Old patriarchal rules have been showing up in my MVP clients’ subconscious, mucking up their Visibility.
How? Let me ‘splain.
In the MVP Framework I use, Visibility (the “V” in MVP) is about getting in front of a bigger audience, whether through your writing, videos, in-person speaking, or any way you reach the people you’re here for.
Patriarchal muck limiting our Visibility has seeped deep into the subconscious of many women. Even the most successful ones!
Watch to get details on some of the worst patriarchal rules for visibility and where they can come from.
This old patriarchal slime can show up in a number of ways, perhaps sounding like “No one wants to hear what I have to say.”
If you catch yourself muttering something like that to yourself, you might have internalized this slam to your ego when:
- Your raised hand was passed over at school in favor of a boy’s. Over and over again.
- Or you were regularly talked over at work.
- Or your ideas were ignored until a male colleague put them forward as his own, when suddenly they were accepted by the boss as pure brilliance.
- Or maybe, like many of us, your mother gave you the message to not speak up or stand out. She probably did it to keep you safe, but still .…
And even though the crud no longer serves you (if it ever did), there it is in your subconscious, getting triggered whenever you risk being seen in a much bigger way.
Another old bit of patriarchal sludge a lot of women have is “It’s not safe to be seen.”
One client had a nasty example of this.
She’s amazing and has something big to get out in the world, something that’s going to change lives.
But she was dragging her feet getting her program out there.
When we went digging for reasons why, up popped a co-worker from an early job.
This jack@$$ made crude comments about her. Followed her around, leering at her. Acted as if he had a right to treat her any way he wanted.
Ever since then, her subconscious has made her hesitant to stand out. To speak up. To be noticed.
It was afraid she’d attract another jerk.
(Just so you know, this has happened to quite a few of my clients. And friends. And relations. Sigh.)
So in one session we tapped on that experience. Now she’s marketing with enthusiasm, excited about all the attention she’s going to get when she gets her program out in the world.
Does any of this sound like you? Do you find yourself reluctant to get out there and be seen in a bigger way?
Maybe it really IS the patriarchy!
And it’s time to change it.
Hit “Reply.” Let’s set up a time to talk about what’s going on with you and how we might change it.