective—or better than women.”
And on and on.
Don’t get me wrong! None of these women accept any of these ideas consciously.
Consciously, we all say “F*** the Patriarchy” with conviction. (We actually have fun saying that in the group. Especially with conviction!)
Consciously we can and do reject these patriarchal ideas.
But when we go digging for the reasons someone has been holding herself back from growing her team, or raising her rates, or reaching out to that potential partner, or moving forward with the next project, up come some of these old chestnuts that most of us consciously rejected long ago.
Then we tap to neutralize them so they can’t do any more damage.
If you wonder if you might have some of those patriarchal messages rattling around in your subconscious, ask yourself:
What messages did you get growing up about the differences between men and women?
Which of those messages did you laugh about when you got older?
Or get mad at?
Or vehemently dismiss, saying “Not me. NEVER me.”
You’d be surprised at how many of those found your way into your subconscious.
Where they may be holding you back.
Here’s the trick. If they are in your subconscious, you probably still get a bit… irked when you think of them. That’s how you know they’re still there.
Really, if you react with anything other than a light-hearted chuckle, they are probably having some kind of effect on you.
Slowing you down.
Like they’d been slowing down my MVP-ers. At least, before we tapped and released them.
So I’m curious. What was the message about men and women you heard most growing up? Drop me an email to let me know!
It was holding my client back in spite of her already being really, really successful.
She’s known around the world in her field and has been featured on international stages.
International!
Yet the fear of making a mistake had her refusing to let her talks be recorded. Keeping her playing smaller than she could.
She was afraid of making a mistake and having it out in the world. Forever.
And she was days away from having her presentation recorded.
She’d committed.
No backing out.
And she was scared of screwing it up.
Watch the video to hear more.
(Spoiler alert: she did great!)
If you have a fear of screwing something up—like posting a video or doing some public speaking (which is America’s biggest phobia, by the way)—you’ve probably heard that the way to get past it is to just do the thing. Whatever it is.
Because then you’ll realize it wasn’t so terrible and you won’t be as afraid the next time.
Good advice.
And if you can just do that, then go for it!
But if you can’t just make yourself do the thing—if you’re toooooo afraid to push through—then use some tapping.
Tapping can make all the difference. (I’ve seen that happen over and over.)
Because when you’ve tapped down your fear of screwing up, you can just get out there and do the thing.
Whatever it is.
Screwing up doesn’t seem like such a big deal after all.
You’ll start thinking “If I make a mistake, so what?!”
“People need me to get out there.”
“Even if I make mistakes along the way.”
So let’s get you out there in a bigger way, helping those you’re here to reach.
Imposter Syndrome (that feeling that you’re not as capable as others see you) really seems to hold women back more than men.
Why should that be?
Well, I have some theories.
Watch the video for the full exploration of why women seem to struggle with Imposter Syndrome more than men— where it comes from and why it’s so persistent.
From my own experience with clients, I’ve seen it come from personal experiences:
There was the client whose parents made it clear she was not supposed to outshine her brother.
Then there were the clients who created their own businesses after being passed over for promotion in favor of men one too many times.
And far too often, there was the implicit message (especially from their mothers) that they should not speak up, be seen, or stand out, that led them to doubt themselves.
There’s also the messages we’ve all gotten from growing up seeing boys and men in leadership roles in schools, sports, TV and movies, companies, government….
Well, you get the idea.
And all of these experiences set us women up to doubt ourselves, hold ourselves back, and step aside to let men do the leading.
That has to stop.
We need women to lead now more than ever.
(Look, I love men and happily work with some wonderful men who are doing important work in their lives and the world. But this message is for women.)
It’s time to step back from the competitive, Us v. Them, Win/Lose approaches that have brought so much suffering and limitation.
And I think women leaders are the answer.
So when you feel like you are called to do something bigger in the world, but you hold yourself back because you feel like you’re not good enough to do that, or someone else would be better, or “they’d find out you were a fraud” if you tried . . .
Don’t listen to that feeling.
It’s just a young part of you that learned that you were supposed to stay small so you’d be safe.
Staying small won’t really keep you safe. (You know that.)
It sure as hell won’t bring about the change that you are called to make in the world.
That only you can make!
And if your Imposter Syndrome is particularly loud and hard to ignore, tap on its messages. They aren’t true, and Tapping can help you realize that.
Because we need you to show up fully in the world, being the you that you are truly meant to be.
Watch my video to see what I learned from my own bout of Imposter Syndrome.
It was the beginning of a 24-hour virtual event put on by Harvard Alumni Entrepreneurs.
I figured “I’m an alum of the law school. I started my own business. These are my people!”
Boy, was that not how it felt.
As soon as I walked in the virtual “room” it hit me. These are real entrepreneurs. They are creating new apps. Talking to angel investors. Launching businesses they’ll sell for gazillions.
Not me. I don’t belong.
I’m a fraud.
And they’re going to find me out.
Look down on me.
Laugh at me.
Wow.
So I said my goodbyes and left quickly.
Let me be clear. Everyone I talked to was lovely. This was me. I was the one telling myself I didn’t belong. Telling myself I wasn’t good enough.
It was a total inside job.
Frankly, it was embarrassing.
I’m in the middle of exploring how Imposter Syndrome hits women leaders especially hard and explaining what to do about it.
Just do it anyway, I’d said. Eventually you’ll realize you are good enough, I’d said. And if that’s too hard, then just tap, I’d said.
I had it figured out.
And there I was. Totally caving to my own Imposter Syndrome.
So I took my own medicine. Went back into the event the next night. (I felt much better.)
I posted about my experiences in Facebook and was overwhelmed by the support I got.
Watch the video for the whole embarrassing story.
I learned a lot from this experience that I want to share.
First, it’s normal to feel like a fraud sometimes.
Second, many really successful women feel like an imposter sometimes. Having the feeling doesn’t mean you are not successful or capable of success.
And most importantly: if you feel like an imposter, know that it is not true.
Imposter Syndrome is the experience of feeling like you are not as competent as others see you.
So do you ever feel like you’re an imposter? Like you’re nowhere near as good as people are expecting?
Like you should just give up already and go do something easy so you don’t let anybody down?
I experienced Imposter Syndrome big time when I started at law school. Oh so many years ago.
Looking at the hundreds of students around me, I thought “They deserve to be here. Not me. I got in by mistake. Harvard’s going to figure it out any minute and show me the door.”
(That actually happened to someone once! More about that in my video.)
Turns out that a lot of my fellow law students, particularly the women I talked to, had the same feeling.
Eventually we got over it and decided that maybe we deserved to be there after all.
But sometimes the strategy of waiting until you get enough experience won’t work.
So what do you do when Imposter Syndrome keeps you stuck?
An incredibly accomplished woman came to me for help getting moving on her career. She was a star in her graduate program, where her professors expected her to become an influential muckety-muck in the world of therapy for autistic children.
She was passionate about the work. Excited to get started.
And two years later she was totally stuck because…
Imposter Syndrome.
Watch the video to see how her Imposter Syndrome had limited her and what we did to release it.
If Imposter Syndrome has you questioning whether you’re really good enough to do what you’re capable of—and maybe even called to do—know that you don’t have to give in to it!
Take action.
Even if you stumble along the way.
Even if you just know you’re not as good as they all think.
Even if you’re not perfect. (And who is?!)
What you do is valuable even if you don’t feel good enough, way down deep.
And if you can’t get started, or you drag your feet, because of the lies Imposter Syndrome is whispering in your ear, let’s talk.
