Category: Career Stress

business owners, Career Stress, decision making, EFT, growth, mental blocks, Mindset, money, Profitability, sales, stress, Stress Relief Tips, tapping

Two Tap-Along Approaches for Stress. (And Lawyers!)

When the amazing Molly McGrath—podcast host of Hire & Empower and owner of Hiring & Empowering Solutions, a law firm management consultancy—invited me to her podcast to talk about how Tapping can help lawyers and those who work with them, I jumped on the opportunity.

Listen to the podcast—

—or watch and tap along with the interview:

You can also tune in to Molly’s “Hire & Empower” podcast here.

Here are some of the highlights of what Molly and I talked about.

  • Many people have subconscious blocks preventing them from asking for more money and getting more clients. Tapping can release those and other blocks you uncover.
  • Anything happening in your business or personal life can affect your company.
  • It only takes a few minutes to Tap to lower your stress and think better.
  • People feel like they can’t hire until they make more money, but hiring earlier actually opens up opportunities as well as the capacity to bring in more business and make more money.
  • People tend to internalize how hard they have to work, especially by feeling like they have to stay late and be more stressed.
  • You also get to hear a bit about my nine years as an attorney. Back in the Dark Ages. Bonus!

Molly and I did two types of Tapping for stress, which lawyers and those who work in law firms often need. Desperately.

Tap along with us. Aspirin Tapping for stress (a very simple approach) starts at 18:10. Stream-of-Consciousness style Tapping for stress (a more in-depth style) starts at 26:42 on the podcast.

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

business owners, Career Stress, confidence, EFT, entrepreneurs, Goals, leadership, mental blocks, self-confidence, self-sabotage, tapping, visibility

Not Visible Enough? Blame the Patriarchy!

Old patriarchal rules have been showing up in my MVP clients’ subconscious, mucking up their Visibility.

How? Let me ‘splain.

In the MVP Framework I use, Visibility (the “V” in MVP) is about getting in front of a bigger audience, whether through your writing, videos, in-person speaking, or any way you reach the people you’re here for.

Patriarchal muck limiting our Visibility has seeped deep into the subconscious of many women. Even the most successful ones!

Watch to get details on some of the worst patriarchal rules for visibility and where they can come from.

This old patriarchal slime can show up in a number of ways, perhaps sounding like “No one wants to hear what I have to say.”

If you catch yourself muttering something like that to yourself, you might have internalized this slam to your ego when:

  • Your raised hand was passed over at school in favor of a boy’s. Over and over again.
  • Or you were regularly talked over at work.
  • Or your ideas were ignored until a male colleague put them forward as his own, when suddenly they were accepted by the boss as pure brilliance.
  • Or maybe, like many of us, your mother gave you the message to not speak up or stand out. She probably did it to keep you safe, but still .…

And even though the crud no longer serves you (if it ever did), there it is in your subconscious, getting triggered whenever you risk being seen in a much bigger way.

Another old bit of patriarchal sludge a lot of women have is “It’s not safe to be seen.”

One client had a nasty example of this.

She’s amazing and has something big to get out in the world, something that’s going to change lives.

But she was dragging her feet getting her program out there.

When we went digging for reasons why, up popped a co-worker from an early job.

This jack@$$ made crude comments about her. Followed her around, leering at her. Acted as if he had a right to treat her any way he wanted.

Ever since then, her subconscious has made her hesitant to stand out. To speak up. To be noticed.

It was afraid she’d attract another jerk.

(Just so you know, this has happened to quite a few of my clients. And friends. And relations. Sigh.)

So in one session we tapped on that experience. Now she’s marketing with enthusiasm, excited about all the attention she’s going to get when she gets her program out in the world.

Does any of this sound like you? Do you find yourself reluctant to get out there and be seen in a bigger way?

Maybe it really IS the patriarchy!

And it’s time to change it.

Hit “Reply.” Let’s set up a time to talk about what’s going on with you and how we might change it.

