Can You Bring Up Personal Issues With Your Business Coach?

Ever wonder if you’re allowed to bring up a personal issue with your business coach?

I suppose it depends on the coach, but in my work with business owners I’m convinced that it’s essential to work through personal stuff.

This topic came up recently while I was a guest on Lisa Arnold’s podcast.

Watch the video to hear more.

I always offer hosts a mini-session with me to experience what I do before we record the interview. Lisa decided to do her session as part of the podcast. (Gutsy!)

When I asked what she wanted to work on, up came a personal issue she hadn’t planned to address. We tapped, and she got a lot of relief and clarity.

Lisa was surprised that someone who works with business owners was willing to tap on a personal issue. In Lisa’s experience, business coaches work with clients’ business issues while life coaches work with clients’ personal issues. So what was I doing combining the two?!

As I explained, a business owner IS her business. If she is struggling with something in her personal life, it’s going to affect her business.

So any business coach who is unwilling or unable to help a client with their personal difficulties is not going to be very effective when life inevitably gets in the way of business-as-usual.

Particularly when they’re working with women business owners who have to juggle so much to keep their businesses and their family/spouse/friends/health/life running smoothly.

The bottom line here is: If your business coach draws a hard line between personal and business with you, consider whether that really is a good fit for you.

If it is, great.

If not, consider looking for someone who can work with both.

And if you’d like to explore whether working with me would be a good fit for you and your business, just hit reply. We’ll set up a time to talk.

I’ll let you know when Lisa’s podcast goes public so you can hear our conversation—and see me do some actual EFT.

In the meantime…

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

Two Steps If You’re Overwhelmed by the News Now

A friend of mine was telling me about how overwhelmed she is by what’s going on in the Ukraine now. She’s got big reasons to be upset—her company has most of its operations based in that country, and she’s working hard to get all of her people to safety.

It got me thinking about what you can do to lower your stress over what is happening there, whether or not you are directly affected by the war that is happening right now.

So I shot this video of two simple steps to take right away.

See what you can do right now to feel better

Turn off the news as much as you can—entirely if you’re really feeling triggered. My friend can’t do that, but if you’re not directly affected, you can.

If you feel guilty doing this while others are suffering, look for reputable organizations to donate to. One of my favorites is Doctors Without Borders: https://www.doctorswithoutborders.org/what-we-do/countries/ukraine

Donating to a cause like that will have a much more positive impact than just ratcheting up your stress by spending a lot of time reading the news.

Do the Zip Up regularly to shield yourself from all the emotional gunk swirling around. I teach the Zip Up to people who are strongly impacted by others’ energy and encourage them to use it at least daily. However, in times like these I notice a lot more people (including me) are feeling the negative energy around them too. To see how it’s done, watch the video.

Sending you love and light, and prayers for peace to all those affected by this war.

—Nancy

Here’s the Best Advice I Have For Business Owners

Someone asked me what’s the best advice I can give to a business owner.

It didn’t take me long to answer. It’s the advice I wish someone had given me so I wouldn’t have spent years wondering why I wasn’t making any headway with my business.

Here it is: Fix your subconscious before you try to do anything else.

Here’s why you want to change your subconscious first.

I’ve seen it over and over again—someone shells out a huge amount of money for a program that promises to teach them how to grow their business.

Then, a few weeks—or even days—in, they realize they’re stuck.

There’s nothing wrong with the program. It’s just that they’re not following through on it.

  • Not taking a specific action the program calls for,
  • Or “pulling their punch” by doing what they’re supposed to, but doing it poorly,
  • Or procrastinating in general, doing everything but the program they paid so much for.

They’re perfectly capable of following through on the program. They’re just not doing it. Or doing it slooooooowly.

Because…

Something in their subconscious got triggered.

So they’re out all that time and money with little to show for it.

But when they get rid of what is in the way first, they follow through on what will get them the business they want. Easily.

(Even entrepreneurs who seem to have it all together struggle with this. I know because I’ve worked with some. They come in doing well, but knowing they could do better. Once we start releasing subconscious blocks they start hitting their bigger goals.)

If any of this sounds like you, I want you to know it doesn’t mean you’re a bad business owner.

It doesn’t mean you’re broken.

It doesn’t mean the Universe is trying to give you a message that you’re not meant for that kind of success.

It just means you have something in your subconscious that has been getting triggered when you go after your goals. And you can change that.

Please find a way to clear out your subconscious.

Whether with me or with someone else.

Whether through Tapping or another modality.

Change your subconscious.

