Perfectionism is a block many people have that masquerades as a positive attribute. We often think that the drive to be perfect in what we do and who we are pushes us to achieve more in our work. It does, to a certain extent. More often, though, it slows us down or even keeps us … Continue reading A Simple Way to Escape the Perfectionism Trap
In the past three weeks I’ve described three techniques you can use to get past garden-variety procrastination that is holding you back. The first is to make it more difficult to do your usual time-wasters. The second is to make it physically easier to start working on a project you have been avoiding. And the … Continue reading Putting It All Together—Three Easy Steps to Create a Good Habit
I love helping clients uncover and get rid of those internal blocks to their success that go very deep. It isn’t always easy, but it can be pure joy to start with, say, what they have been doing to sabotage themselves, follow it back all the way to its source and get rid of it. … Continue reading Make Fewer Choices, Get More Results
Sometimes the reason someone procrastinates is a deep-seated block that takes serious effort to root out. This is where I earn my nickel with clients who come to me to get past blocks. But sometimes we procrastinate because our brains are hardwired to choose activities that are easy and convenient over those that take more effort. … Continue reading The Easy Way to End Procrastination
Many internal blocks to business or career success go deep. It can take some serious detective work to root out the causes of some blocks, like: a persistent pattern of sabotaging your own performance after you've made a strong start in a new job; failing to close customers despite catching their interest; freezing up when … Continue reading Avoid Procrastination: Make It Harder To Waste Time
In last week's tip I explained how we go into a fight or flight reaction when we perceive a threat and our brains' higher functioning begins to shut down, whether that threat is an attacking grizzly bear, an angry boss, or even the economic news. The longer we perceive the threat, the less of our … Continue reading Relax Your Body To Access Your Brain Under Stress: 3 Techniques
Last week I went to a two-day training for therapists (I’m both a therapist and a coach) about how to treat trauma and PTSD. I was pleased to discover some useful information that also works for people who are not dealing with major trauma in their lives. Today’s tip is the first of two important … Continue reading Too Much News Makes You Stupid: Turn It Off!
One of my clients, “Angie,” is making an important presentation this week. It's high profile, and she would like to impress a number of higher-ups in her company who are attending. This is a great opportunity, and it comes with a lot of stress. Now I know Angie. She will come through this experience with … Continue reading The Best Way to Prepare for a High-Pressure Event
While you are going through your workday, how do you think about yourself? Do you think things like “Yes! I am so good at this. I’ve really got what it takes to succeed here!” Or is it more like “Who am I kidding? How did I ever think I could pull this off?!” Let’s really … Continue reading Your Negative Self-Talk Is Slowing You Down—Change It!
I want to share a technique that I use with many of my clients to get rid of all sorts of blocks to their success. The technique is called EFT, or simply “tapping”, and it’s growing in popularity, is being used around the world, and the number of studies documenting its effectiveness is mounting. Really, … Continue reading Lower your stress, with just two fingers