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

business owners, Career Stress, confidence, EFT, entrepreneurs, Goals, growth, mental blocks, professional image, self image, self-confidence, self-sabotage, tapping

What I Learned about Imposter Syndrome from Getting Slapped Upside the Head By the Universe

Two weeks ago I talked about Imposter Syndrome.

Last week, the Universe laughed at me.

Watch my video to see what I learned from my own bout of Imposter Syndrome.

It was the beginning of a 24-hour virtual event put on by Harvard Alumni Entrepreneurs.

I figured “I’m an alum of the law school. I started my own business. These are my people!”

Boy, was that not how it felt.

As soon as I walked in the virtual “room” it hit me. These are real entrepreneurs. They are creating new apps. Talking to angel investors. Launching businesses they’ll sell for gazillions.

Not me. I don’t belong.

I’m a fraud.

And they’re going to find me out.

Look down on me.

Laugh at me.

Wow.

So I said my goodbyes and left quickly.

Let me be clear. Everyone I talked to was lovely. This was me. I was the one telling myself I didn’t belong. Telling myself I wasn’t good enough.

It was a total inside job.

Frankly, it was embarrassing.

I’m in the middle of exploring how Imposter Syndrome hits women leaders especially hard and explaining what to do about it.

Just do it anyway, I’d said. Eventually you’ll realize you are good enough, I’d said. And if that’s too hard, then just tap, I’d said.

I had it figured out.

And there I was. Totally caving to my own Imposter Syndrome.

So I took my own medicine. Went back into the event the next night. (I felt much better.)

I posted about my experiences in Facebook and was overwhelmed by the support I got.

Watch the video for the whole embarrassing story.

I learned a lot from this experience that I want to share.

First, it’s normal to feel like a fraud sometimes.

Second, many really successful women feel like an imposter sometimes. Having the feeling doesn’t mean you are not successful or capable of success.

And most importantly: if you feel like an imposter, know that it is not true.

Please don’t give into that feeling.

The world needs you.

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

business owners, Career Stress, confidence, decision making, EFT, entrepreneurs, growth, mental blocks, money, stress, tapping

Do You Have a Money Block?

Do you have a money block—a subconscious bit of “old programming” that gets in the way of your making, and keeping, more money?

The short answer is, if your financial situation is not where you know it could be then yes, you have a money block. (Sorry to be the bearer of bad news!)

If you want to get more specific about how your money block shows up, ask yourself:

  • Do I make less than I know I’m capable of?
  • Do I struggle to raise my rates to what others are charging, even though I’m giving as much as (or more than!) they are?
  • Does it feel like I’m on a money roller coaster, making plenty of money one month, then wondering how I’m going to pay the bills the next?
  • Does it seem like I lose any extra money as soon as I get it? [Maybe you invest it in yet another expensive program. Or an unexpected bill comes in. Or….]
  • Does it seem like I’m stuck at the same financial level, no matter what I do?

These are just some of the common ways money blocks make their presence known. 

And as long as you have a subconscious money block, it doesn’t matter how motivated you are to make more money, rein in your spending, or grow your business, you will keep holding yourself back. 

I get it. It is sooooo frustrating to have to keep doing battle with yourself, over and over again. Pouring all this energy into your business and never seeing the returns you know are within your reach! 

It doesn’t have to be this way. I’ve released all of these money blocks—and more—with clients.

So if one or more of those questions is a “yes” for you, my Money Blocks Solution is the perfect solution.

It will be starting again in the beginning of October. Just a few weeks away.

If you’re wondering if the Money Blocks Solution would be right for you, just reach out. 

Email me at Nancy@UnblockResults.com. We’ll set up a call to talk about what’s going on with you and your money and see if there’s a fit.

Wouldn’t it be great to finally stop holding yourself back?!

business owners, Career Stress, Creativity and Stress, EFT, entrepreneurs, keeping energy up, mental blocks, self-sabotage, tapping

Go On Vacation! (Yes, even now)

I know this sounds like I’m telling you to do the opposite of everything I help business owners do—get rid of what’s holding them back so they can take the right actions to break through to the next level. Make more money. Reach more people. Fulfill their purpose and change the world.

