Are you holding your business back?
Maybe it’s due to an outdated patriarchal rule rattling around in your subconscious.
Last week I talked about how internalized patriarchal rules have been slowing down the truly amazing women in my MVP Clubs.
Today I want to go a bit deeper on how some of those patriarchal rules have shown up in the Mindset area.
Mindset (The “M” in “MVP Club”) is the ability to see yourself as a leader, a real force in the world.
Watch the video to hear about how patriarchal Mindset blocks show up:
There are a number of blocks that might get triggered when you start to see yourself as a bigger leader which often come from patriarchal rules.
These patriarchal Mindset blocks can sound like:
- “Who am I to …” want a bigger business / think I have anything to offer / believe people should work with me.
- “I’m not allowed to be more successful”
- “I have to do everything myself.”
(Any of those sound familiar?!)
One of my clients was really ready to hire a bigger team. She was burning the candle at both ends trying to do all the things in her business while still spending time with her husband and caring for her young kids.
She was exhausted.
She knew she needed to hire more people to grow, not just to meet the vision she had for her business but to get some time back for herself.
So why wasn’t she?
Well, she had a ton of reasons, like:
- “I don’t have the time to train them.”
- “What if I have to fire a new hire and start over? I’ll lose even more time.”
- And “Nobody can do what I do as well as I do it.”
Realizing these “reasons” were excuses, she pushed herself to hire a couple of people. But that took all the energy she had.
And it wasn’t enough.
When we went looking for the subconscious success blocks getting in the way of hiring more people, what came up was a perfect gem from the old patriarchal regime—
“I have to make everyone happy.”
This is something that girls have been taught for generations is our job.
In some ways, it was the way we gained power. Keep others happy—especially men—so we would be necessary to them and they’d want to take care of us.
It was a brilliant strategy when power dynamics left us very few options.
But now that times have changed—when we can hold decent jobs and even run our own businesses—the old expectation that we’ll keep everyone around us happy is a real burden.
Look at my client.
According to her subconscious, the more people she hired, the more people she had to keep happy.
That’s a lot of emotional work. And she already had more than enough people to keep happy, thank you very much!
So we tapped and released the block.
Within a few weeks she hired more team members and got some time back for herself.
It was that easy.
So do you find yourself reluctant to hire someone? Or do you hold your business back in another area?
Let’s talk about what’s really going on with you—whether it’s an internalized patriarchal rule or some other subconscious success block. Just hit “reply” to this email and we’ll set up a time to chat.
Until then…
Happy Tapping!
—Nancy