Do it before you spend a lot of time and money on something you can’t bring yourself to follow through on.

The world needs you to step up in a bigger way but…

You can’t do that when your subconscious is holding you back.

(By the way, in the video I talk about the next MVP Club for women leaders who know they’re meant for more. I’m afraid it’s all sold out now. But there’ll be another one—promise. I’ll tell you more in a bit.)

Until next time…

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

My Session with a Master Sales Coach

I have something a little different to share with you this week—an on-air coaching session with my sales mentor, the incredible Nikki Rausch (a/k/a The Sales Maven), that we recorded for her podcast.

I talk a little about my background and how my life experiences and my desire to change people’s lives for the better led me to where I am today: getting rid of people’s subconscious blocks, especially for women and women entrepreneurs.

I also talk about the origin of my MVP (Mindset, Visiblity, and Profitability) solution for getting rid of blocks and the MVP Club I host.

And all of this is part of a great 1:1 sales coaching session.

Please listen-in on our conversation:

(You can also visit the page for my episode of Nikki’s podcast here.)

You’ll hear me talk a bit about the results my clients get, different ways I work, and about the MVP Club itself—small groups of women entrepreneurs and leaders in which we release what holds them back from their bigger vision using Tapping.

Then you’ll get Nikki’s great suggestions for filling small group programs like the MVP Club.

Nikki’s podcasts—and trainings, and books, and workshops, and give-aways—are always full of useful information on ways to sell without ending up feeling covered in slime.

Instead, she teaches how to sell as a service to others, always keeping your relationships with them the priority.

When you talk with her on Zoom, or meet with her in person (I’ve done both), you experience how truly genuine Nikki is. Even when you know that she has her selling hat on, you know that you are important to her, that she cares about you as a person.

And that’s the approach she teaches.

I belong to Nikki’s Sales Maven Society and have been privately coached by her. I highly recommend working with her, or at least signing up for her weekly emails.

Just know, if you do work with Nikki I won’t get anything except the satisfaction of helping you find an amazing resource for learning to sell.

And yes, I’ll be implementing what Nikki recommended when I open my next MVP Club in the fall.

Happy Tapping!
—Nancy

How Does EFT/Tapping Work?

One of the most common questions I’m asked about EFT/Tapping is “How does it work?”

For the full answer, watch my video.

Here’s my abbreviated answer.

For a long time my answer was two-fold. First, I’d say no one really knows how it works, but I don’t care because I know it does and there’s research that shows it is effective.

Second, there was research that showed acupuncture and acupressure, which use the same points as Tapping, send a message of safety and calm to the amygdala in the brain that interrupts old connections there that trigger emotional responses.

The research has advanced since then. Now it tells us:

• Tapping leads to the downregulation of the amygdala, including a measurable lowering of the stress hormone cortisol. (Kinda the same thing I was saying in the past about that message of safety and calm, but in a more academic tone.)

• The results hold after we stop tapping because of Memory Reconsolidation, a way to permanently change the emotional component of a traumatic memory.

This explains why Tapping is a great way to release Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and phobias, but it still doesn’t exactly explain why MY tapping works.

Watch the video for my best guess on why Tapping works on success blocks like clients’ money ceilings.

When releasing subconscious success blocks, I rarely work directly with specific memories anymore. Many of these blocks come from multiple messages and years of experiences in childhood, many of which were not traumatic.

Plus, I’ve found—and created—faster Tapping techniques to effectively and permanently release success blocks than going through memories, one after the other, to get rid of all their emotional content.

So, while I believe I am using Tapping to send the message of safety and calm to the amygdala (i.e., “downregulating” it), I don’t know that I’m doing “Memory Reconsolidation” to make the changes permanent.

I’m guessing that there is some sort of Memory Reconsolidation for ideas that’s happening in the brain.

So I’m back to saying Tapping works on my clients’ subconscious success blocks. I don’t really know how, but I know that it does.

I’ll have to wait for the research to catch up to me to explain it all with hard science.

Hope that was interesting.

Until next time . . .

Happy Tapping!

—Nancy

What To Do When Your New Year’s Resolutions Fail

Yep. It’s that time again.

Time to make your New Year’s resolutions. Maybe you plan to . . .

  • Finish that training you bought
  • Create your on-line course
  • Network more
  • Whatever it takes to grow your business to the next level.

You’re going to do it this time Right?!

And you start out strong. But then, in six months—Or six weeks. Or six days. Or six hours!—you find you’ve given up.

(Been there. Done that. Gave up on resolutions completely for awhile.)

But why? Why do we give up when it’s so important to us?