But going on vacation is essential to all of those things.

Seriously.

Let me explain.

When you find yourself wasting more and more time—reading Google headlines every 15 minutes, scrolling through Facebook, staring off into space, unable to concentrate on the task that needs to get done—you need a vacation.

When you’re stuck doing the same things in the same way, unable to come up with anything new—you need a vacation.

When you realize you haven’t truly connected with what lights you up in life for far too long (your loved ones, Nature, spirituality, a good book)—you NEED a vacation!

As business owners, we often get the message that we need to keep focused, follow through on our priorities, do what it takes to grow our business. And I get how important that is. How you often need to push yourself to achieve the type of business you can see in your mind. How scary it can be to realize you’re letting opportunities slip through your fingers because you’re not taking action.

But you can go too far by pushing yourself to do more and more without a break. That will actually make it harder to get to the next level.

Watch the video to see why.

A real vacation (which means getting completely away from your business, ideally for two weeks) gives you a number of benefits that help you AND your business. Some of the biggies in my book are:

  • You get real rest, so you come back with renewed energy and enthusiasm for the work of finding and helping your people.
  • You get the break that your mind and body have been craving, so you don’t find yourself doing so much of the same time-wasters after your vacation that were creeping into your day before it.
  • Your creativity comes roaring back, meaning you not only come up with new ideas for what to do for your peeps, you realize new and better ways to run your business so it can grow faster.
  • You connect with what matters to you, so you remember why you are doing all this in the first place. And then you get your motivation back.

I took last week off after at least eight months of working straight through without a vacation. This week I’m finding all the positives I just listed happening for me and my business.

It’s an important reminder for me.

In fact, not taking yourself on a vacation can be a sign of one of those subconscious blocks to creating the life and business you want that I get rid of with my clients. (Hey, we teach what we most need to learn, right?)

So go on vacation. Even now in the midst of the pandemic and the economic uncertainty. There are ways to do it safely and cost-effectively.

You need it.

Your business needs it.

And, hey, if you’d like some help with that, just email me and we’ll set up a time to talk about what’s going on with you to see if there’s a fit with what I do.

business owners, Career Stress, EFT, entrepreneurs, mental blocks, procrastination, self-sabotage, stress, tapping

You Are Not Lazy!

I get it. I know how frustrating it is to just simply want to finish one thing that we start—one of our projects. One of our marketing initiatives. One of the programs we’ve bought. 

And yet, you’re afraid you’re just going to do what you always do. Start strong but then switch to something else, promising yourself that you will get back to it when you have time. You’ll finish it this time, you swear! 

But you know deep down that you won’t. Because you never do. 

It’s so frustrating!

There’s a graveyard of great projects you’ve left half-done sitting on your shelf, or in your computer, or in the back of your mind. You know that finishing even one of them will move your business up a level, bringing in more clients who need your help, and making you more money. And it would be so easy to just pick one, finish it and get it out there. 

So why don’t you?

I know what you’ve been telling yourself. “I guess I’m just lazy.”  And I want to give you a hug (and, honestly, a little shake) and tell you: 

That’s. Not. True! 

You aren’t lazy. You know it. You work really hard. You are so busy doing so many things. Someone who works as hard as you do is not lazy.

So why aren’t you doing the things that will get you what you really want? 

More clients. More money. More time to yourself. 

Instead you are stuck at the same level, hoping for those things but not making them happen. 

I’ve seen this with so many clients. They come to me so frustrated that they’ve been stuck for so long. Wondering what’s wrong with them. And they’ve started to tell themselves the story that they must be lazy. It’s the only way they can make sense of why they aren’t doing the thing that will get them what they want. 

So we get to work. We figure out what’s really happening below the surface that’s been slowing them down. (It’s never been that they’re lazy. Not once in all the clients I’ve worked with.)

We tap to release the blocks that have been holding them back. Messages they internalized long ago. Messages that went in so deep, they became “Truths” that they were compelled to live by.

