Imposter Syndrome (that feeling that you’re not as capable as others see you) really seems to hold women back more than men.
Why should that be?
Well, I have some theories.
Watch the video for the full exploration of why women seem to struggle with Imposter Syndrome more than men—
where it comes from and why it’s so persistent.
From my own experience with clients, I’ve seen it come from personal experiences:
- There was the client whose parents made it clear she was not supposed to outshine her brother.
- Then there were the clients who created their own businesses after being passed over for promotion in favor of men one too many times.
- And far too often, there was the implicit message (especially from their mothers) that they should not speak up, be seen, or stand out, that led them to doubt themselves.
There’s also the messages we’ve all gotten from growing up seeing boys and men in leadership roles in schools, sports, TV and movies, companies, government….
Well, you get the idea.
And all of these experiences set us women up to doubt ourselves, hold ourselves back, and step aside to let men do the leading.
That has to stop.
We need women to lead now more than ever.
(Look, I love men and happily work with some wonderful men who are doing important work in their lives and the world. But this message is for women.)
It’s time to step back from the competitive, Us v. Them, Win/Lose approaches that have brought so much suffering and limitation.
And I think women leaders are the answer.
So when you feel like you are called to do something bigger in the world, but you hold yourself back because you feel like you’re not good enough to do that, or someone else would be better, or “they’d find out you were a fraud” if you tried . . .
Don’t listen to that feeling.
It’s just a young part of you that learned that you were supposed to stay small so you’d be safe.
Staying small won’t really keep you safe. (You know that.)
It sure as hell won’t bring about the change that you are called to make in the world.
That only you can make!
And if your Imposter Syndrome is particularly loud and hard to ignore, tap on its messages. They aren’t true, and Tapping can help you realize that.
Because we need you to show up fully in the world, being the you that you are truly meant to be.