Well, what I’ve seen over and over again is that when your resolution goes against something in your subconscious—even if your subconscious is being irrational, illogical, or just plain stupid—your subconscious always wins.

No amount of willpower can push past your subconscious for long.

It just wears you down until you give up.

Three types of subconscious blocks I’ve seen a lot of are:

  • A belief that you need to do (or avoid) something to stay safe.
  • Others’ limiting expectations of you.
  • Seeing yourself in a limiting way. (Check out the video for examples of what each of these looks like.)

So what do you do if you can’t seem to follow through on your resolution?

Well, the fastest way to change I know of is to uncover your subconscious block and tap to release it.

If you don’t know how to do that (or you don’t have a tapping practitioner to work with), what I’d suggest is to create a daily tapping practice with your resolution. Here’s how:

  • Set aside at least 5 minutes every morning.
  • During that 5 minutes, visualize yourself taking the action you’ve resolved to take AND getting the results you want.
  • (And, most importantly) Tap while you visualize.

Tapping whittles away at the underlying fear, limiting belief, or whatever.

So it gets easier to follow through on your resolution and, eventually, create the “new you.” And new and improved business.

No willpower required.

Happy New Year and Happy Tapping!
—Nancy

Join My Tapping Circle for Pandemic Stress

Come to my online Tapping Circle to release stress and overwhelm caused by the coronavirus pandemic for four Fridays starting March 27th, 2020. It’s free to anyone over 18. 

You might be reacting to stress from the news and changes in your community, work and home from the pandemic in different ways, like

  • Feeling overwhelming emotions,
  • Being unable to think clearly or take action, or
  • Having your body react with tension and even debilitating pain.

If you are reacting in any way that is not working for you, know that you don’t have to be stuck feeling and thinking like this. Tapping is a great way to release stress and get moving again. In this Facebook Live I recorded, I explain all about the Tapping Circle and how it works:

You can get more details for the Tapping Circle, including how to attend it online, at https://unblockresults.com/tappingcircle/ 

That page includes two additional videos. The first one teaches you the mechanics of tapping so you’re ready to tap along in the Tapping Circle, together with a tap-along for basic stress that you can use anytime you feel stressed. The second video shows you an easy move you can do now to avoid getting overwhelmed by the energy of everyone around you, which has been pretty intense in the past few weeks.

Come for just one, or two, or as many circles as you can.

The Science Behind Tapping

Someone recently asked me to talk about the science behind EFT/Tapping. It’s a question that doesn’t come up too often, but—being the research nerd I am—I was happy to explain what the science shows now.

Check out my new video about how Tapping works and the science behind it.

In the video I describe some of the research about Tapping and how it works. I also apply the theories to the work I do to explain how I think it makes the big changes it does for my clients.

Some of the examples I use show the changes to my clients’ blocks to allowing more money in and keeping it around. It is truly amazing for me to see the changes in my clients’ lives and their futures!

When you’re ready to create the financial life you want, email me to set up a call to talk about what’s going on with you and see if the Money Blocks BlockBuster Group is a fit for you.

Try out Tapping with me next week!

Next week you can try out some tapping with me. On Thursday, May 9th, at 10 am Pacific time/1 pm eastern, I’ll be the guest on a no-cost Zoom meeting, “Tapping to Free the Writer Within,” hosted by Ginger Moran, a published and award-winning writer and teacher who coaches people with a book bottled up inside who want to get it out.

I’ll be talking about using Tapping to release your creativity. We’ll do some actual Tapping to stop procrastinating and start taking action. And what we talk and tap on will be useful for any creative activity where you feel blocked, so don’t worry if you don’t have a novel you’re working on.

Register for the call here.

How to Tap—on one page! We’ll tap together on the call.

At the end of the call, you’ll also get access to a 3-part video series in which I teach you how to use Tapping to stop procrastinating, reduce your fear of getting outside your comfort zone, and break through money ceilings. So don’t miss this call.

When Brain Fog Descends

Here’s a fun way procrastination can show up:

  • You can’t think clearly,
  • You feel like you’re head is full of fluffy cotton,
  • You’re brain seems like it is set on “slow,”
  • Brain fog.

You know that feeling like you just can’t think, can’t make decisions, can’t get anything done? It’s actually a solution.

Watch the video to find out how brain fog can possibly be a solution to anything—and what to do if it’s not the solution you want anymore.

When you’re ready to clear away your brain fog, stop procrastinating, and create the life you are meant to live, email me. We’ll set up a call to talk about what’s going on with you and see if I can help.