And as those blocks lift, they find themselves just finishing things that before would have sat on the shelf forever. It surprises them how easy it is now.

I know that you’re capable of finishing what you start. I know that you have it in you to be somebody who feels proud of your accomplishments. Now it’s time for you to know it.

And to let it be easy.

If you’d like some help with that, I’m here. Just email me and we’ll set up a time to talk about what’s going on with you and see if there’s a fit with what I do. 

Happy Tapping!

business owners, Career Stress, entrepreneurs, Goals, Inability to Focus, keeping energy up, mental blocks, stress, Stress Relief Tips

Why You’re Procrastinating Now

If you’re procrastinating—or procrastinating more—these days, there are reasons.

I talked about those reasons in this week’s Facebook Live:

(Please be kind about my hair. This is what it does when it doesn’t get cut in waaaaaaaay too long.)

First, stress is taking a toll on everyone right now. And the energy you use to deal with your stress gets taken away from the actions you would like to be doing now, whether that’s creating an online program, cleaning out a closet, or learning a new language. Understanding this dynamic can help you take some of the pressure off yourself.

Beyond that, more than the usual amount of stress in your life “raises the bar” so that the usual ways you use to get around your procrastination simply are no longer enough.

So, if you haven’t completely gotten rid of the subconscious blocks that lead you to procrastinate (which is what I do with clients), they will definitely be more powerful now.

For these reasons, I encourage you to give yourself grace during extra stressful times like these when you aren’t getting as much done.

Also, try tapping along with the 1st of the 3 free videos you get for signing up for my newsletter. (If you haven’t done so already, get the 3-video series How to Stop Procrastinating Without Having to Push Yourself So Hard here.)

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The Science Behind Tapping

Someone recently asked me to talk about the science behind EFT/Tapping. It’s a question that doesn’t come up too often, but—being the research nerd I am—I was happy to explain what the science shows now.

Check out my new video about how Tapping works and the science behind it.

In the video I describe some of the research about Tapping and how it works. I also apply the theories to the work I do to explain how I think it makes the big changes it does for my clients.

Some of the examples I use show the changes to my clients’ blocks to allowing more money in and keeping it around. It is truly amazing for me to see the changes in my clients’ lives and their futures!

When you’re ready to create the financial life you want, email me to set up a call to talk about what’s going on with you and see if the Money Blocks BlockBuster Group is a fit for you.

Career Stress, confidence, decision making, Enthusiasm, entrepreneurs, Goals, growth, Happiness, keeping energy up, mental blocks, money, Optimism, procrastination, self image, tapping

What If Your Life Were Easy?

Over the past year I’ve noticed an interesting cause of procrastination in both my clients and myself.

Sometimes we procrastinate because it has become soooo hard to do something to reach a goal that we subconsciously decide it’s not worth trying.

And because we feel that it’s too hard to achieve our goal, we find ourselves putting off actions that could achieve that goal. Then we wonder why we’re procrastinating.

I’ve discovered a way to help both my clients and myself make things easier so we can reverse our procrastination. It’s a little woowoo, but it works!

Watch the video to find out the simple trick we’ve been using to make our goals—and even our lives—easier.

If you’re ready to stop struggling so hard to create the life you are meant to live, email me. We’ll set up a call to talk about what’s going on with you and see if I can help.

Career Stress, confidence, Fear of Interviewing, Fear of Public Speaking, Inability to Focus, Interview stress, mental blocks, procrastination, Stress Relief Tips, tapping

Procrastinating Because You’re Nervous? Use Buddha Hands.

If you procrastinate doing something because you know you’ll get anxious, try Buddha Hands.

This technique uses subtle tapping points. You can use it in any situation where you might get nervous, like

  • In an interview
  • Giving a speech, or
  • Going on a blind date.

No one will notice. And it will lower your anxiety right there. Watch the video to see how to do it.

If you want to stop procrastinating once and for all and start living the life you are meant to, email me. We’ll set up a call to talk about what’s going on with you and see if I can help.