In working with the women in my MVP Clubs to release their subconscious blocks, I’ve been uncovering something I never expected to find in 2021.
At least not to the extent I’ve been seeing it.
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These are really amazing women: speakers, writers, consultants, artists, financial advisors, coaches and more. Women who are solos and women running teams. Women who keep going despite struggling financially at times and women who make multiple six figures consistently.
No matter what they are doing or where they are in their journey, they feel called to do more. Have more. Be more. Have a bigger impact.
And along the way they’ve been slowed down by their number one nemesis.
More specifically, by their subconscious.
And what’s been coming up a lot lately in our sessions has been a thread that I frankly didn’t expect to see.
At least, I didn’t expect to see it in these accomplished, intelligent, highly educated, capable and successful women.
What we’ve been uncovering is a deep strain of patriarchal rules holding them back.
- “I can’t be more successful than the men in my life.”
- “Women can’t be leaders.”
- “I’m supposed to be taken care of by a man.”
- “I should defer to a man.”
- “Men make better decisions.”
- “Men are smarter—or more effective—or better than women.”
And on and on.
Don’t get me wrong! None of these women accept any of these ideas consciously.
Consciously, we all say “F*** the Patriarchy” with conviction. (We actually have fun saying that in the group. Especially with conviction!)
Consciously we can and do reject these patriarchal ideas.
But when we go digging for the reasons someone has been holding herself back from growing her team, or raising her rates, or reaching out to that potential partner, or moving forward with the next project, up come some of these old chestnuts that most of us consciously rejected long ago.
Then we tap to neutralize them so they can’t do any more damage.
If you wonder if you might have some of those patriarchal messages rattling around in your subconscious, ask yourself:
- What messages did you get growing up about the differences between men and women?
- Which of those messages did you laugh about when you got older?
- Or get mad at?
- Or vehemently dismiss, saying “Not me. NEVER me.”
You’d be surprised at how many of those found your way into your subconscious.
Where they may be holding you back.
Here’s the trick. If they are in your subconscious, you probably still get a bit… irked when you think of them. That’s how you know they’re still there.
Really, if you react with anything other than a light-hearted chuckle, they are probably having some kind of effect on you.
Slowing you down.
Like they’d been slowing down my MVP-ers. At least, before we tapped and released them.
So I’m curious. What was the message about men and women you heard most growing up? Drop me an email to let me know!